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Ex dp, ds, fake name, extra kids, second thread

793 replies

Fedupofitnow123 · 28/11/2019 22:47

Thank you for your continued support, I'm starting this thread regarding the impending court hearing tomorrow, if someone could link my previous thread that would ne highly appreciated!

OP posts:
GemmeFatale · 29/11/2019 08:23

You are an incredibly strong woman and a wonderful mother. I hope today is as easy as possible for you, recognising that even that will be hard, and tomorrow you can relax with your son.

CatsCatsCats11 · 29/11/2019 08:27

Good luck today Thanks

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 29/11/2019 08:28

Good luck today. This is a big step you are taking today. You will be able to start cutting the last ties to him soon.

drspouse · 29/11/2019 08:28

I read most of your other thread but didn't see the updates. Wow! What a piece of work!
Stay strong and I think the advice to make DS a life where you are now (school, clubs etc) is a good one.

Notwiththeseknees · 29/11/2019 08:29

Good Luck - I hope it all goes well for you both. You have been incredible!

QueenArseClangers · 29/11/2019 08:30

Good luck. You are an absolute hero who has the strength of a million Hermiones Smile

Sending you, DS and bump lots of love Flowers

Apolloanddaphne · 29/11/2019 08:35

Good luck today. Remember we are all behind you.

CoffeeBeansGalore · 29/11/2019 08:40

Good luck today, another one thinking of you Flowers

MrsAJ27 · 29/11/2019 08:47

Good Luck, wishing you all the best x

RandomMess · 29/11/2019 08:48

You are wonderful and strong and amazing KOKO Thanks

Pashazade · 29/11/2019 08:53

Good luck today OP you've got this. You are doing so well. Remember the Mumsnet army has got your back!

OrlandoInTheWilderness · 29/11/2019 08:57

Thinking of you today OP. You are incredible and so is your DS.

eddielizzard · 29/11/2019 09:03

You are an inspiration Fedupofitnow123. Good luck today Flowers

BlouseAndSkirt · 29/11/2019 09:03

Very much in my thoughts today, OP.

Keep strong, keep holding on.

TeachesOfPeaches · 29/11/2019 09:04

Good luck OP, I've been there. In family court, as we were both unrepresented, my ex was allowed to cross-examine me regarding my domestic abuse allegations against him. Totally legal! The mind boggles.

Tana433 · 29/11/2019 09:08

@Fedupofitnow123 You are amazing. Just rtft as it is the first time ive seen your story. You will be in my thoughts today, i hope all goes well. Sending love and admiration to you and your ds.

BlueStocking007 · 29/11/2019 09:09

Sending you all the luck and love in the world. Good Luck today OP. Flowers

Kahlua4me · 29/11/2019 09:13

You are doing so well and definitely taking the right steps for you and your dc.

Today will be tough but you can do it and will be in a better place for standing up for what is right for you all.

ScrimshawTheSecond · 29/11/2019 09:14

Thinking of you today. Hope it goes well.

Sssneks · 29/11/2019 09:15

Good luck, OP

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Fedupofitnow123 · 29/11/2019 09:15

Thank you everyone, having a solicitor, will this mean she is doing all the talking? I really clam up in stressful situations and boy am I stressed! My heart is thumping so hard in my chest!

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geekone · 29/11/2019 09:16

Stay strong. Good luck OP Flowers

Quartz2208 · 29/11/2019 09:17

Yes your solicitor will do all the talking unless you are called as a witness. You will not need to say anything or talk to him she will do that

northernknickers · 29/11/2019 09:19

Just spent an hour reading both threads..nothing to add that hasn't already been said OP, but just wanted to offer my support and best wishes for your new beginning. Good luck for today 💐

Blobby10 · 29/11/2019 09:25

@Fedupofitnow123 another one here who has read your previous posts and thinks you are one strong, awesome and amazing woman and mum.

Tip I was told for stressful situations like yours - breath as deep as you can then as you breath out imagine all the stress going out through your nose. Its really hard but might help. Good Luck x