Friend crossing boundary with husband?

[xxCharlottexx]

I’m looking for opinions and advice please xx

So I’ve recently got back in touch with an old friend after falling out for 7/8 years, Literaly not speaking at all. She’s recently split from her husband and is living back at home with their 4 children. She’s the 1 who reached out.

She’s been round the house a fair few times recently and she seemed to hit it off with my husband quite well. They’re both ‘gym goers’ so that seems to be their common interest.

Anyway, now it seems like she’s messaging him a lot privately on social media. It was just memes to start with, but now she’s constantly asking for ‘gym advice’, ‘what to eat, what exercises to do’ etc.

I’ve seen the messages and they are quite flirty, little love heart emojis, kisses etc. It seems fine from my husbands end as his messages are quite blunt, and sometimes even ignores them when she’s trying to carry on the conversation. She likes every post / story he puts up and comments privately on them.

I feel it’s a little bit much, but I don’t know whether I’m just being paranoid or not? My husband says he’s just being polite by messaging back.

We recently had a night out in town where my husband a few friends met us later in the night. She was taking loads of photos of them both together ( we both agreed it was a bit weird ) and then sent like 10 photos to him privately the next day. It Literaly looked like they were a couple as she had her arm round him with the biggest smile on her face.

I haven’t seen her in person since then and I’ve deliberately said I’ve been busy to avoid meeting her. But i obviously can’t ignore her forever. Should I just tell her that I feel it’s crossing my boundary as a friend? Or maybe just go for the cowards way out and get my husband to block her, then pretend he deleted his account. I really don’t like confrontation but feel I should say something.

But i obviously can’t ignore her forever.

You can and you should. She’s being weird and inappropriate. Ghost.

Doesn't sound like much of a friend! She is totally after your husband.

This. AND your DH needs to ghost her entirely, OP.

You know what she’s up to, bin her off pronto.

Don't lower yourself to contacting her.
You know nothing will come of this. Your husband isn't interested in that.
She's probably just one of those who acts like that with all men.
Don't worry yourself about it but certainly d8stance yourself from the friendship with her. She's clearly not your friend if she can be so disrespectful.
I can see why you are annoyed but messaging her or reacting in any way is just going to feed into it as she obviously thrives off attention

So my husband was a little drunk when she was taking the photos. Not that it’s an excuse for him. Literaly like 8 of them are the same and there’s a couple of others. She also put up 2 stories with just them in the photo which I thought was very weird. Oh and then she went on to tell me her mum finds my husband attractive and was talking about how muscly etc he was.

Erm, this person is not your friend. At all.

Grow a spine and drop her like a hot brick! She isn't your friend.

Your husband needs to put a stop to this - unless he’s enjoying the ego boost…

Honestly just block and delete!
shecis not a mate and is obviously only seeing you to talk to your husband.
you both need to be singing from the same hymn sheet with this

Why would you put up with this? You managed without her for 7 years, I’m not sure what you think will be different about your friendship this time. Both you and your husband should cut contact. Tbh if my husband knew how I felt about this he wouldn’t be engaging anymore anyway.

But you were there, you could have intervened and protected the poor defenceless soul.

Make a New Year’s resolution to deal with conflict. If you and your DH had shut this down ages ago it wouldn't have escalated to this level.

Trust your gut it doesn't let you down, drop her as soon as you can, she's after him.

I don't like the sound of this at all.

Have a talk with your husband and raise your concerns.

Oh ffs. Both you and DH block her on everything. If she comes to the door, don't answer. Sorted

You don’t need this woman in your life. If you managed without her for 8 years you can again. I would nc her out again. She is not a friend at all.

You obviously CAN ignore her forever. Nightmare 'friend'

Sounds like you need to tell your DH to stop replying. He needs to make it clear he's not interested. She doesn't sound like much of a friend to be honest!

She doesn't respect you at all. I would get rid!

It doesn't really matter what you do, it matters what your husband does. And what he should do is cut this off, firmly. If he doesn't, you have a problem.

Both of you need to drop her and block her. You need to cut this thing off. She is massively disrespectful of you. She’s no friend. Your husband needs to man up too and get rid of her. No more texts. You managed to drop her for ten years and now is the time to do it again, but for good.

This is not how true friends behave. She is trying to fuck your husband and not even trying to hide it.

Get rid.

Men love to help.

Help pretty women. Not men their own age.

I’d focus on what your h’s responses are. He’s the weak link.