My husband keeps saying that 'we' need to lose weight to become attracted to each other again to save our relationship. For the record I have never once said I don't find him attractive. I still do but apparently he doesn't find me attractive enough to initiate sex. He said he can't live in a sexless marriage. I am a UK size 18 and pretty sure plenty of men would have sex with me looking like I do. We have a 4 year old daughter and I do most of the looking after so I don't find it easy to find time to look after myself. Am I being selfish by not losing weight?
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Am I being selfish to not lose weight for my husband?
Boo123456 · 12/06/2022 19:42
Wingingit15 · 13/06/2022 06:09
@ChocolateHippo to be fair, though OP says she does most of the looking after of the 4 yo, she doesn’t say whether she works FT etc.
in any event, in my experience, (because I say this myself!) saying you don’t have time to lose weight isn’t plausible if you actually want to. Take the 4yo for a walk, bike ride, run around the park, eat healthy together.
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