ExH wants DS to share a room with him and his gf on holiday

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To give some background I have a very acrimonious relationship with him: he had an affair with a colleague, lying, gaslighting etc. Now lives with her so I wasn't going crazy!

Whenever he doesn't get his own way it's always me that's unreasonable and he always plays the victim.

He wants to take DS abroad with his 'partner' next year, DS will be 14.5. He thinks it's ok for them to all share the same room. They did it this year and I didn't realise, I was quite shocked to be honest. It was in this country and only for a few days so he didn't have to get consent. He's asked for my consent this time as it's overseas.

I've said I think it's unacceptable for DS to share a room with his dad and another woman for 7-10 days and that he needs to get an apartment or a partitioned room so DS has some privacy.

Apparently this is unreasonable and makes the holiday too expensive. It will be my fault that DS doesn't get to go abroad if I refuse to back down.

He's just come back from a trip abroad for just him and her so the lack of money/cost side doesn't wash. But obviously fits with playing the victim and making me feel like I'm in the wrong as usual.

If I was to go away with my partner and DS I wouldn't dream of the 3 of us sharing one room.

Am I being unreasonable??

I'm pretty sure most adults can contain themselves around their teenage children. If he can't, I'm pretty sure the OP would have contacted social services and contact stopped if there was even a sniff of inappropriateness.

@SleepingBunnies21

projecting are we? Been cheated on?

And that says everything anyone needs to know about you.

The go-to of lazy, offensive posters - "you must be bitter and projecting".

And you're wrong to boot.

Bore off yourself.

Lazy and offensive?

I mean you've been lazy and offensive haven't you. You won't elaborate on your opinion but you resort to name calling very quickly.

What is your obsession with this? If it isn't happened to you, why do you feel so strongly about it?

The reality is you know nothing of this man but think you know everything, have declared them cheap bastards without having a fucking clue about their financial situation but you refuse to justify why you feel so strongly?

It's fucking weird.

It's fucking weird

Very.

@Bonsaibreaker

I think Flowerpowwer6 is Sleepingbunnies 2.0

I don't have to agree. It's not that I haven't explained. I have and I don't agree. Frown away all you want.

@JSL52 do you mean that anyone in their own mind would even consider possibly having sex whilst sharing the room with their child?

If that is the issue of some posters, then 🤮🤮

[quote TravelLost]@JSL52 do you mean that anyone in their own mind would even consider possibly having sex whilst sharing the room with their child?

If that is the issue of some posters, then 🤮🤮[/quote]
🤢 I certainly wouldn't but you never know

We had a 3 week trip to Italy with our 15 year old son a few years ago. Apart from the last night in Milan where we shared a big room, we had 2 rooms next to each other the entire time.
It was for his sake not ours.
A teenage boy needs privacy, space, to be able to FT his friends without an audience, do what he wants. We ate together, did all the tourist stuff and spent all day and evenings together but for a harmonious holiday with a teenager everyone needs space. We all loved that holiday and often talk about it. Your son's input is the most important thing. Hope it all works out.

Bed sharing with one (?) parent, without their (unrelated to teen) partner there; is not the situation being debated in this thread.

But it's the apparent absolute need that a 15 year old boy has for his own space while sleeping.

It won't be different for him than a shared room with mates.