Opinions please! Is this nasty?

[Deepdown]

My daughters birthday is coming up. My OH, her stepdad said were not getting her a cake because we didn't buy his kids one. Their mother bought theirs and sent it to ours with the kids. So they still had a cake.
My daughter has no one else to buy her a cake only us two, her dad has nothing to do with her.

Is this nasty or is it reasonable?

Why didn't he buy his DC a cake if it's that important? I'm assuming you didn't put a block on it?

He sounds horrible. Imagine thinking it's fine for a child not to get a cake on their birthday! Get the biggest cake you can afford and tell him to piss off.

Sorry to say but I expect your relationship with this arsehole isn’t great, how does he treat you?

why is he so jealous and petty over your daughter getting a cake? I bet he’s not a perfect father to his kids. He sounds horrendous.

I feel so sorry for your daughter.
Though I expect you will say next that she adores him 🙄

Kick him to fuck, the nasty cunt. You don't want a man like this around your daughter. Get a cake ffs, get two, and shove one up his arse.

Buy your daughter a birthday cake.
Tell you OH he’s not the boss of you.

Yep

why are you even asking or listening to him? get her one

OP, I worry that the reason you’re asking his permission is you’re not able to buy a cake yourself and there’s more to this :(

Yes to buying a lovely cake and not giving him any.
What a nasty person he is.
id seriously consider binning him.

Your dd. Buy her 10 cakes if YOU want to..

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So he’s her stepdad, not her bio dad?

Do your daughter a huge favour now and get this arsehole out of her life.

I despair at the number of posts I read on MN where women have moved utter arseholes into their children’s homes. Are you so desperate for a relationship that you’ll put up with a man effectively telling you that your own child isn’t worth a birthday cake?

Same

He didn't buy his own dc a cake, their mother did. Now he's refusing to let you buy your own daughter a cake.

My God. Please put your dc first and get rid of this despicable man from their lives.

If he is so spiteful with your daughter then you don’t need him anywhere near her, is he like that with his own children or just yours?if he’s that bothered about his own then why didn’t he buy their birthday cake instead of leaving it to his ex ?
I wouldn’t give house room to him, for all you know he could be nasty in other ways too, kick the mealy mouthed bastard through the door and stick by your child.

What do you think OP? Really?

Do you think he has your dd's best interests at heart here?

Is he loving, kind, respectful?

How will you feel on your daughter's birthday when she's sad because she has no cake?

Why is it up to him to declare she's not having one? Why are you taking his ridiculous idea seriously?

What would happen to you if you ignored him and got a birthday cake for your child?

He sounds really spiteful, but you don't say anything about being shocked at his attitude, so is this nastiness normal for him?

What are you going to do?

If every single person on here said, don't buy her a cake, would you seriously, as her mum, not get her a cake? Come on, you already know whether he's being reasonable or not.

Unbelievably unreasonable. What the hell js wrong with him.

You really really need to rethink your relationship with this guy.

Can’t believe you had to ask if I’m honest

So his kids get one from their mother but your children has to do without, because her mother is in a relationship with an utter cunt.

How can you love a man who treats your child like this?

It's bloody unreasonable.
Get your child a cake.
Get that 'OH' out of her life, and out of yours.
This can't be real, can it?

You know it’s not reasonable.

So on her birthday, you say, there’s no cake this year, no singing happy birthday or blowing out the candles? As if any parent could do that.

This^^

Tell him to do one and buy your child a cake. He is spiteful, nasty and a git.