Found videos of my boyfriend

[newstart2022]

Hi
I knew my partner was into porn - some of which seemed a bit strange, not stuff I expected a straight man to watch.
i can handle that but I found close to 50 probably more videos of him masturbating. A video of him taking his jeans off to show my underwear.
a video of him urinating in a glass and one off him jogging on the spot naked.photos of him bent over showing his behind.
honestly don’t know what to make of this.

These are tasks for a dom. I once dated the straightest 6ft9 alpha male and he wanted to be completely humiliated by me. Beaten, whipped,pegged till he was crying out in pain. I didn't do any of it and we split up. My point is however he doesn't have to be gay or bi to find these things a turn on . He's a sub. An open frank discussion is needed or just walk away because pissing in a glass and wearing my undies would give me the ick.

It sounds like an autogynephile masochist and into sissification. That is, he's masochistic and because to be like a woman is the most degrading thing for a man, so he gets off on watching shemale porn and being made to wear women's underwear. He probably isn't gay, but will want to rebrand himself as a 'lesbian' in a few years and blow all your savings on wigs, clothes and 'feminization' surgery, because it's these men who get off on the humiliation of being seen as a woman who are now calling themselves trans, to the applause of gullible women who think we should all be kind. You should read some of the trans widows threads here, and then run for the hills.

Run very fast and don't look back.

@ZoeQ90
i would imagine this is something that he would act on and I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with other people involved. Not for me .

@GeorgiaMcGraw
his glass thankfully
sounds strange but its something I put to the side of my mind for a while it was such a shock and felt like too much to deal with. But these answers have helped.

@Yolojo
lol - the wigs
it was shemale porn or very large hairy lady porn.
i had a feeling something was going on but just couldn’t put my finger on it.
didn’t expect all of this.

flipper97 · Today 06:11

Christ, run. And as you are doing so, slam the door on his cock as he will no doubt enjoy it.

Unless you're prepared to say 'slam the door on her pussy' in a similar case I think better not to make jokes about sexual violence, even against men.

Absolutely

Don't make out like the OP is in some way wrong for not allowing him to tell of his tbh fucking weird perversions. Pissing in a glass is vile. There is nothing remotely sexy about it. Don't normalise these things. Porn has already made sex often more violent for younger people. Don't make it sound like the OP should be open to hearing about pissing.

@Onwards22 my thoughts too.
it’s been a huge mind fu€€

@flipper97 😂this one made me giggle

@carolineshaw jc the world has gone mad. Her post was clearly a joke, she isn't REALLY telling OP to slam his cock in the door.

@RhiRhi1996
lol he probably would enjoy it!

RhiRhi1996 · Today 07:48

@carolineshaw jc the world has gone mad. Her post was clearly a joke, she isn't REALLY telling OP to slam his cock in the door.

Political correctness gone mad?

I didn't imagine she was serious but I don't think a similar joke by two men aimed at a woman would go down well with this particular crowd, do you?

@newstart2022 how long have you been together?
it does seem odd that he left those videos on that phone. Almost like he wanted you to find them! I had a similar experience when me and my friend were using her sister’s laptop. She had an icon on the screen full of pornographic imagines of her and her boyfriend. She knew damn well we would find them!!! It was so weird!

Fucking grim

@carolineshaw I think it COMPLETELY depends on the context of the joke. I'm against violence of both sexes, but I can appreciate a good natured joke when I hear one! It is very obvious why the joke was made, and the punch line was that he would enjoy it cos of his submissive fetish. Very light hearted!

I wouldn't get offended if two men made a similar joke (although this joke doesn't really work does it). If its funny & good natured, then I laugh. Plenty of comedian's make dark humoured jokes, about sensitive topics, if it's funny i.e has a genuine "punchline" and not just blatant woman hating under the guise of a joke, then i don't mind it at all.

Ok. I can understand in that in the situation. I don't think it would be fair to assume all bi people will cheat though.

This sounds like someone I used to know and deffo for a domme. In previous sexual relationships I know they had erectile dysfunction as unable to have ‘vanilla’ sex. Only way they were turned on was humiliation/domination. Eg paraded around like a dog, pegged, deffo into shemale porn, pissed on etc etc

Anyway, sorry for bringing that discussion into your thread OP.

I hope you decide what you're going to do regarding the matter. Either speaking to him about it (if he is even gonna tell the truth) if he has a dominatrix kink, maybe it's something you could occasionally incorporate into your lives/sex lives, if that is something your cool with.

But I'd be worried he isn't going to be open with you , and just deny/make excuses..

Wish you all the best OP whatever you choose to do x

FrecklesMalone · Today 07:44

"Pissing in a glass is vile."

Is it? If it was a glass used for drinking I can see a problem, otherwise it seems pretty harmless. Who exactly does it hurt?

"There is nothing remotely sexy about it."

Not to you. Or to me either come to that. However, what is sexy is entirely subjective.

"Don't normalise these things."

We don't need to shame people for liking harmless things either.

"Don't make it sound like the OP should be open to hearing about pissing."

Her openness is up to her. It's a private matter between them.

I don't think he's done anything wrong by pissing in a glass in terms of cheating. He should be allowed to indulge his kinks in private. It's not as if he flaunted this in front of her. If he is sending videos of himself to another woman or man (or something vaguely in between) that is different.

My advice would be not to bother trying to understand it. Time to leave.

@ZoeQ90
i totally agree. I look at these videos as a form of cheating and with the nature of some of them and some or the phrases that were on his phone. I am not sure how far he would go.

RhiRhi1996 · Today 08:03

"I wouldn't get offended if two men made a similar joke (although this joke doesn't really work does it)."

Why doesn't it work? Is it because you don't think women have similar kinks or because you can't trap a vagina in a door?

"If its funny & good natured, then I laugh."

Fair enough. I just don't think the reception for a similar joke made by two men about woman would be tolerated here for a second.

"Plenty of comedian's make dark humoured jokes, about sensitive topics, if it's funny i.e has a genuine "punchline" and not just blatant woman hating under the guise of a joke, then i don't mind it at all."

I don't recall a single joke made by a professional comedian which had a punchline which involved recommending hurting a woman in a sexual manner, even if it wasn't seriously intended. There maybe some out there but I still don't see the general response being favourable, certainly not in most mainstream media outlets or on feminist sites.

Do you remember the time a few years ago when Sharon Osborne laughed on TV about a story where a man had his dick chopped off and put in a waste disposal unit? There was some backlash of course but she didn't lose her job. In fact she only lost her job after she defended Piers Morgan over comments about Meghan Markle.

Now imagine a story in which a man cut off his wife/girlfriend's clitoris or breasts and shoved those in a waste disposal and a male star laughed about it on TV. Do you think he would have kept his job for long?

At this moment in time I would like to trap a lot more than that in a door to be honest.
it was a lighthearted joke - not something I am going to act on.