Opinions please! Is this nasty?

[Deepdown]

My daughters birthday is coming up. My OH, her stepdad said were not getting her a cake because we didn't buy his kids one. Their mother bought theirs and sent it to ours with the kids. So they still had a cake.
My daughter has no one else to buy her a cake only us two, her dad has nothing to do with her.

Is this nasty or is it reasonable?

PLEASE don't call him her stepdad.

He makes Sleeping Beauty's stepmum look kind!

What are you doing with him?

Maybe she's out buying a cake. I bloody hope so!

Get yourself and your DD away from this horrible man.

I’d just buy a cake, not a huge fancy affair but a shop bought sugar filled £11 job

Buy your child a cake. Why does he get a say?

He has done a number on you if you have to ask the internet this.

It not just nasty its gold plated nasty. Why is he dictating what YOU can buy for YOUR daughter.
I would be seriously questioning if I really want to be in a relationship with someone who can behave so twatty

Good grief, what a revolting man.

All that matters is that the child has a birthday cake. His children had a cake bought by their mother, so your child can have a cake bought by their mother, which is you. Why are you even having to ask him about this? Is he literally trying to forbid you from spending the money? He genuinely begrudges your daughter having a birthday cake, even though his own child had one?

He's a piece of fucking shit.

(I strongly suspect that his ex sent a cake for his child because she knew he wouldn't bother to get one and she didn't want her child to go without.)

This. Get rid of him asap.

On the off chance that this is real, I hope your daughter is 45 years old, lives in a mansion and can flick her gold-plated American Express card in her nasty bastard stepfather's face when she finds out he grudges her a birthday cake.

Oh god that you’d even feel you had to ask. This is deeply deeply unpleasant behaviour by your OH and I’m guessing it’s not his only questionable behaviour.

I’m glad your step children have a mother who is trying to make sure they don’t go without but she should not have had to send a cake in the first place. I can’t believe he’d use his shitty behaviour as a father to try and justify you be a shitty mother to your daughter.

Flock before cock

What have I just read? If you need permission from your OH to buy your own daughter a birthday cake then you have problems. Buy your daughter a cake for gods sake.

So because he couldn't be arsed to do something for his kid ,you're not allowed to either? He can fuck the fuck off.

i have to wholeheartedly agree with this.

My OH, her stepdad

Why do you call him her stepdad?

Are you married to this guy? If not don't dignify him with the title of stepdad.

This is an actual grown man saying this?
He sounds small minded, petulant and downright nasty.
On his birthday please bake him his own cake, all for him, filled with senna.

I don't believe this is real or it's a reverse.

But IF it is real, first I would tell him to fuck off as no one asked him for his input. And secondly he would be an ex with a quickness his head would spin.

OMG. This is shocking. What os wrong with your partner???
How petty and small minded he is!!!

Your last thread said you had an amazing relationship with your OH but he prioritised his ex. Is this another example of him prioritising his ex feelings? Or did you refuse to buy a cake for his kids because you don't like her? I think her sending cake through was thoughtful and she likely knew he wouldn't have done so otherwise. I hope you are OK because this doesn't sound very healthy. I agree with PP that you even questioning this is worrying. Do you have friends or family to confide in?

This post is heartbreaking OP.
Please leave him for your sake and your daughters.

It is shocking but its more shocking a mother would consider this. There is a little girl involved here, it’s horrible what her mother is considering doing to her so she can keep some bloke.

Omg OP.

I hope you would get her a cake anyway. Your poor daughter.

What else, OP?

What else does he control. What else does he pull this absolute shit with. It’s everything isn’t it?