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Ex being sentenced today. I need some hand holding

215 replies

MsMarthaMay · 04/09/2015 11:03

Long story short. My ex husband raped me numerous times during our relationship. I finally reported him last year. Last month he pleaded guilty to 2 counts of rape and 1 count of assault by penetration. He left it right to the last second to change his plea to guilty but I was so relieved I didn't have to go to court.
He is in court for sentencing today. I am a bit of a mess. I feel so shaky and scared. I know he's going to go to prison so I don't know what I'm scared of.
I have to phone witness care later and they will be able to find out his sentence.

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MsMarthaMay · 07/09/2015 20:15

Just a little update. He's back in court tomorrow at 10am. I need this to be over now. I don't I can stand it much longer.

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PacificDogwood · 07/09/2015 20:17

Oh, good luck for tomorrow Thanks
I cannot imagine the strain on you.
I'm here to hold a hand.

WipsGlitter · 07/09/2015 20:20

This time tomorrow it will be over. You did a brave and good thing. Flowers

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 07/09/2015 20:29

Thanks for the update Martha. You are an inspiration and unbelievably brave .
Love and support. We're all here to hold your hand.
Flowers.

Pandora97 · 07/09/2015 21:03

Good luck, you're an incredibly brave woman. I'll be thinking about you tomorrow. Flowers

catzpyjamas · 07/09/2015 21:18

Hope your DS is doing better. You are being so strong, just need to keep going and it will be over soon. I'll be thinking of you Flowers

kittybiscuits · 07/09/2015 21:22

Good luck Flowers

lunar1 · 07/09/2015 21:28

Will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Fevertree · 07/09/2015 21:36

Just wanted to let you know I will be thinking of you tomorrow at 10am. I think you have done an incredible thing. Well done and thank you Flowers

fastdaytears · 07/09/2015 21:38

Thinking of you. I really hope you get an answer tomorrow. Cake

Twolefttoes · 07/09/2015 21:42

You are so brave, well done and good luck for tomorrow.

AcrossthePond55 · 07/09/2015 21:45

Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Well, actually, I'll be fast asleep at 10 am 'your time', so I'm thinking of you now. But I'll check in as soon as I wake up tomorrow 'my time'.

TheVeryThing · 07/09/2015 21:50

Good luck tomorrow, you are immensely brave.Flowers

MissDemelzaCarne · 07/09/2015 21:59

All the best. Flowers

Original poster
MsMarthaMay · 07/09/2015 22:01

Thanks all. I hope you know how much it has helped to have your support. You are amazing people Flowers

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RandomMess · 07/09/2015 22:02

Thinking of you for tomorrow Flowers

calzone · 07/09/2015 22:03

You are so brave. Well done.

Haggisfish · 07/09/2015 22:17

Thinking of you also and will be at ten am.

springydaffs · 07/09/2015 23:23

You're the amazing one Flowers

Thinking of you tomorrow at 10. I do hope this is it now , that it's over at last.

Hope teen dc calmer? That's the thing isn't it, so hard to parent when battling revolting ex.

Yay your local police Star

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 08/09/2015 07:31

Just a few hours to go now - hope it's all sorted and done with this morning.
Stay strong lovely - you've done so well so far! ThanksStar

Penfold007 · 08/09/2015 07:33

Nearly there, stay strong.

petalsandstars · 08/09/2015 07:39

You're amazing OP Flowers

MakStout · 08/09/2015 07:40

You are so brave amd strong Flowers

BathtimeFunkster · 08/09/2015 07:43

Keep going, you are nearly there. Flowers