How long before you sleep together?

[ThisIsaNiceDress]

What’s the accepted timeline nowadays when you are actually serious about someone? 😂

Lol it’s not what I said tho is it - I said anyone I’ve ever been serious about I slept with when we first met or on our first date. Obviously you don’t know where something is going to go (as far as I’m concerned all sex is no strings unless it’s your wedding night). It’s like anything, if you like someone you stick around and see where it goes.

And obviously I know how each of those encounters turned out because I went on to live the tale so I can use my powers of hindsight to tell you that these did indeed become LTRs.

If you don’t get it I think you just have to accept that and move on. You may not realise it but you’re being rude to be honest!

They have a Dadsnet so I really wish the men portraying to be women on here would knock it off and leave us women to chat among ourselves. Its just so damn creepy like they are just sad, pervy and basically just pathetic. They should be embarrassed. They are easy to suss out and I'm happy to report them if I come across my gut instinct it's clearly a bloke! I was shocked though the high percentage of them on here though!

First date with my husband. Ex before that we knew each other for a while before but I slept with him and we got together the next day.

There always a risk you won't hear from them again, but they're likely to do that after a few weeks if they were that way inclined anyway.

Date four, but we had spent six hours (of date three) the previous night snogging and dry humping the living daylights out of each other on my sofa. You’d have believed that the future of the human race depended on it. Date four, the following night was planned rapidly, and to the credit of us both, we did go out for a Wagamamas first, and then came back to mine, snogged again, and at that point we could n

*not have resisted even if the human race had depended on it. I’d have let you all perish.

Why was sex only available based on his seriousness? Is sex currency to you? Don’t you enjoy it yourself? Just use it to purchase affection and the good will of men? Sounds rather transactional.

The PP has said what worked for her.

This thread is about people's opinions.

Just because her viewpoint is different to yours doesn't mean she should be pilloried for it.

It is and they always show up in any thread about sex.

It's wishful thinking all these men posting, these women throwing themselves at randoms and orgasming in 10 seconds.

Totally depends how you feel. I met my husband and I just knew. I think I resisted first and second date, then couldn’t 😂 x

Yup.

A lot of men posting who have watched too much porn 😃

After we got married. :)

I met my now DH in September, dated from December, had sex in April, proposed in August, Married the year after.

Knew him 3.5years, no hint of getting together, then one drunk night and bam. Together 24 years.

Classic third date so three weeks. I was 19 and I met him in the University refectory queue. We were married shortly after graduating and have been together 20 years. If I ever did one thing right , that was to marry the right man.

‘Throwing themselves at randoms’?..?!

Ironic given you’re complaining about all the supposed men on here that your comment is so regressive and sexist.

This. Just check the relationships board even here on MN of disappointed /confused women who have been ghosted after sex on the first date . I’d say those who end up married /in long term relationships are more the exception than the norm.

It’s also nice to know your relationship is based on more than lust and I feel some people especially women don’t think clearly once they’ve had sex and their judgement can be clouded. Not every woman is like that but many are.

We'd been talking online for several months , then I flew to his city, he met me at the airport, we went to a hotel and stayed there for 5 days without leaving. Lived on room service. We've been together for 20 years, married for 15.

1st husband 2nd date at 21. Married 22 years.

Current partner second date. He also knew he'd marry me after that date when we were sitting across from eachother in the restaurant holding hands. Sex is important to me. My first marriage it was awful, not ever living with bad sex again.

I want it often and with someone who knows what they are doing. Thankfully I hit the jackpot. 💓

Very telling that the posters saying only men would claim woman didn't wait and have orgasms also happen to post in the middle of the night 😆

Of course a lot of dates lead to nowhere, regardless of whether sex was involved - but as another poster said, if you're ok with it then it's fine.

When I slept with my husband I had no expectation of us getting married, c'mon, that would be creepy. If he never called me back after, I'd be upset to the extent that I fancied him, but it would have been the rejection and not the fact that we've had sex.

No orgasm with first time sex, means no second sex for me tbh. As someone else says don't you want to test drive ?

I enjoy it when I feel loved and valued. I enjoy it when I’ve got to know the man and like him for more than just his appearance. Having sex with virtual strangers holds no appeal at all.

Not really, I've slept with women on the day and the day after. Plenty of orgasms, and physical connections. Some lasted weeks and my ex-girlfriend and I still have an intense physical relationship, even up to the day of leaving (3 Plus yrs).
But no dice going forward I'm afraid.

There’s no prescribed timeline. Do it when it feels right for you.

If anything ‘serious’ was going to come of it (and that’s what you want) having sex is hardly going to put him off is it.

Seems like a v old-fashioned idea – from an age when having sex as a woman supposedly meant you were a slut or a slag and somehow devalued you in some way. I’ve literally never encountered this attitude from anyone I’ve slept with and if they were harbouring those sorts of weirdo ideas it’s really unlikely they’d be someone I’d be interested in or drawn to anyway. It’d hardly be a great loss!

If you know you would feel bad about having sex if it didn’t lead to something (ie you don’t like casual sex) then maybe best wait.

What are you worried might happen if you had sex ‘too soon’?

@PaintedEgg Very telling that the posters saying only men would claim woman didn't wait and have orgasms also happen to post in the middle of the night 😆

I'm not sure exactly what it does 'tell'.

Please enlighten us.

I work anti-social hours which is common in my industry, so I don't know what that has to do with anything, except that I am awake when many are asleep.🤔