New man small penis

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Been together a couple months, only had sex recently. He has a small penis. I've slept with quite a few men over the years and none have been as small as this one. I really like him, we just click, he's so kind thoughtful literally everything I want in a man. I do fancy him, I do want to have sex with him but it's difficult, I can't feel it when it's in!! He seems to enjoy it but I don't. He's good with everything else, can please me in other ways but sometimes I just like a good seeing to if you know what I mean. Anyone had a relationship with a man like it?! Did you find ways to make it enjoyable?! How?! It's not a deal breaker for me, but I just love sex so this is a bit disappointing. I'd never tell him, he seems oblivious to it, so not sure if other women he's been with found it an issue!

fed, you're fooling yourself. This issue won't go away. Be honest with yourself. Don't you think you deserve a fulfilling sex life? And him, with someone who doesn't mind his rinky dinky? You're talking yourself into this. It's a hiding to nothing.

Rinky dinky?

He's perfect in every other way. Maybe I'll start to love it lol who knows. I'm going to give a go so to speak!!

I was very promiscuous in my younger years. I came across all sizes, long, short, thin and one so fat it was like a wall of flesh coming towards me.
But I've only experienced one true micro penis and it would have been really hard to have sex. I honestly can't imagine it would have been possible. Poor guy, we fumbled around a bit and gave up.
The best sex I ever had was with a guy with a thin penis but he was a very attentive lover and just loved going down on me. I still think of him 20 years later....

For me one of the problems I found when dating my Little Dick guy was that he seemed oblivious to the fact and would even sometimes boast about the big bulge in his pants ...
I found his lack of self awareness irrationally irritating (although, if like me, all previous partners didn't give the true reason for splitting up with him I can see perhaps why he didn't know) though the fact that really only me going on top worked should have alerted him that there was a weeny problem I would've thought? When we split (which was actually for various reasons, some not related to sex) I didn't have the heart to tell him that his lack of size was one of the reasons. Tbh it annoyed me that he was a bit arrogant about his sexual prowess and would boast about how good he was in the bedroom - readers, he wasn't!

No they can’t change the size but they will realise it’s an issue. Maybe they will then be more cautious and not embarrass everyone

I have an ex who was less than well endowed. Not micro, but shorter and thinner than average. He knew it, was acutely upset by it, and had ED at least in part as a response. I don't think it's necessarily the right thing to be flat out honest. If they ask, that's one thing. But otherwise I wouldn't be that blunt.

I found his lack of self awareness irrationally irritating

He was probably aware of the size of his own penis, just not how it related to those of other men. DH was the same with his. He thought it was normal.

Pepp

Throwaway account obvs after seeing half these replies. Here comes a bit of an overshare

40s, M, Solid 5 inches here, never had an ONS stay as an ONS, only ever had 1 ex insult my size and it was during our break up after a 10 year relationship (it was very messy, she didn't take it well, harrassed me for a year trying to win me back) size isn't everything. First time I had sex with DW she had an extremely intense orgasm, couldn't stop shaking and started sobbing. Said she'd only ever been with bigger men and was worried when she saw me naked for the first time, and none had made her cum through PIV without some sort of other stimulation. She said I'm just the right size and shape (upwards curve apparently makes a massive difference) and we fit perfectly. The second time we had sex she said she loved me over and over, afterwards she was very embarrassed. We're very open about what we each like and want to try, have a large collection of toys for both of us in all shapes and sizes. We don't have magical shapeshifting bodies haha. I like to take the lead in bed and she loves that, we're both very attentive to each others sexual needs and both have very high sex drives. 8 years and 2 kids later we're still going strong, and our sex life is still amazing. So there's more to it than just size alone.

Tell him you want to experiment, if he's not willing to try because he has hangups then I'd say you're definitely not compatible.

@Solid5 thanks for sharing. This gives me hope!

There's nothing a guy can do about his small dick but if a girl isn't in to it there's nothing she can do about that either.
I'm sure plenty of guys would be repulsed by my post baby body of stretch marks/saggy boobs but I wouldn't expect them to fake it with me.... if you're not into it you're not into it. Move on.

@Solid5 but a “solid 5 inches” is average, and I think most women have said average is what they prefer (I certainly do). If the guy has a very small and thin penis, penetration just isn’t going to be great or sometimes even possible without add ons.

For all the posters with the sons who they think might struggle, it is the same with any strong physical feature, it will put some (maybe a lot) of people off but there will be some for whom it won’t matter and fingers crossed your lovely boys find one of them. There are fetishes for tiny willies so they are out there!

OP if he is otherwise perfect for you I would give it another couple of goes and if no better then just move on. I would just say we were sexually incompatible but not specify why unless pushed .

@lots33 my husband had many operations as a little boy and they actually built him the maritime of his penis , and had to pull Out the rest as it was internal. He really is tiny now, but he has fathered children and we are very happy. It’s just very small. We use toys. It hasn’t held him back from a loving marriage and fatherhood.

Maritime? Majority

My husband has a smaller penis than my ex. We have great sex. My husband, unlike my ex, is also not a massive dick in terms of his personality 😂

I think this thread is really distasteful to be honest - if a man posted “I really like this woman, but she has a massive loose fanny” everyone would be up in arms!

I have read threads about men saying they don’t like their partners loose fanny and everyone is outraged. Not sure this is any different.

I’ve had this happen twice. Both guys, lovely, good at other stuff but (as shallow as it sounds) it was a definite dealbreaker for me.

Those ladies that have said they have larger than average fannies. How do you know?

"I found his lack of self awareness irrationally irritating"

Every man with a very small dick would be well aware of his shortcoming, especially considering the ubiquity of porn now. Some would choose to deal with it with over-the-top bravado, which is apparently not the best way.

It's not distasteful if you don't like a small penis you don't like a small penis.

It would be fascinating to broaden the discussion to get gay men's take on the subject. Do the same expectations (apparently, judging by most replies on the thread) apply in male homosexual relationships? Can a small one be part of a loving gay relationship?

Macaroni46 post divorce I had a fling with a man that was a bit like this. We never got as far as full penetration but I remember him whipping it out even we were in the middle of a really passionate kissing session and saying "look at how big and hard my cock is. I felt a bit embarrassed as I sat there saying "umm yes." I might have dated him but he was a bit immature so gave up quickly.

I don't mind short - I just can't do thin. So if it's short and thick then all good. Medium length and thick is the best. Small wouldn't be a deal breaker if they were good sexually in other ways.

on a different note - I've had 2 guys who liked their nipples sucked - I hate, really hate, doing this. I don't know why.

MelbaToast maybe it was the same guy??

Scott72 I take your point but in this case I really think he didn't know cos there was so much talk of look how big my bulge is etc. He also lacked awareness in general life so it would fit with his overall persona.

This thread has really made me reflect and I think had he known or if Scott72's theory is correct, been open about his lack of size (and girth) we could probably have made more of a go of things in the bedroom. It was the fact that whilst he did try quite hard with other things sexual he wasn't actually very good - but thought he was. I felt I had no way in in terms of discussion and then when non-sexual aspects of his personality started to signal red flags, that combined with the disappointing sex meant he had to go.
Interestingly his ex wife cheated on him - one wonders if it was due to the above. And I don't mean the lack of size specifically, I mean his general lack of awareness in the bedroom and unrealistic opinion / arrogance of his sexual prowess.

So thank you for your patience. We gave it another go... and was a success! We had some very very good sex! I just took control a bit and did positions people had suggested, and of course it was different to a big one but felt good none the less. I'm relieved because the more I see him the more I really like him, he's actually perfect. So I'm glad I didn't write it off straight away!

Ah that’s great op! I bet he loved it too!