My husband keeps saying that 'we' need to lose weight to become attracted to each other again to save our relationship. For the record I have never once said I don't find him attractive. I still do but apparently he doesn't find me attractive enough to initiate sex. He said he can't live in a sexless marriage. I am a UK size 18 and pretty sure plenty of men would have sex with me looking like I do. We have a 4 year old daughter and I do most of the looking after so I don't find it easy to find time to look after myself. Am I being selfish by not losing weight?
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Am I being selfish to not lose weight for my husband?
Boo123456 · 12/06/2022 19:42
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CaptSkippy · 13/06/2022 07:38
Your husband is shallow and a hypocrite. He only want to lose weight to make you lose weight. You don't have a problem with his weight, he only does with yours. He thinks that by saying 'we' it makes his BS more acceptable.
On top of that he is not pulling his weight as a parent. What a pratt.
kateandme · 13/06/2022 02:48
Then the man needs to go and work on his own fat phobia.
You don't need to change for anyone and attraction should NOT be based on your size. You are still the same beautiful woman.
Mn hates that.and loves to say how u can't blame him if he doesn't like you are a larger woman,funny how this never has a thread on a woman being smaller and now unnatractive eh...
We live in a society where fat is bad.
It's a shit show.
You do NOT need to lose if you don't want to and he is a shallow prick for saying so.
I wouldn't want to have sex with someone with these views on woman,their bodies,me.
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