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Is my husband lying to me about photo found on his phone?

238 replies

Lin1276539 · 13/01/2022 21:18

So, I recently came across an image taken from the Internet on my husband's old phone, that he said he only keeps for the alarm, and let's say it was an intimate image of a woman. I then also found the thumbnail of a deleted screenshot of a different naked woman on the old phone. I called him on it and after telling him I was going to check his Google account Internet hisyory, he confessed he looked at these sorts of images daily, and had been doing so for a long time. It took me by surprise as he always said he hated this kind of stuff. My issue now is that a few years ago I found a picture taken from social media of my sisters teenage daughter and her friend standing in their bikinis by a pool, saved on his phone. He told me back then that it must be the 'dodgy' photo editing app he'd installed as he never saved that photo to his phone, and he seemed genuinely perplexed as to how it got there. Am I being an idiot in still believing him or could this genuinely be the truth? I know it sounds bad, but he did have a photo app he was always complaining about before I found that image, and there were some other odd and random images in the app that he said he couldn't understand how on earth they got there? My paranoia is taking over now and I don't feel I can trust him?!? Advice??

OP posts:
BetsyBrush · 13/01/2022 21:24

How intimate?

Lin1276539 · 13/01/2022 21:29

Very intimate...... the type you'd see in porn, woman bent over on bed with everything on display. Other thumbnail image was full naked female torso.

OP posts:
itchmyscratch · 13/01/2022 21:33

god op, it doesn't sound good. how old was the teenager?

Why2why · 13/01/2022 21:37

The intimate space photos are not of the OP’s niece and her friend.

Sorry OP it’s hard to tell but in your shoes I’d be suspicious of it all.

Lin1276539 · 13/01/2022 21:37

The girls were about 17 in the photo.

OP posts:
Why2why · 13/01/2022 21:37

Not sure how “space” made its way in there.

Why2why · 13/01/2022 21:39

@Lin1276539

The girls were about 17 in the photo.
Which girls are you referring to? Your niece and her friend? Who are the intimate photos of? Teenagers?

It’s getting a little bit confusing.

itchmyscratch · 13/01/2022 21:40

any photos in the app he must of screenshotted

PearPickingPorky · 13/01/2022 21:41

Of course he's lying.

You know this.

What a creep.

EarthSight · 13/01/2022 21:41

@Lin1276539

The girls were about 17 in the photo.
Grim.
Santaisstilleatingmincepies · 13/01/2022 21:41

I not a cool dw.. If my dh had pics of naked fanjos on his phone at a daily rate he would be gone...
And perving on teen relative is vile.

GoodnightGrandma · 13/01/2022 21:43

Eww…could you be intimate with him after this ?

LightSpeeds · 13/01/2022 21:44

Is my husband lying to me about photo found on his phone?

Yep

velvetvixen · 13/01/2022 21:45

He has a wank bank on a phone, including a pic of your sister's teen niece and friend. Nutshell?

Showpan · 13/01/2022 21:47

Absolutely lying.

emsmar · 13/01/2022 21:47

Apps don't just save photos of your niece from your sisters Facebook page.... what a creep

ChiefStockingStuffer · 13/01/2022 21:56

He's a creep.

You know he is.

I couldn't look at him the same way again...

Lin1276539 · 13/01/2022 21:56

I'm sorry if I wasn't being clear, I was trying to reply when someone asked how old my niece and her friend were on that pic, they were about 17 or 18 at the time. I think I've forgiven him for the porn type images, but it has all brought back how I felt after finding the social media pic of my niece on his phone, he is so sincere about it and I want to believe him, but I just don't understand how its possible for an app to save a photo of it's own accord to a phone?

OP posts:
RevolvingPivot · 13/01/2022 21:57

I think you need to thing of these as two separate things.

Random naked photos of women he doesn't know found on the net is 1 thing.

Photos of your teenage niece in a bikini is another.

Not saying any of these are ok by the way.

RevolvingPivot · 13/01/2022 21:59

What is his explanation to the photo of your niece? What other random photos were saved? A photo editing app allows you to edit photos stored in your phone. It doesn't allow other peoples photos on social media to download onto your phone?

PurpleThursdays · 13/01/2022 22:00

He's lying

GreenClock · 13/01/2022 22:00

He was drooling over your sister’s daughter in her bikini and saved the image, maybe accidentally, maybe deliberately. But he was definitely not editing it with an app!

You simply can’t trust this creep around young female relatives OP.

MrsTimRiggins · 13/01/2022 22:03

He’s a liar, that photo didn’t appear by accident. I couldn’t ever look at my DH the same way again if I knew he’d been wanking over photos of my teenage niece and her friend. That’s genuinely disgusting.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 13/01/2022 22:06

My issue now is that a few years ago I found a picture taken from social media of my sisters teenage daughter and her friend standing in their bikinis by a pool, saved on his phone.

How on earth did you continue sleeping with this bloke? Grim.

Your sisters poor daughter as well, unknowingly kept in the orbit of a bloke who had a picture of her and her friends specifically saved from social media and saved as, let's face it, wank fodder.

Why on earth did you stay with him after that?

RevolvingPivot · 13/01/2022 22:08

@youvegottenminuteslynn

My issue now is that a few years ago I found a picture taken from social media of my sisters teenage daughter and her friend standing in their bikinis by a pool, saved on his phone.

How on earth did you continue sleeping with this bloke? Grim.

Your sisters poor daughter as well, unknowingly kept in the orbit of a bloke who had a picture of her and her friends specifically saved from social media and saved as, let's face it, wank fodder.

Why on earth did you stay with him after that?

She believed his story re the app until she found the naked photos of the other women.
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