DRY 10!!!!

[CheesyNachos]

Welcome! This is the thread for those of us who want to abstain from alcohol. We are all at different stages of our journey, and many of us have some hiccups along the way, but we are committed to an exciting, fulfilling, joyful life alcohol-free.

Previous thread is here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2485290-DRY-9?pg=1

Everyone is welcome!

Yes! Why didn't I think of that it's advertised all over net flix. Thanks.

Post as often as you need to matron I know I was posting like a mad thing in my early days.

We loved breaking bad - just waiting for enough time to go at it again!

Have you watched Dexter Matron? The Bridge & The Killing were also good binge watches.

Oh Cheesy I meant to say sorry to hear you have been barnying too - it is rubbish huh. I know exactly what you mean about feeling fragile afterwards.

Fuzzy the Bridge was soooo good.

Cheesy I have had a disagreement last night too. It was with a friend about nothing really. It has left me edgy and very unsettled. The relationship is built on drinking together. I can't see it lasting. Part of me feels relieved but the other part is wary of knowing that a drinking session is there hoovering as a reconciliation.

Ahem hovering! I've not set my Henry on her..... Yet

And now I'm imagining a bunch of sober people having a hoovering party - awesome

Hi all. THanks Fuzzy and Matron. I am still feeling a bit fragile. DH is on a work trip and I was quite relieved to have the space to be honest. Weare talking on the phone okay. I just feel tired. I feel like DH is a bit too distant right now... he has so much going on (work is going really really badly). It is a bit of a low patch.

Cheesy if Fuzzy and I were to throw a sober hoovering party you would be first on the invitation list for a bit of cheering up.

Thanks. :) A bit of hoovering would not go amiss.

And when we get bored with hoovering we can leave the DHs to get on with it while we create fabulous mocktails and indulge in some colouring-in (or whatever floats your boat!)

Alcohol floats my boat. This is so much harder than I thought. It's only Wednesday! Day 5.

I want to be a moderator not an abstainer. Wah!!!

matron its only day 5. I was all at sea on day 5. Even on day 10. Around day 11-21 it gets so much easier it really does. You have to tough it out.
Its your choice at the end of the day. But I decided on my last half serious attempt that I would be a moderator and that just turned into years more daily drinking and weekend bingeing.
You have to give it a bloody good crack before it gets enjoyable. I don't miss my alcohol one bit now but I did when I was on day 5. There were a few of us who started sobriety at the same time on here and I don't think you could have met a cleaner bunch of mumsnetters.. we got through it by taking a bath and... posting. It was really really tough. Its not anymore. I exercise. I watch TV (I couldn't focus on tv for years or books)
I fall asleep rather than pass out. In bed. I hope it doesn't sound boring because on my day 5 it sounded as boring as hell.
I'm not out of the woods. I don't socialise much as I am a lone parent but I have a holiday in the sun booked which will be tough without the vino but its a long way off so no point in worrying too much.
keep strong and keep on posting.

Day 5 is the danger zone... when the shame and bad feelings start to fade and the thinking about the 'good times' and the 'OMG, is this forver, am I SERIOUS???!!' starts to hit.

Get through today, think about tomorrow when tomorrow comes.

bath. Posting. Herbal tea. Go wold on online shopping. Bed early. Promise it will help. xxxxxxx

(if all else fails, just think 'If I still want a drink in 2 hours then I will.Put off the decision for 2 hours. When the danger zone passes you will feel like you cannot be bothered to have a drink, I am willing to state this confidently.:) )

that was 'go wild not wold.

Come on matron you can do it. Im closing in on day 6. I would love to be a moderator too. I find myself trying to change my poison, holding firm to x number of drinks, but when we do that the day will come completely by surprise with no warning when we are back up dancing on the bar stool!

I think you have to embrace the sober life. It is freedom from making a tit of yourself (or at least wondering if you did). Sober and proud - in fact there is plenty of evidence that the youngsters are increasingly shunning alcohol. I am feeling positively fashionable, young and hip (although that phrasing probably undoes all that!)

On the hoovering party front i am very happy to host god the place could do with it.

Hope the fallings out all resolve quickly. Nothing like it to lower your mood further.

I want to be a moderator too. But I know I can't do it! I can be controlled in a social situation these days but it's a slippery slope and eventually I will end up knocking back a bottle or more at home on my own and suffering the consequences. I read somewhere that having one drink, when you are trying to moderate, is like fighting a war and giving all your weapons to the other side.

Dona Cheesy Bringon I've had a good cry in frustration (which turned out to be a handy time passer as I hid in the shower). Then I had another indulgent cry at your supportive posts as I am up watching tv alone.

Your advice is so so true anyone would think we are all going through the same thing

I'm out of the zone and full of potatoes instead of wine.

Thank you xx

jojo just as well you know you can't moderate as nobody on this thread will help you pretend otherwise! Or encourage you to try and moderate.

I was the worst at cajoling abstainers into a drink or being bloody rude to them if they declined.

Matron there is some grieving to be done as part of the process so the tears and frustration are natural and normal :) Don't know if you came across it on the blog but I wrote about it here Be kind to yourself and know you are not alone and it does get easier

I have also been crying today - frustrated with the kids, my house, the weather and yes, facing up to not being able to drink. Crappy day. Eaten a lot of chocolate. Let's hope tomorrow is better eh? At least we won't be hungover. Night night.

Jojo have a look at the grief link Lucy posted and know that you are not alone

Ps and we have a tomorrow as we made tonight!

Please dont be sad matron. Think about what you are mourning, in the words of allen carr you are giving up devastation, feeling like rubbish, being controlled by something that does not know what is best for you. In reality it really doesnt taste good either. I used to LOVE wine and champers in a huge way. I realised that ended in disaster quite regularly so gave it up 7 months ago. I now have sips of DH's here and there (really good bottles) and find the taste repulsive. Truth is i had had to train myself to like it over many years.

We will all have tough days, mine will kick in at the first sniff of a party. But we shall stick together and remind ourselves why this is a good path. X

Jojo chocolate and tears are helpful, honestly :) Sleep well - no hangover never gets old