Found videos of my boyfriend

[newstart2022]

Hi
I knew my partner was into porn - some of which seemed a bit strange, not stuff I expected a straight man to watch.
i can handle that but I found close to 50 probably more videos of him masturbating. A video of him taking his jeans off to show my underwear.
a video of him urinating in a glass and one off him jogging on the spot naked.photos of him bent over showing his behind.
honestly don’t know what to make of this.

It's for a domme, I'd bet my house on it.

He’s wanking to ‘women’ with cocks and you don’t think he’s bisexual?

A dom/me, or OnlyFans... Whichever reason, I'd dump him for lack of compatibility.

He has always made a point of saying he is attracted to females, in a way that seemed strange.
whatever is going on I don’t think I can trust him.
he spent days doing this stuff. Full days off work.

you said it was an old phone so the stuff you have seen is old?

What is your relationship like? Why can't you simply ask him? I really think you have to ask if you are thinking about ending things. It will be embarrassing for him but if you don't ask you will never know ?

@Bunty55
it was during our relationship.i asked and he said he didn’t send anything to anyone but I don’t believe him.
i think I know the answers to all this, the videos have been playing on my mind but the things you are all saying make sense

I'm pretty broad minded. I get why people watch porn. I think it has an awful lot to answer for when it is easy to access and it becomes addictive. Looking for other things to excite when the porn becomes boring leads people to watching stuff that shocks. It is the search for the new kicks that has probably led him to this. It does not mean he is gay, but you need to have a conversation with him about it no matter what you do.

If if is a dom/sub thing, do you think he got payed for it OP?

Are there date/time stamps on the videos you found? If so and you think back to those dates can you remember him spending more money than usual? Or talking about money/spending/gifts.

Not that it really matters, but if it is something you’re not comfortable with, then he needs to explain and it needs addressing.

Sounds like he’s posted them on some sort of porn site or sent them to someone.
the question is, is it something you can overlook and move on from? If it’s playing on your mind and bothering you then I would call it a day with him because he won’t be able to just change what he’s into sexually to keep you happy.
I mean he could try, but eventually he’ll get tempted again.

Yes, I'd not want a drink at his house, for sure.{Peeing into a glass}

Remember years ago there was a book in the Library of things that casualty staff dealt with.
One was a Heinz old fashioned sauce bottle that had been rammed up an old boys fundament, his excuse was that e had got locked out, had had to climb in via the kitchen window, FELL onto the sauce bottle,....except it had a condom on it, and he must have been wearing no trousers or pants.

Can't remember the name of the book, but ''all sorts'' of things are retrieved out of backsides, things like lightbulbs, where the risk of breakage and infection is scary.

Literally LOL'd at this!

Absolutely true.
I'm imagining the sort of guy like a young Louis Theroux jogging earnestly on the spot, dick flailing and flapping about.

Have you really not dumped him yet?

Yes, we think you need to move on really

It all sounds really strange and I agree with the comments about him being a sub. This one really got me, ‘A video of him taking his jeans off to show my underwear.’ I personally wouldn’t be able to look at him the same

A) he is too obsessed with consuming and cresting porn - not healthy
B) he wore your underwear without permission for his fetish. Not good. Where does he go from there? What other lines does he cross for a thrill?
C) whose glass did he piss in??
D) run.

He sounds lovely what a catch

Not buying it for a second

Genuinely curious, if it weren't for the videos (which, I agree, weird and a deal breaker for me), why would you be against dating a bisexual man? How would this change the relationship with you for you?

Red flags. Run for hills.

I'd have to dump sorry. I can guarantee if you don't something else like this will just happen later on.

My first thought is that he’s not as straight as he makes out and I’d be assuming they were sent to a man.

Were they definitely sent or was he just taking videos for himself?

If he’s sending them then he’s definitely cheating and the relationship is done but if it’s just for himself then it’s not as bad.

Christ, run. And as you are doing so, slam the door on his cock as he will no doubt enjoy it.

You can leave because you just don't see him the same way.

That would give most people the ick.