Found videos of my boyfriend

[newstart2022]

Hi
I knew my partner was into porn - some of which seemed a bit strange, not stuff I expected a straight man to watch.
i can handle that but I found close to 50 probably more videos of him masturbating. A video of him taking his jeans off to show my underwear.
a video of him urinating in a glass and one off him jogging on the spot naked.photos of him bent over showing his behind.
honestly don’t know what to make of this.

"I do know a 50s gay gay from here who was never out to his mum passed away."

This is sad and I have empathy for him and his mum.

"There us a thread pm here on a fortnightly basis with martied women finding out their husband's are engaging in gay or bisexual activity. They have not been open or honest in the slightest about it"

This is not sad in the slightest, this is outrageous.

This is my exact point.

If you are gay or think you might be, do not put yourself in a situation where you either get married to someone of the opposite sex or without telling them persist in that relationship for a long period of time/without telling them have children with a woman.

At it's most cynical, it is literally using a woman for her body in the worst way either depriving her of the chance to find someone genuine or just outright using her biological capacity to have children to give you children presumably because you want them or you want to fool the world about yourself.

Really struggle not to see that as out and out one of the most selfish things a person could do in 2022, when, ignoring family of origin pressures etc (not your fault) it is entirely possible to move away and get into whatever type of sexual relationship with anyone. Its the deceipt which is dispicable because in this day and age there is very very little justificiation for it.

Oh sorry, I see its pushing 50.

Well, not much different.

He's almost half a century old, and that's what he's taking days off work to do.

Smh.

Also a cheater incidentally, even with the privilege of a younger, lovely sounding partner.

You can't fix crazy.

@LooseGoose22
divorced and his ex was younger
no kids
yeah it’s not whey i expected from an older man.
i think he is addicted and in denial about his sexuality, the more and more I think about it.
the one he is stringing along just now and trying to involve is also younger.

Wonder why he ended up divorced? Hmm

The one he is sexting, or the person you mentioned being uncomfortable abt his "friendship" with?

Im always skeptical about abt men who always tend to go younger ... esp when behaviour like this crops up. I think they avoid "older and wiser" ppl for a reason.

I'm sure his ex could tell you a tale or two.

This is sad and I have empathy for him and his mum.

Don't worry, he moved to London, which suited him career wise anyway, lived hos life the way he wanted, had a gay partner etc. ... he was also v good to his (widowed young) Mum and took her on tonnes of holidays and breaks.

I don't know what she thought of his "single" status or if she guessed, or if they just had a don't ask, don't tell policy but in any case they had a good relationship, he's out now.

As you say (and back on the thread subject) at least he had the balls & decency not to involve a woman in a farce.

@LooseGoose22
he said she just left him. Hmm
the sexter looks older.
the friend is younger , same age as me. Same age as his ex wife.
he has a partner who was the same age, she was apparently mad!

I'd be v interested as to what his exes have to say about him.

The friend .. sounds like he always keeps someone young lined up as a replacement.

Mad... coming from someone who.majes videos of himself Piddington in glassss, jogging on the spot naked, bent over exposing his bits, watches furry giant women porn and she male porn, sexts while in a relationship about drinking piss from pussies and having dildos shoved up his arse ....... 😂

Passing, obviously

@LooseGoose22
i would love to know what they have to say too.
he made out they wouldn’t let him do things or spend on himself.
all very strange. Made out he was a victim in the relationships.
i think not .

In case he was unfaithful ?

Gymnast?

I'm starting to wonder if you are dating my ex.

@Valeriekat
i agree

How are you op x

@Itstimetoquit
hi
not great. Been a lot to process.
and it all makes sense :(