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This doesn't look good does it?

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Loserville · 02/04/2013 19:37

My dh left for work at 5pm, 10 mins later I get a text from him 'Hi sexy, get your boobs out'. I just replied with a ? And had no reply.

He never sends text like that to me thank god so I'm thinking it was meant for someone else. Why send me a text like that after just leaving the house 10 minutes before.

It looks suspicious doesn't it? Or else it's a pathetic attempt at spicing things up Confused

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CandlestickOlder · 02/04/2013 19:38

Oh dear Hmm

It's certainly very odd

kinkyfuckery · 02/04/2013 19:39

The fact that he hasn't replied since makes me think it's more suspicious.

When is he due home? Do you usually talk/text at all whilst he's at work? Any other signs that he could be playing away from home?

LynetteScavo · 02/04/2013 19:40

Ewww...are you sure he's gone to work?

I would so be looking forward to his excuse when he gets home. Hmm

sleeton · 02/04/2013 19:46

Have you checked to see if he is at work?

Uppatreecuppatea · 02/04/2013 19:47

He's just been nicked and is probably shitting himself somewhere.

I also can't help but comment that he sounds like a real charmer. Hmm

Poor you!

TheOrchardKeeper · 02/04/2013 19:47

even if that is spicing things up then it doesn't look good Grin

But seriously...I'd be trying to find out whatever I could. Has he been protective of his phone/laptop/computer?

Late from work/going to extra meeting etc? Has he seemed normal lately?

Hope you're ok Brew

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Loserville · 02/04/2013 19:48

No clues to say he has been playing away at all. His workmate picked him up in work vehicle so I know he's at work. He's only doing a 4 hour shift so due home just after 9pm. I personally wouldn't have thought he had time to be cheating tbh but I just don't get this text.

And yes the fact he didn't reply is making me even more suspicious.

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Loserville · 02/04/2013 19:50

And my initial thought at get your boobs out was ewww too! Even if it was meant for me. Yuck.

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CardiffUniversityNetballTeam · 02/04/2013 19:50

Are you sure it was him that text you and not one of his "hilarious" workmates playing a joke?

CandlestickOlder · 02/04/2013 19:51

He'll have the next few hours to think of an excuse so get ready for a wave of bullshittery.

In the meantime I'd start going through his stuff looking for any clues of adultery.

I suppose - maybe - this could be an in joke amongst guy friends. Referring to a mate's man boobs or something. And texting him if picking him up or something? As in 'I'm on my way, see you in five'. Because it's a bloody horrible 'flirty' line. But strange he hasn't responded.

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Loserville · 02/04/2013 19:52

He's not particularly protective of his phone. He plays some pool game on it but that's it really.

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TheOrchardKeeper · 02/04/2013 19:52

Do you plan on just asking him straight out when he gets back?

You can usually tell a lot from their initial fumbling for excuses/cover ups (if they are lying).

Sorry you're having such a shaky evening. I can't imagine how unnerving that has to be. Wasn't the nicest of texts either!!

Cheeky git could at least reply Hmm

CostaTen · 02/04/2013 19:52

Sorry but people always find the time if they want to cheat.

No doubt that this text was meant for someone else. So sorry OP.

ohtobecleo · 02/04/2013 19:52

What's the bet he comes home with a been cooking up for the last four hours excuse that one of his workmates was playing a trick on him with his phone.

Hope it turns out to be innocent but it doesn't look good :(

tillyann2013 · 02/04/2013 19:55

If this was my dh, I would automatically presume it was a joke by one of his mates. He might not even know about it?.. Or am I too trusting?

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Loserville · 02/04/2013 19:55

I felt sick when I read it. I'm just going to ask him straight out about it. No point beating about the bush hopefully he's not been beating about someone else's bush

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TheOrchardKeeper · 02/04/2013 19:55

Things is, most people who'd genuinely been texting a friend as a joke or whatever would've instantly replied to say something along the lines of woops, sorry, followed by brief explanation...otherwise of course it looks dodgy.

This lack of reply is what's weird about it. He must know how that sounds...

So I would prepare for a wave of BS & a dismissive afterword or even an attempt to make out it was nothing & to stop overthinking things etc.

Hope we're wrong for your sake though! I'd just be cautious, to say the least.

TheOrchardKeeper · 02/04/2013 19:58

^but if it was a joke to one of your friends...and your DP texted you with '?' surely you'd want to very quickly clear it up and explain so they're not stewing, as OP obviously was? It's all a tad weird from an outisde point of view to be honest...

CandlestickOlder · 02/04/2013 20:03

I think there is plenty of doubt! It could be completely innocent. Hope it is OP Smile

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Loserville · 02/04/2013 20:03

His workmate was driving the van so wouldn't be able to text, I thought of that. Just need to wait and see what he has to say about it.

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pregnantpause · 02/04/2013 20:04

I'm sorry to post this, but, I know a man, a relative in fact who is cheating. He leaves in the work van with the 'boys' they drop him off and pick him up. The deal is whenever each gets a woman lined up (they work in houses fitting kitchens, so on estates where they'll be working for a few weeks) the other boys will cover and get the extra work done. They're all in on it and sickeningly go on holidays as families when at home with their wivesSad I told one of the wives once and was shot as a messenger, not believed and now they hate me.
They always find time to cheat, and men are often wiling to cover for each otherSad
Good luck tonight.

digerd · 02/04/2013 20:06

Would he have already arrived at work in 10 minutes or still be in the car with his mate?

tillyann2013 · 02/04/2013 20:09

I really don't think it sounds dodgy at all, his phone fell out of his pocket, he went to shop. His mate found it and thought it was be hilarious to text his wife, like a teenage boy would! Hope it's this scenario op and nowt else. X

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marriedinwhiteagain · 02/04/2013 20:09

Could he have lost his phone? Have you tried ringing him or going to his workplace? Really hoping there's a sensible and true explanation.