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Found videos of my boyfriend

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newstart2022 · 05/06/2022 23:49

Hi
I knew my partner was into porn - some of which seemed a bit strange, not stuff I expected a straight man to watch.
i can handle that but I found close to 50 probably more videos of him masturbating. A video of him taking his jeans off to show my underwear.
a video of him urinating in a glass and one off him jogging on the spot naked.photos of him bent over showing his behind.
honestly don’t know what to make of this.

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GrazingSheep · 05/06/2022 23:53

Hopefully he washed your underwear after wearing them. That would be good 👍

Opentooffers · 05/06/2022 23:54

Bisexual, or closet gay ? Just going off the bent over pose really. Whatever the reason it's a bit yuk and ott, I'd bin him off.

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newstart2022 · 05/06/2022 23:55

my thoughts too. The glass incident is weird too.

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Ihatethenewlook · 05/06/2022 23:55

Where did you find the videos? On his phone or posted online?

Overthewine · 05/06/2022 23:56

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surlycurly · 05/06/2022 23:56

He's a sub and he's getting tasks/ punishments form a domme.

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newstart2022 · 05/06/2022 23:57

@Ihatethenewlook
it was on a phone. An old phone of his that i had for a long time. Just had a look around and they were in a file.
some must have been sent via WhatsApp

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Bunty55 · 05/06/2022 23:57

It sounds like he is doing what she tells him to. I wonder if he had to drink the urine?

MMmomDD · 05/06/2022 23:58

You need to ask him.
My guess he may have a fetish, and may be bi. Nothing is wrong with either but it’s a matter of being honest in a relationship so that you can decide if his sexuality is something that you can live with in a relationship.

Ihatethenewlook · 05/06/2022 23:59

I don’t know why but the naked jogging disturbs me the most? What a weird fetish. Wtf is going through his head? I’d be scared to use anything in the house after this, god knows what’s been pissed in or rammed up his arse 🤢

Divebar2021 · 06/06/2022 00:00

people are into all sorts of things. Some of the straightest most Alpha men like to be pegged. A boyfriend once asked me to beat him up and verbally abuse him. Another want to be walked over in fetish heels. I presume he has shared these with people at some point in the past. Question Is why has he not told you about his kinks and what else has he got going on

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newstart2022 · 06/06/2022 00:01

@Bunty55 the video stopped before that , thankfully.

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mumieone · 06/06/2022 00:01

Sorry OP...that's hilarious (esp him jogging on one spot)...lol.

Men are obsessed with Thier privates that's all I can say. If all were allowed to carry an ID card showing Thier dick rather than face I'm sure they'd be up for it ;-)

Ihatethenewlook · 06/06/2022 00:01

MMmomDD · 05/06/2022 23:58

You need to ask him.
My guess he may have a fetish, and may be bi. Nothing is wrong with either but it’s a matter of being honest in a relationship so that you can decide if his sexuality is something that you can live with in a relationship.

I think he’s already crossed the line with the lack of respect. If he wants to make weird wanking videos of him wearing womens underwear then he should buy his bloody own. And presumably it’s the op’s drinking glasses he’s pissing in

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newstart2022 · 06/06/2022 00:02

@mumieone it’s a bizarre one and not one I can ever imagine a woman requesting. Made me wonder if it’s a man he is doing it for.

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MummyofTw0 · 06/06/2022 00:03

I think you should tell him what you've found. It will hopefully open up conversations between you.

Otherwise this will just constantly be on your mind

Ihatethenewlook · 06/06/2022 00:04

The dom things an interesting suggestion. I’d definitely do a bit of digging before any confrontation. It’s hard to believe he’s making these videos for himself. I don’t think anyone really gets off to videos of their own arseholes

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newstart2022 · 06/06/2022 00:05

@Ihatethenewlook
was his glass thankfully.
he spent whole days off work doing this stuff.
I can’t get it all out of my head. Kind of thought he likes weird porn , that I could deal with but this is too much for me.

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Bunty55 · 06/06/2022 00:09

It sounds like pretty standard stuff to me. Humiliating the sub is a turn on for them. That's why they see a domme

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newstart2022 · 06/06/2022 00:09

@Ihatethenewlook
i told him I found them. He said it was a mistake and he hadn’t sent them anywhere.
i don’t believe him.
the porn I found was shemale porn, just not what I expected.
i am wondering if he is bisexual.
nothing wrong with that if he is but it’s not a relationship I would want to be in.

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newstart2022 · 06/06/2022 00:11

@Bunty55 it’s something I had never thought about. The lady he i suspect he ks sending them too looks nothing like I expected.
it’s all so weird .

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RhiRhi1996 · 06/06/2022 00:12

Yes yes yes to the people who said tasks for a domme

It didn't initially cross my mind when reading OP post but as soon as I seen those comments I was like YES

why else would he have such random videos of himself doing things ?

It certainly checks out for sub tasks

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newstart2022 · 06/06/2022 00:13

@RhiRhi1996
something I hadn’t even considered.
so glad I posted this.

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Bunty55 · 06/06/2022 00:14

I doubt he is bisexual. He is probably curious and looking for something to turn him on.

CherryRipe1 · 06/06/2022 00:16

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Yes. He's possibly being given orders & sending photos as proof.