Ex dp, ds, fake name, extra kids, second thread

[Fedupofitnow123]

Thank you for your continued support, I'm starting this thread regarding the impending court hearing tomorrow, if someone could link my previous thread that would ne highly appreciated!

@Reignbow I am ok thank you! Been so busy looking after little one and have loved the courts being closed.

I have applied for child maintenance but wx has refused to cooperate so far, he is ignoring them but has put 40 in my account here and there, totalling less than 200 though so far! So less than 200 in 7 months! They have asked if I accept it and I've said no so they will be pursuing him further! .

I just dont want court to start back up, we are so happy in our little bubble, life is so peaceful and ds has said how relaxed he feels and how it is so nice to go out when we want (after 4pm as usually we would be rushing back because of ex finishing work) and how he isn't worried about returning home because ex isnt there and he doesnt have to try and work out what mood he will be in!

It's just so nice!

Wow, just read both threads and what an amazing woman you are OP!
Happy to know you are okay now

@Love0910 thank you, it has been a real big rollercoaster but mumsnet has been amazing in support

Enjoy the peace of today, let tomorrow worry about tomorrow for now.

Remember that each day of peace you have you are silently building strength and calm for whatever lies ahead.

“You are Braver than you believe, Stronger than you seem, and Smarter than you think.” Christopher Robin (AA Milne)

I just dont want court to start back up, we are so happy in our little bubble, life is so peaceful and ds has said how relaxed he feels and how it is so nice to go out when we want (after 4pm as usually we would be rushing back because of ex finishing work) and how he isn't worried about returning home because ex isnt there and he doesnt have to try and work out what mood he will be in!

This made me really emotional, he sounds like just the loveliest wisest little boy and you sound like a brilliant mum who is setting him such a great example in the way you've handled all this. I think of you often as I'm sure do lots of people who have been following your journey from the start - you've done so incredibly well. I bet he is the best big brother too!

@backseatcookers he is an amazing big brother, he loves ds2 so very much and showers him in love and affection.

He looks after ds2 more than his own dad looked after him as a baby, even that opened my eyes that bit more.

I left ds2 asleep in the bouncer one day and asked ds1 to keep an ear out. When I came out ds2 was in ds1 arms, I asked how long he'd been awake and ds1 said "as soon as you got in the shower" asked why he hadn't come and got me as I leave the door unlocked for that reason which he knew and he said "why? You look after us all day, I'll let you have your time"... I cried like a baby. Just his general kindness and what a beautiful boy! I've told him he must get me but what a wonderful boy.

In contrast, when ds1 was a baby ex told me not to have a long shower as a way for a break and that I wasnt having half an hour break otherwise I'd want an hour!

I left ds2 asleep in the bouncer one day and asked ds1 to keep an ear out. When I came out ds2 was in ds1 arms, I asked how long he'd been awake and ds1 said "as soon as you got in the shower" asked why he hadn't come and got me as I leave the door unlocked for that reason which he knew and he said "why? You look after us all day, I'll let you have your time"... I cried like a baby. Just his general kindness and what a beautiful boy! I've told him he must get me but what a wonderful boy.

Bloody hell this just made me blubber - he is the loveliest boy!

Oh I am just so happy for you. No matter what, you are going to have THE most incredible bond with your brilliant boys forever.

Hold on to that (I know you already do, just bears repeating) because it is proof of what an equally brilliant mum you are.

We told you the MN army was behind you and we really are.

This is uncharacteristically soft for me but your thread has touched me for the duration of it and I feel very proud of you and your boys and excited for your future, all three of you!

What a lovely story - he's an absolute gem. Well done for nurturing such a thoughtful child.
I've posted on your threads (under a different name) and it's great to read about the progress you've made. So courageous.

So pleased you are all ok and congratulations
I had my third baby when I was going through something similar and a horrible court time so I know how hard it all is.
You are doing so well. One day you really will be completely free and you will look back on all this.
Sending love

I’m glad and pleased at what a bond you all have. Just take one day at a time. Remember, the longer you have in your bubble the more healing will take place.

Read both your threads from start to finish and wow!! What an inspirational woman you are!
Congratulations with Ds2 and what a lovely son you have.
Keep doing what your doing and your future will continue to be amazing.

I've also just read both threads and am so happy that it turned out well for you OP. Mumsnet really can help people change their lives for the better!!

great times OP...

Fantastic update OP. Wishing you and the boys a happily ever after

Congratulations-catching up on your lovely need. All the best to your (just the right size now) family 😀

News-not need!

Congratulations op! Your ds1 is an absolute credit to YOU!!
I am a decade past an abusive relationship..
Exh is a dark but distant memory. Your future is now bright op. Your dc are safe and so are you.
I know mn will be of support as long as you need us..

Great update that you and the DC are doing well