DRY 10!!!!

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Welcome! This is the thread for those of us who want to abstain from alcohol. We are all at different stages of our journey, and many of us have some hiccups along the way, but we are committed to an exciting, fulfilling, joyful life alcohol-free.

Previous thread is here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2485290-DRY-9?pg=1

Everyone is welcome!

Evening Matron Do you have anything planned for tonight? I'm about to walk the dog then head to the kitchen and concoct myself a nice AF drink - maybe a Seedlip (thanks Lucy2610 for the recommendation!) and tonic with ice & slice... Then dinner, yoga, TV & bed. I have a nice new colouring book too which is a new thing, might do a bit of that!

Keep busy and treat yourself kindly x

Evening all, just catching up on the last posts and am looking forward to reading lucy's blog - I find blogs and not drinking info so useful for staying on track. I'm not a weekday drinker so not struggling tonight but I know I'll be wanting wine by Friday/Saturday. Have been invited out on a boozy mums night out on Thursday but I think I will say no - I find these nights awkward regardless of drinking or not and I'd feel under more pressure to drink than normal to try and fit in. Am planning to tell people in general that I've decided to carry on Dry Jan because I felt so much better and it helped my sleep issues. Now I need to make a plan to deal the weekend cravings!!

Hi Fuzzy I've eaten my way through it. Your evening sounds relaxing and gentle I will pre plan a bit more.

Dry Jan was a known event and I was braced and determined for it. Dry Matron is an emergency event! And a shocker.

JoJo those evenings are always a roll of the dice aren't they. Never know who will be there and whether you will like them or not.

Bringon are you holding on to your resolve in the face of being absolved today?

Oooh a wine wibble has occurred :( Not expected after all these days and I have had worse days and stayed sober. Please help Sober Warriors :( I need a helping hand please

Going on to Club Soda and Soberistas and In the Rooms as well to spread the load :(
Help!

Wine is available - hidden but I bet I can find it if I really try :( I don't want to go there tbh but the call is strong

Off to bed now. Pj's rather that ransacking the outbuildings :( But OMG I was tempted to go out there in the dark and the frost :(

help!

Are you in bed glad?

I'm just getting to bed following a huge barney with not so DP
So much for a calm chilled evening! Best laid plans and all that.

Hope glad and matron got through ok. Un-MN hugs to anyone who could use one right now

Glad, what happened? Are you ok?

glad hope you made it through last night unscathed. Sorry i wasnt there to help but it is very rare anyone hears from me after 9. Im either curled up in bed or the phone has packed in and i cant be bothered to go and charge it.

Sorry to hear about row fuzzy. Strangely my dh missed his calling as a barrister. Being sober to row would be my only hope.

matron yes i remain sober despite my reprieve from work. Mondays are easy as i go to a 'beginners' yoga class whereby yesterday i was doing headstands all by myself 😯. A friend suggested we go for a drink after the class one night. I enthusiastically agreed. Then as i walked to the car genuinely thought i cant think of anything worse than a drink. I must still be scarred from Thurs!

You okay Glad?

Yes. Got through it by hiding in bed and a combination of Headspace and AJ. Thanks all, didn't mean to worry anyone. xxx

Glad well done! I hope you feel good day because you deserve to.

Fuzzy what a surprise turn of events. Replan your lovely evening for tonight.

I made it. Was a terrible grump but here I am this morning releived

I've managed to cancel a work lunch today. I'm leave my newly invited colleagues with the clients from the off and simply not going.

Bit worried about Mothering Sunday I have a table for 30 booked, families including children. There is only 1 woman who is not a boozer and happily moderates. I might go for an ear infection anti-biotics excuse as I can think of nothing else that would not result in pressure to drink.

Can you drive matron ?
I've been going for a 'truthful' explanation as to why I'm not drinking. If I am in a group I'm happy to say I'm giving alcohol a miss because its making me feel very ill. Even a small amount. This is what happened. My hangovers just got so awful even my bones hurt! (Ok it was probably just my muscles) I don't go into the frequency of my drinking nor the quantity... I don't overshare. I find that by saying this I don't raise eyebrows by coming up with antibiotics stories. No one has queried this but if anyone were to suggest that I take a drink I'd happily get quite shitty with them because why would anyone encourage someone who said that alcohol makes them feel ill to have a drink?

Well done all - today is a fresh day I guess!

I really enjoy lingering over my morning now I don't have to faff around with hangover cures in the early hours

Hi all.

Glad

Fuzzy hope tonight is better. I had a barney with DH yesterday morning that has left me crumpled and fragile all day.

Not having a good morning. I am just out of step with everyone. Managed put my foot in my mouth a few times already. Just not thinking, trying to make a joke that is ill-received, all of that sort of thing.

Thank heavens I really do not have to do much until a conference call with a US-based colleague this evening so I have taken myself back to bed with my computer.

I bought this last week and am devoting half an hour each morning to working through the exercises. Another tool in the sober toolbox!

www.amazon.com/Womans-through-Twelve-Steps-Workbook/dp/1568385226

Aaargh, I did a favour for my neighbour this morning and she just called in with a bottle of wine as a thank-you!! She is French and it looks like a really nice bottle of red - that will teach me to do favours for people, chuckle... Thankfully red wine isn't really my thing so I can happily leave it. If it had been white wine, gin or bubbles then I would be in trouble!

Well done to those who resisted the temptation last night.

I have a virus and feel dreadful. Been reading sober mummy's blog from start to end while resting.

I've just been invited to drinks after work. I swerved it no hesitation.

I am thinking about the truth of alcohol making me ill and sharing that information without giving too much detail. It means I have to first accept it as a fact.

Jojo things that are not my drink quickly become my drink if that's the only option available. Hence my love of cocktails (it's just strong alcohol chucked together). Can you gift it away?

proud of you glad a real achievement not giving in when that urge is there and is overwhelming. Well done.
Well it's March now and I've been sober since January (with 1 wee slip). Feels good. 2 people have said I look great in the past 2 days! I've not lost weight and am still a spotty wreck but the puffiness has gone from my face and my eyes are definitely brighter and seem bigger cos they're not half shut lol! I feel 100% better than I was (wouldn't be hard as I was just surviving). Joined Udemy last night. Am a sober reading addict now!
dona am gonna steal your 'it's making me ill' line if that's ok. A nice simple explanation. Can blame my ripe age and hangovers!
jojo give someone that wine as a present asap. You'll get a brownie point and temptation will be gone. Maybe it won't be a temptation but I'd drink any old shit if desperate (and have) .
Have a chilled Tuesday evening everyone.

You are all so right - just found myself eyeing that wine. Was called into school this afternoon by DS1's class teacher - she and the classroom assistant are concerned that he might be having 'absence seizures' where he zones out completely - it's a form of childhood mild epilepsy I think. Have made doctors appointment and done a bit of reading about it. Feeling bad that I've not really noticed (if it is that of course) - he does sometimes seem to zone out but we thought he just wasn't listening!!
Will give the wine to DH when he gets in. Am out at a meeting tonight and driving so am safe for now.

I would like to keep occupied with a good series/box set on net flix. Me and DH enjoyed Breaking Bad and Gomerah has anyone got any good suggestions?

It's for your own benefit as if I don't find alternative activity of an evening I will over post you all to tears

Matron Better Call Saul? :)