Is my husband lying to me about photo found on his phone?

[Lin1276539]

So, I recently came across an image taken from the Internet on my husband's old phone, that he said he only keeps for the alarm, and let's say it was an intimate image of a woman. I then also found the thumbnail of a deleted screenshot of a different naked woman on the old phone. I called him on it and after telling him I was going to check his Google account Internet hisyory, he confessed he looked at these sorts of images daily, and had been doing so for a long time. It took me by surprise as he always said he hated this kind of stuff. My issue now is that a few years ago I found a picture taken from social media of my sisters teenage daughter and her friend standing in their bikinis by a pool, saved on his phone. He told me back then that it must be the 'dodgy' photo editing app he'd installed as he never saved that photo to his phone, and he seemed genuinely perplexed as to how it got there. Am I being an idiot in still believing him or could this genuinely be the truth? I know it sounds bad, but he did have a photo app he was always complaining about before I found that image, and there were some other odd and random images in the app that he said he couldn't understand how on earth they got there? My paranoia is taking over now and I don't feel I can trust him?!? Advice??

I'm sorry I'd go and talk to someone about him he could be a pedophile.
Sorry for the bluntness but I actually feel sick. X

No, having a sexual interest in a 17 year old does not make a person a paedophile. This term gets banded about way too much. To clarify,a paedophile is a person who has sexual interest specifically in prepubescent children. Let’s not make matters worse ffs

Surely the person committing the perving is the one making matters worse, @Philly1234 - not the people making errors of nomenclature?

Very strange that your phone does not save intimate images of 17 year olds. He must think you are so stupid.

So he is now admitting to the bare minimum he thinks he can. Or that he thinks you can handle.
And rolls out the old porn addiction line. Trying to make it look like its not his fault, he couldn't help it, he'll get help now.
And the crying. Poor, poor him, a victim, he couldn't help it.
Complete textbook isn't it?

Based on all that. I think you now know the photo of niece wasn't an accident. And he'd of known her age OP.
I can't imagine what you are going through now that the realisation has hit.

And he doesn't have a bloody porn addiction.

@Philly1234

No, having a sexual interest in a 17 year old does not make a person a paedophile. This term gets banded about way too much. To clarify,a paedophile is a person who has sexual interest specifically in prepubescent children. Let’s not make matters worse ffs

Call it what you want but he perved over a 17 year old child (someone under 18). A family member at that - even if OP's husband wants to minimise it due to distance.

This is not porn issue and is not OP's problem to fix in therapy, he's saving pictures of friends and family instead for a personal collection.
There are plenty of people who can say they didn't see patterns of behaviour but this man has shown himself and does not know any boundaries. That is not something for OP to fix.

Hope you are OK @Lin1276539 and have the support you need.

@Philly1234

No, having a sexual interest in a 17 year old does not make a person a paedophile. This term gets banded about way too much. To clarify,a paedophile is a person who has sexual interest specifically in prepubescent children. Let’s not make matters worse ffs

I would consider a grown adult man wanking over an image of 17 year old child (yes, child, they are still in compulsory education), a paedophile.

And no its not just considered that with prepubescent children!

A 16 year old is a child, a 13 year old is a child. They are not prepubescent.

OP is going through enough already. Claiming that her husband is a paedophile isn’t helpful and it’s not accurate either.

@Bookworm20 I'm sorry but whether you consider them such or not is besides the point, you are using the wrong word I'm afraid.
There is a different name for what you are describing which is an attraction to post pubescent children.

He's still a disgusting pervert regardless.

@Philly1234 is correct in what they have said.
I agree that shouting Paedo when it's factually incorrect in the circumstances is unhelpful on top of everything else the OP is dealing with right now,

Porn addiction? That would be a lousy excuse even if it was true. People seem to use this as a useful excuse - 'look it's a medical condition, I can't help it'. I'm the victim. Even if that was the case, then a) I assume he's attending therapy for this and b) you still don't have to stand by and support him through it.

But let's face it, it isn't porn addiction. He has been seeking out photos of people you know. Friends. Relatives. Including children. That isn't an addiction to porn. It's a seriously worrying habit involving people who have no idea that their friend / relative is perving over them in private. Much much worse.

What a revolting man.
Call his bluff ask him for phone/ devices for the specific reason of recovering lost and deleted data. His reaction and face will tell you.
He will say there is nothing on there/ be long gone by now.
You reply well, I have an IT programme to run on your devices so if there nothing on there it wont show will it?
I was married to someone similar, he had a second phone which he linked up. I run a programme which cost about 40 quid. It was vile, especially the chats to women, pics of friends and relatives including my mum! Also appointments to sex workers. Check his devices, if he has nothing more to hid/ confess at least you wont go mentally ill. But I sorry that it may be tip of iceberg.

This is disgusting. Your sister has every right to know about this. Being addicted to porn is not in the same category as using imagines of teenage female relatives to scratch a sexual itch. God knows how many other friends, relatives and children he has been doing this with! Vile.