Chances of getting pregnant at 50

[hitandmist]

I didn’t really know where to put this thread so I may post in a couple of topics
I am 50 and perimenopausal. I still have periods although they’ve become very irregular since starting HRT 6 months ago.
I have been seeing someone casually for a couple of months. We don’t use protection. We probably have sex 4 times a month. We did discuss protection at the start and I decided I was happy to go without.
He’s now saying he’s worried about me getting pregnant. I really think this is unlikely although not impossible. I really don’t want to start using condoms. I don’t want to use other forms of birth control as they completely mess me up.
What would you do in this situation?

Pull out method
prepare for an abortion or childbirth beign a possibility

Consider having yourself sterilised with keyhole surgery?

.........I typed and deleted too many draft suggestions. Hope it all works out for you.

Incredibly rare but not impossible. I think there are NHS guidelines on when you can stop contraception.

Presumably he's of a similar age and not wanting to become a father (to your child or anyone's) maybe he should have a vasectomy

It’s pretty unlikely but if he is worried then he will need to pull out to reduce the risk!

The chances of getting pregnant at 50 are under 1% per cycle (compared to 25% in your 20s).

So unlikely. I’d carry on.
The first thought that came to my mind above pregnancy was STI. Could he be seeing someone else as well and worries about catching & passing on something. Seems much more likely than getting you pregnant at 50.

Yes I do think the pull out method would be best although I am irritated as it just seems so unnecessary

I’ve shown him so many statistics about the likelihood of getting pregnant at my age but he’s still worried

So in the two months you’ve been known each other, you’ve already been tested for STIs and shared results? I find that hard to believe.

getting pregnant isn’t the worst thing that could happen here.

I suppose he could be seeing someone else, but that’s not what I think is going on

@JustTalkToThemyou have no idea about our histories so stop making things up 😂

What is your reluctance about using condoms?? Never mind a baby…do you want an STI? My mind boggles at this! 🤦‍♀️😵‍💫

I agree with PP, STIs are the bigger risk, although the NHS says contraception is necessary until 55, or 1 year after your last period, whichever is earlier.

In practice I don't think there's much of a chance that you'd have a baby, but you could experience an unsuccessful pregnancy and all the trauma that goes with that.

I’ve seen several posts here recently with women a similar age having an accidental pregnancy. I think the chances of a successful to term pregnancy are slim, but pregnancy itself is still a possibility - someone said it can be more common than you think with the surge of hormones and irregular ovulation during perimenopause. NHS guidance is to use contraception until 55, or for 1-2 years after your final period.

Even if you were both virgins when you first slept together, Or even if you were both HIV+ when you met, STIs are still a concern.
But ok….

Let’s keep this about pregnancy shall we? That’s what I’ve asked about.
The thought of an unsuccessful pregnancy has crossed my mind tbh

My next door neighbour is pregnant with a very unexpected 4th baby at almost 49. Her older children are 17, 13 and 12.

What's your objection to condoms? For me, they're a far more satisfactory option than the pull out method, just in the moment, let alone as a contraceptive method.

I have a friend who had her 6th baby at 49 naturally. She thought she was going through the menopause initially.

I personally feel like condoms interrupt the moment and just don’t feel as good. I think we the chances being so low I’d prefer to go with the pull out method

Fuck how on earth do you look after your sexual health? Are you not concerned about herpes, HIV, gonorrhoea and the likes? STI’s really do not discriminate against your age like pregnancy does.

Could you use a spermicide? A gel or lube? That would give extra protection.

I mean anecdotal stuff is interesting but it doesn’t really make a difference. The facts are, although not impossible, it’s incredibly rare to get pregnant at 50