Opinions please! Is this nasty?

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My daughters birthday is coming up. My OH, her stepdad said were not getting her a cake because we didn't buy his kids one. Their mother bought theirs and sent it to ours with the kids. So they still had a cake.
My daughter has no one else to buy her a cake only us two, her dad has nothing to do with her.

Is this nasty or is it reasonable?

I can't honestly believe you need to ask?

He’s a massive cunt. Hope that clarifies things.

How can you think that this is reasonable? What's going on for you that you need to ask this question? Please get a cake. And leave your partner

This

Very nasty!

But why can't you just get your own daughter a cake?!

Tell him to fuck off, nasty bastard

Of course it’s nasty

the fact that you need to ask this is terrifying

your poor daughter- her mother allowing a man in her life who would begrudge her a birthday cake.

Tell him that’s ridiculous and just buy her a cake, it’s not even a discussion to have surely, just buy her one.

This. Of course it's nasty. What will happen if you buy her a cake, will he kick off?

Why exactly are you with this horrible man?
Get you daughter a cake and throw out the man.

What everyone else said.

Just buy her a cake. Why are you even asking him? He's an arsehole

Do you have access to money? Buy her a cake. Also consider a solicitor and work out how best to leave him

Get rid, seriously. He must really hate her to want to watch a child have no cake on her birthday :(

His kids had a cake, all kids should have a cake on their birthday regardless of who paid for it.

Seriously he must hate her.

That’s horrible

I'd LTB for this. No joke.

Yup, this.

You can’t get much lower than a man who takes out his spite on a child on her birthday.

Why do you need his permission

Tell him to fuck off then go and buy a lovely cake and don't share with him.

This, 100%. Almost unbelievable. He should not be in DD’s life.

🙄 nice try

Of course OP this raises massive questions about the rest of your relationship with this man, and his relationship with your daughter.

what’s going on OP? It sounds really concerning.

Id give her the best birthday present ever by booting his spiteful, infantile ass out onto the street. What a thundercunt.

And buy the cake yourself, you don't need anyone's permission.

You need to stick up for your daughter. No one else will.

The ex wife must be aware what a dickhead he is. Would have made sense for her to buy a cake to enjoy with her kids. She should also have been able to assume he would have supplied a cake for him to enjoy with them. There shouldn’t be a scenario where she needed to buy a cake for him to have with his kids. Surely?