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DRY 10!!!!

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CheesyNachos · 28/12/2015 06:22

Welcome! This is the thread for those of us who want to abstain from alcohol. We are all at different stages of our journey, and many of us have some hiccups along the way, but we are committed to an exciting, fulfilling, joyful life alcohol-free.

Previous thread is here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2485290-DRY-9?pg=1

Everyone is welcome!

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Loubilou09 · 24/01/2016 18:40

WOW the weekend has been busy on this thread! I haven't caught up with everything yet but just wanted to thank those who responded to my flying worries thread on Friday Grin. Sorry I haven't posted until now but I was absolutely white knuckling on Friday night and then seeing that Dona was also white knuckling a bit made me just close the thread down as I was so so tempted to open the Prosecco or at least have some at the pub that evening!!! I think it was a combination of just entering three weeks - getting a bit bored with it - due on and wanting sugar and well because I am addicted and sometimes it hits you. However I didn't have any and we did go to the pub but I chose a couple of diet tonics and it was a really nice evening.

I have been thinking about the flying and its weird - I am not anxious or nervous and I would never drink on a flight or when travelling until a few years ago but so may people seem to do it. We have been going on holiday with friends for the last couple of years and they are all in the bar whatever time of day as it is just acceptable to have a drink whatever time of day if you are flying. It was a bit of an eye opener to be honest, that coupled with doing more long haul in the last couple of years for work has mean't business class flights and the free champagne is sitting in the bucket and it feels so decadent and "how the other half live" that I have welcomed it with open arms. Also travelling with colleagues who all seem to get stuck in and I have thought why the hell not! I am going to do some more thinking about this one over the next week or so and see where I am then. I had a great chat this morning with two very good friends who are doing the same as me and we talked about "playing the movie to the end" and what it would mean getting to the end of the flight and regretting doing it and that coupled with all your lovely messages has made me really think again... thank you!

right off to read the rests of the last two days posts :)

donajimena · 25/01/2016 07:57

hurricane well well well. I downloaded the app last night. I absolutely love it. I don't know if it will work (not drinking at home is going ok so the test will be on a social outing) and I have only used it twice.
I meant to use it once but I had the most dreadful insomnia last night so at 230am I put it on again. Its absolutely magic. I must have gone to sleep before we counted down to 1. I just love how I feel listening to it. Far more warm and fuzzy than wine ever made me.
Its going to be my go too app if I start thinking about drinking at home. Thanks for all the endorsements. Its ace!!! Grin

donajimena · 25/01/2016 07:59

Oh and despite only 4hours sleep I know I can get through whatever today throws at me because I'm not hungover...
Happy Monday all x

Loubilou09 · 25/01/2016 10:10

I downloaded that app about 2 weeks ago but haven't listened to it yet. I might listen this week. I also had a dreaful nights sleep last night for some reason. I have a conference this week which is always a dreadfully boozy affair so think it come into some use this week!

TeapotDictator · 25/01/2016 10:19

Another endorsement for Andrew Johnson. I listened to it every night during the first month or so of stopping, and loved his voice. I still put it on every now and then if I wake in the night and can't get back to sleep (he also has a sleep/relax version).

I had a weekend away this weekend, off visiting an old friend of mine who has just lost both parents in the past few weeks. She is beside herself with grief. Had yet another of those instances where I was acutely aware that had I still been drinking I probably would have made excuses not to go, but definitely felt as though I was doing the right thing. We had a good weekend talking and me listening to her just get a lot of it out. She's having such a hard time coping with the sheer volume of grief, as she describes it. She's 9 years sober and attends AA regularly, so I went with her to a meeting yesterday morning. All good stuff, and lots of food for thought as I drove home yesterday afternoon.

Loubilou - playing it forward is such a good tool in those circumstances. The first glass (esp of fizz, and in an airport, ooh look at me being all glamorous and in a business lounge Wink) always looks so attractive. But that first glass would wake the sleeping beast, and it would be hard not to slip down the slippery slope...

Orange - how are you doing? It sounds as though you behaved impeccably and the dog owners have lashed out in upset and were clearly in the wrong to blame you. FFS. Those of us with drinking issues are often sensitive types and this kind of criticism/rejection hurts us deeply and is hard to shrug off. Hope you're feeling better..X

Preces · 25/01/2016 12:25

I've downloaded the app too but haven't listened yet. Maybe tonight?

Does anyone feel their emotions are surfacing after being buried ("bottled up"?) for years? I feel a bit fragile. Not like I'm going to drink, but just wobbly. Yesterday something annoyed me a bit and normally I'd have been fine but I ended up in tears over it as I was actually very angry indeed.

Food for thought... Like I've not just been self-medicating with alcohol to feel better myself, but also to suppress "difficult" emotions and make things more anodyne for those around me...

I'm sorry all my posts are so self-centred. I will reach out more once I've got a bit further along the road. This is self-preservation at the moment...

DAY 20 (?!!) Shock

Loubilou09 · 25/01/2016 13:41

Well done Preces - day 20 is excellent!! I am on day 22 today which is something I have ever only done once before in the last 15 years or so other than in pregnancy.

I am also sorry my threads are terribly self indulgent, however I don't really feel that I have enough experience of this to actually advise anymore and other than saying well done to everyone I am not sure what else I have to offer other than my own experiences Smile

Orange your experience with the dog is unbelievable! I have a little doggy who gets walked quite often by a lovely dog walker and I wouldn't in a million years sack her if my dog got bitten by another person's dog, how on earth was that the dog walkers fault? Hopefully they have calmed down and can see some sense?

LikeaHurricane · 25/01/2016 17:24

Hey Donaj glad you like the app....I love it and I honestly think it is really helping me. I completely agree with your analogy of the warm fuzzy feeling it gives you. I've listened to it every night since last Tuesday on sleep mode and never got to the end..... Until the early hours of Sunday at about 3.30 am I woke up and was wide awake so I listened to it all the way through which was great but I was still awake. So I downloaded his sleep therapy app.......and off to the land of nod I went!! Thanks to everyone who recommended it. I'm going to carry on listening nightly for now. I have had no interest in drinking this weekend even though DH has drunk red wine (my only tipple) each evening. Not masses I hasten to add but he has drunk it. I wasn't bothered and I've woken up feeling fantastic each day.
Orange I think the dog owners have massively overreacted in sacking you, I really do. I also think they will be regretting it now but probably won't want to admit that which is a shame for all of you. I hope you feel a bit better, please know that it really wasn't your fault, just like we have all said xx
Lucy I enjoy reading your blog very much, just need to catch up on it, I haven't managed to read any of yesterday's posts on it....
Had a very busy weekend and time at work but hope to catch up properly with you soon.

Lucy2610 · 25/01/2016 17:25

Preces yes my emotions awoke and hit me like a tsunami in the early days. I too self-medicated both to supposedly feel better and to suppress difficult emotions. It does settle down but if we've kept them bottled up for so long it can feel very overwhelming initially Flowers
Loubilou adding to all the other voices that have already said travel drinking appears very glamorous but in reality is nothing but dehydration & tiredness (that was my experience anyway!)
Orange let us know how you are doing :)

Lucy2610 · 25/01/2016 17:26

X-post Hurricane Thank you :)

LikeaHurricane · 25/01/2016 20:39

Is it a bit weird that I can't wait to go to bed just so I can listen to my Andrew Johnson quit drinking app on sleep mode??? Grin

donajimena · 25/01/2016 21:02

Thats exactly what I am thinking hurricane I can't wait either Grin

LikeaHurricane · 25/01/2016 21:47

Snuggled in bed just about to listen to the Andrew Johnson app. Goodnight sober warriors xx

donajimena · 25/01/2016 22:27

Ooh I'm jealous. I'm not ready for bed yet. Enjoy!

Orange1969 · 25/01/2016 22:44

Hi all you sober warriors - after a horrid weekend and drinking, I am glad to say I am alcohol free tonight.

Weekends are such a big trigger for me - am going to have to work on that.

gladistopped · 26/01/2016 13:54

orange water, treats, vitamins, rest xxx

Alastrante · 26/01/2016 14:05

Hi all
I managed a solid 16 days, then had a work thing which was really busy and physically challenging, and 'deserved' a drink when I got home Sad

Doing this has made me realise that the physical need is not there, so I talked myself into thinking I'd have a couple of drinks that night and that would be it.

A week later I realised I'd drunk every night for 7 nights - not a lot, but something, maybe to quell the sweet tooth? I'd also had an anxious and shitty week with work, and I think the alcohol caused rather than helped this.

I really need to not drink, don't I? I can't self-regulate very easily, I can't let it affect my productivity and it does. Ugh.

donajimena · 26/01/2016 15:03

Alastrante I've been there so many times. With my falling off the wagon becoming a constant daily drink for years. So no need to slink in we've all done it!
Whats your plan of action now?

donajimena · 26/01/2016 15:05

I think what made it different this time is posting on here when the urge was overwhelming.

Alastrante · 26/01/2016 15:41

Thank you donajimena Flowers

My plan of action is: don't drink!
Lots and lots of water.
I'm frantically busy so will need to work in the evenings.
I literally can't afford to lose time - the next day I'm not hung over but I lack the drive I need right now.

Lucy2610 · 26/01/2016 17:21

Alastrante Onwards :)

Orange1969 · 27/01/2016 01:56

Alas - we all know that feeling of "deserving" a drink.

It's very hard to resist, I know.

Loubilou09 · 27/01/2016 05:01

Alastrante, don't beat yourself up all of us have done it many many times over and I am sure will do it again at some point. The key thing is you have returned to the thread which is excellent! I have followed these threads for the whole 10 of them and never posted when I have had a few days off but then gone haywire and might not have re-visited the threads for another six months!!

Likeahurricane - you are really selling me the AJ app - I really will try and give it a go tonight Smile

I got a work conference for next couple of days...going to be tough but I think I am going to be okay. Braces self.

CheesyNachos · 27/01/2016 06:40

Hi all...... fell off thread (and MN too mostly) as things continue to be complicated at this end and mad crazy busy.

Wanted to get myself back on thread and will go back and re-read now.

Happy sober days Sober Warriors.

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Orange1969 · 27/01/2016 07:38

Hi Cheesy - sorry to hear things have been fraught Thanks

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