How long before you sleep together?

[ThisIsaNiceDress]

What’s the accepted timeline nowadays when you are actually serious about someone? 😂

Been with mine 25 years , first night for us and he was only the 2nd one .

@SwordToFlamethrower
My story is identical to yours - we chatted online for a few weeks, met for a date, slept together that night and we're still together 13 years later. 😊

Whenever feels right, don't overthink it. For DH and me it was about an hour after 'getting together' (but I knew him as an aquaintance previously, he wasn't a total stranger). That was 34 happy years ago now, it just felt right, didn't plan it that way.

Shagged him on the first date. But I knew him already.

And to whoever asked. Sex was the best I've ever had, yes I orgasmed and it continues to be amazing

Also. Just be aware. Not everyone posting here is female. I am. But I'm (as my user name suggests) definitely not a girl.

I honestly can't remember more than a week, less than a month I think. Have done it with others on the first or second night. Not helpful.

Quite quickly if I really liked someone. So I could gauge whether or not they were a selfish lover. Within the first month.

I often sleep with men on the first date, maybe not full on sex but at least oral or something. XH of 14 years was a holiday fling that stuck. XP of 9 years we ended up back at mine very drunk and he got a BJ.

Most recent BF we didn’t get jiggy for a couple of dates although had some great kisses. He asked me to be official and deleted all apps, but then when we started getting physical it didn’t really do it for me when he kissed me, and I didn’t feel that pull toward him.

Guy I’m meeting next week I’ve already orgasmed literally from just looking at his photo! Not planning sex on date one purely to try and pretend I’m ladylike, and as it’s a restaurant, but I’ve been thinking about it a lot and there’s a hotel next door! It won’t be more than 2 more dates away I’m sure.

Any man who doesn’t want to have a relationship with me because I had sex with him isn’t for me. And I don’t want to invest in someone emotionally just to find out we don’t have that spark in bed. The sex can be what bonds you.

DH is my one night stand from when I was 19 that has been going for 17.5 years now. Although we weren't officially "dating" that first year, just friends. Until he was homeless and needed somewhere to stay...

It always just felt right!

Oh yeah and the orgasm thing - I’ve had orgasms with one night stands and with FWB (who is totally unsuitable as a partner and not even my type physically, but he knows what to do with me!)

They can definitely be more intense with someone who knows every inch of you and knows exactly what you need in that moment, but lots of women don’t get that after many years, so it’s not a time thing, it’s a confidence thing - both his and yours to tell him what you need.

Another first date here. I’d done my due diligence in the run up to the date though, then got the right vibe on the night. 7 years in now

About a month

Swiped on the Friday, phone call Sunday, quick drink on the Monday, as we were in the neighbourhood ( snogged). Coffee Thursday, date on Friday and we shagged and never looked back. Engaged now after 2 years, but already living together.

Actually I would like to know, if you are someone who waits until you're married or been together a long time, how do you deal with a poor lover? Do you first discuss things like their sexual experience / whether or not they like to give and receive oral sex / do they have any kinks? Or do you just wait to find out and end it / work on it / cope with it?

So jealous of those of you who can orgasm easily. I need a lot of time, trust and intimacy to 'let go'.

Takes me a long time to trust. I was badly let down during my first serious relationship. Started seeing a bloke and he was very keen from the get-go but it took me about six weeks to trust him. I've been with him 21years.

First date although we had known each other over a year.
I think sexual compatibility is incredibly important in a relationship. I can't imagine going on a date with someone whose clothes I didn't want to tear off. If the sex is awful then there's much point in going on lots of dates unless you don't really care about good sex.

Almost 3 months. We did do some stuff beforehand which created an amazing build up. Together 6 years.

With DH it was about 10 mins between meeting and doing the dirty. Awesome. I'd been celibate for 6 years. First date.

I think that ease of orgasm is partly just your anatomy. It takes very little skill or effort for me to orgasm from penetrative sex but something crazy like 75% of women never orgasm that way. I am absolutely not a relaxed person either.

Met in august and had sex in November. We're seeing each other 2/3 evenings a week and every day at work. We did everything else before we had SI and had both made each other orgasm a lot. We had our reasons for leaving the penis out of the vagina for a while as we were both keen to learn how to get each other there without it.

When we had sex it was amazing and continues to be amazing. We are 18 months down the line and moving in together next month.

Everyone here you’ve been so amazing sharing so freely…. Thank you!
It’s been all I’ve been thinking about since date 1 but trying not to rush things 🤣🤣🤣 let’s see how long this lasts…

I had sex with my husband about 20 minutes after we met for the first time! I orgasmed multiple times. It was an electric chemistry I’ve never experienced before. I was usually quite a cautious person.

@ChiChaNaYubi you must tell us more girl… how do you get to it in 20 minutes’ time??? 😆

Most women these days don’t wait. It’s pretty wise to though really if you’re looking for love and commitment.
I wasn't looking for love or commitment; I was looking for a bit of fun. When we set up the third date he mentioned that the restaurant was "near his home" and I thought "I see where that's going and it's fine with me". He turned out to be great, more than just a bit of fun :)