DRY 10!!!!

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Welcome! This is the thread for those of us who want to abstain from alcohol. We are all at different stages of our journey, and many of us have some hiccups along the way, but we are committed to an exciting, fulfilling, joyful life alcohol-free.

Previous thread is here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2485290-DRY-9?pg=1

Everyone is welcome!

Morning, hurricane! Is it just the stop drinking app that you're all listening to? He has a few!!

Going well here though a bit annoyed to be having a joint pain flare. Thought I'd be feeling all full of the joys and energetic by now but instead am a bundle of pain!! Feeling bit sorry for myself but my resolve is still strong and positive.

Hello everyone. I hope it's ok if I try and join the thread again. I posted briefly a couple of months ago and stopped again as didn't stay dry but have continued to read the thread and have taken a huge amount of advice from here. Whilst I didn't stay dry following my last post I did a lot of reading/thinking about my drinking and had made some progress re how much and when I was drinking and I have attende counselling around other issues which had also helped but in the last two weeks I have slipped significantly with me drinking at home the last two Fridays at home. Drinking about two bottles of wine and in the absolute horrors this morning. I can already see how the week will pan out again if I don't stop this pattern. I will spend today wishing the day away hating myself. Tomorrow will still be feeling the affects. I don't drink during the week so no big deal to not drink mon-thurs. By Wed I'll be starting to come around and by Friday I'll be ready to repeat. I can't continue like this. I absolutely hate myself when I do this. Apologies for the long rambling post!

Hello stars :) Be really kind to yourself today as there is nothing nice about the horrors. Eat shit, nap, and watch crap tv if that's all you can manage (which was usually my remedy when really hungover). You're thinking about it all and each time you wake feeling like this is another nail in the coffin to your old life.
Already been for a run - it's lovely out there

Thanks Lucy you are very kind. Unfortunately no such options today have a child's birthday party to attend so I'd better get my act together. Then this evening some reading and thinking about why I have reverted to self destruct mode after a pretty sensible xmas. Well in my world anyway! It's so frustrating as I know I will have no interest in drinking until Friday nite rolls around again next week but then it's all or nothing with me.

stars you sound exactly the same as me, as in EXACTLY the same pattern as I've never been a midweek drinker either but totally hammered it again and again and again at weekends. All the same feelings as me too!! You've mentioned that you've been reading the thread so have a quick look back through my initial posts......then my collapse off the wagon last weekend!! The reason being you will see how my mood changed drastically for the better when off the booze, I was literally buzzing.... and then how horrific I felt after last weekend. It has got to stop for both of us.......but as Lucy quite rightly says, that will start with treating yourself kindness and compassion.
Preces yes it's the quit drinking app. I've listened to the sleep mode mainly but did the wake mode when I got home from work yesterday. I really like it, it's fab!! Are you going to try it??

stars hello
There is no worse feeling is there? than the hangover horrors.
When do you plan on your day 1? Its great that you can do mon - thurs sans vino. I couldn't even manage a day. But I have gone from a 7 day a week drinker to a zero day a week. So you can do it!
lots of structure helped me in the first few weeks and completely changing my routine.

Also my hangovers were fucking awful by the time I gave up so when temptation hits I visualise them. That helps a lot. As does posting here.

hurricane I've not tried the app yet. I planned to last night but sleep got the better of me
I'm really enjoying my evenings (when I get past 8 or 9pm) that I find I am trying to catch up on TV then read a bit of a book.. I am obviously trying to catch up on around 10-12 years worth of reading.
I actually read with both eyes now as opposed to squinting through one just to stop the words jumping

Donaj yes! And I used to be the one eyed telly watcher too as well as the one eyed book reader!! When you get round to the app and have listened once or twice let us know what you think xx

Ive tried a couple of the other apps which were free over Xmas - they are good as well :)

Thanks everyone. I really do appreciate it. Hurricane it's an awful pattern isn't it and I think it's easy to gloss over how problematic it is as mon-fri I function fine go to work deal with the kids etc. Same re the hangovers they are just becoming horrendous. I have done dry spells in the past but I always seem to get stuck after about two weeks and then a massive blow out but absolutely the difference in me when I'm not drinking is huge. I'm finding alcohol is increasingly affecting my mood for the worse and I'll be feeling down now until prob mon or Tues. Coming on here again does feel like a massive step in the right direction and I've had a talk with dh about how I need to break this pattern so he is committing to supporting me

Stars you really are in the right place....and it's fab that DH is supporting you. Yes I totally understand the downers, for me it's like a combination of depression, anxiety and just general sadness and the blackest blackness and kind of needing to be loved. Stupid thing is I am loved, very much so. I'm very lucky in that respect. Sounds like you are too xx

Evening all. Don't know if any of you caught the Guardian Society last night and today about Britain on the Booze? Have written a blog post about it which you can read here which has all the links including the video. It is all well worth a read/watch if you need a reminder of why we are here :)

Was anyone else pissed off with the phil n holly 'hilarity'?
You'd think I'd never drunk with my outrage

I'm in a mess - I work as a dog walker.

Yesterday, one of the dogs I walk was attacked by another dog. I had to prise the dog's jaws apart so that the little dog could escape.

I have already started a thread about this.

I informed the owners immediately and took the dog to the vet. I am relieved to say that my client's dog had no injuries.

I paid the bill and made sure that the dog and owner returned home safely.

Tonight, the owner telephoned me and sacked me from walking her dog.

I feel awful - the owner is livid with me.

Just so upset and sad. I love that little dog and will miss walking him.

And I have had two glasses of wine.

I don't care about myself anymore.

Orange I'm so sorry to hear about your experience Can you tip the rest away and regroup? It's not your fault if another dog attacked the dog you were walking. Try not to punish yourself for this

Thanks Lucy - I'm going to pour the rest away, but I have had at least a bottle of wine tonight.

More like one and a half.

orange that is absolutely not your fault. At all. End of discussion. (On dog matter)
Massive hugs xx

I'm cross on your behalf now..

stars welcome :)
orange I couldn't find your thread but I am so cross on your behalf! Please both of you, be kind to yourself tomorrow ( today?) and take vitamins, drink loads of water / herbal teas etc and rest up. Also listen to Andrew Johnson app on maximum therapeutic strength and read some sober blogs, maybe? Our own lovely Lucy[[http://ahangoverfreelife.com blog is excellent, as is her Udemy online course :) and sober sassy lives is also really great and she is doing an online support week now. Belle (tired of thinking about drinking) is also excellent

Thanks all - last night wasn't a good one but today is a new day,

Thanks for the welcome. Got a suprisingly good sleep considering and feeling more positive than expected today. Orange hope you are feeling ok this is. It sounds like you did everything in your power to protect the little dog you walk and it's very unfair you have been made to feel like this.

I did 18 days dry before having a few drinks at a work function a couple of days ago. I didn't go too overboard and am now dry again.

I think it was ok for me - I plan to not drink most of the time and possibly gave a few on special occasions. Have reset my done drinking app and will see how we go.

Orange - so sorry about the owners reaction regarding the dog walker - it wasn't your fault it was attacked by another dog and you responded perfectly by taking it straight to the vets. I hope she reconsiders.

Morning all Thanks Glad Today's blog is all about me - well us really - middle aged mothers being secret not lemonade drinkers Belle is fab and helped me massively in my early days. Don't know Sober Sassy but she commented on my blog for the first time last night :)
Orange be extra kind to yourself today