How long before you sleep together?

[ThisIsaNiceDress]

What’s the accepted timeline nowadays when you are actually serious about someone? 😂

I would wait until I was ready.
I need to feel comfortable and relaxed and have some kind of a bond with the person.

However I'd like to know what size his penis was 😂I had a FWB and he had a small penis and I would have been so disappointed if it was someone I wanted a relationship with, waited a while to have sex and then found that out. Average is perfectly fine but definitely don't want smaller.

And? I've never won a million quid on the lottery - but it's happened to other people.

Go onto a mans forum.... reddit, quora. It happens. It may not be every man, but it's certainly quite a few of them.

That depends what you mean by 'small' and 'average'.

I am a small women with errr, small anatomy. IMO you can certainly have too much of a good thing......

😂😂

The FWB was only around 4" I'd say (maybe I'm underestimating) and (TMI) I naturally get very lubricated so I could barely feel him.

Average for me would be 7" or 8", probably not the accurate world average but that's what size the other men I was with were so to me I see it as average 😅

Ok? I was just answering your question and like I say I’ve no idea if it happens, I never said it doesn’t. I said who are these people you’re meeting but it sounds like you’re not meeting them either, which I’m pleased to hear!

all your posts sound a bit defensive...nobody is saying that the way you do things is wrong.

You seem to be bothered that some women don't like waiting or highly value sexual compatibility...which can only be checked by actually having sex with someone.

Why is it so hard to believe not everyone is so pressed about having deep emotional connection before having sex with someone? Good chemistry is enough for some

@JoanThursday1972

Was he Craig David?

😂😂

3 years???

3rd date…. and actually I never left after staying over that night, been living together ever since. Been together 12 years now and have 2 kids.

best sex I ever had.

First bloke, I waited over a month of him love bombing me, he stopped talking to me the next day, and was with someone else within a week.

Second bloke, waited over a month, he too was abusive.

Seemed waiting did not help me weed them out.

First date with DH, we did it. Although we had met in the week before, and I just spent most of it finding ways of taking my mind off doing it. We have been together nearly 30 years now, married for over 20. But I didnt sleep with him expecting this future, I wanted to, he wanted to, so we did. And whilst the sex didnt result in my orgasm, I dont orgasm from sex alone, he had already helped earlier in the night.

So to answer the OP, do it when it feels right for you. There is no rule, and what works for one couple may not work for another.

6 months and it was terrible 😂 think we built it up too much in our heads.

That being said we tried again. It was great and still together 7 years later! X

Must have a foof dipped in gold!

Sleeping with someone who has sex once every three years is not generally considered a positive for men.
A foof of cobwebs is a niche fetish

I have no set rules around sex but I prefer to kiss them on date one. Because it sucks getting a few dates down the line, really liking them and then finding out they kiss like a washing machine. I mean, sometimes it's fixable. But honestly at my age ì just don't feel like training anyone on the basics anymore.

Waited a month. Met OLD, went on dates weekly sometimes twice , walking, meals, coffee etc. Happened the second time he came to mine for dinner. Still together after a year 😊.

@PaintedEgg all your posts sound a bit defensive

I don't know where you get that from?

I did say ages back that it all depended on what people wanted, maybe you didn't read that?

Depends on guy. DP was 4 dates. But we had very long dates lasting hours. Felt I knew him ages. 4th date I never got a tour of his house as we couldn’t keep hands off each other

Brilliant loving all the stories on here keep them coming 😊 I’m still pondering whether to hold off a little later but the build up in one’s head mentioned by a previous poster could be a bit of a risk plus it’s very time consuming in the interim 😂

OP, and waiting really is of limited benefit. You are just missing out on what could be great sex.

Yep.

You might like this article OP : Why do all my dating relationships fizzle out after a couple of dates? - couples counsellor discusses different approaches.

Pretty much, but some don't deserve to experience it.

I dunno. My experience is that men aren't that keen on one that's been shared around extensively. Or maybe some men might not mind who else has been up there before them, but they're not men you'd really want to get up close and personal with.

men aren't that keen on one that's been shared around extensively.

Maybe it depends on age. I'm in my 50s. I expect people to have some history. If men are expecting virgins at my age, they're a bit deluded. It's not impossible, of course, but people are more likely tohave had a past than not by my age.