OLD. My goodness grief.

[Joewessex]

Evening evening and I hope you all had a nice Easter weekend.

if possible, I’d like to get a perspective of OLD from women.

if I’m honest, I find it hideous. Hideous in that it’s soul destroying. Whilst that sounds dramatic, I’m at my wits end wondering what I’m doing wrong.

Match after match and lots of silence. I don’t get why people are on it.

I thought I was a handsome guy, I’m definitely fit as I gym enough to have a body to show for it but I’m thinking something is wrong with my approach. I’m 47, no kids (I can’t have them) and I’ve been single 18 months. I’ve had a dozen dates but it just feels flat. One was quite amazing but she announced she was still married and with her ex at the date.

Im educated, dress well and have the usual stuff like my own home and a decent career. But finding a partner seems to be impossible nowadays. It used to be fun.

I do get out and about as I kayak, row, gym, climb and paddleboard etc but nothing comes of things nowadays. I’m a little bit shy so my confidence isn’t all there all the time but I soon warm up.

Any advice?

thank you ☺️

There's a dating thread on here??!

Quick work!

Op (through gritted teeth ) happy for ya 😁😬

as a woman I’m bitter - I can’t lie - as if I re-did my profile best id get would be a few dick pics , an ‘are you shaved’ , ‘when did u last cum’ and a few 20 years olds

anyway !
have fun 🤩

She’s lovely, a bit younger than I thought I’d match with but she has odd table manners (doesn’t put her knife and fork together when she’s finished etc)

Fuck me.

I know you expanded to say she chewed with her mouth open and spat (spat? While talking or just spat on the street or ..?!) but the cutlery thing; I'm so absent minded at the best of times, let alone while nervous and trying to make a connection on a date, I'd do something like that easily. I think you do need to allow for nerves and distraction on the earliest dates.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4745526-dating-thread-239-spring-fling

This one

Just read your thread Op & seen your update. Great news and hope it goes well on Saturday!

Your communication style in this thread is very different than in your profile.

That profile sounds too much like you just trying to say the things you think women want to hear rather than just saying what you want to say.