The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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Here we go again....

Evening ladies :)

I have a date in the morning! Just coffee with a OKC guy I've been chatting to since the weekend. He seems very down to earth and funny.

I think I'm going to ditch the intelligence guy. He's not been in touch since I didn't get all excited over his mysterious job disclosure. I'm not sure I want to spend the afternoon with him! I'd persuaded my mum to have the dc overnight so I may keep that set up and arrange something with tomorrow's date if it goes well.

Or I may be that saddo who goes to the cinema alone! It's very very rare for me to have time to myself!

That's great, Charlie.

Why were you still giving Mr Spook you time, again?

Cinema alone sounds good.
You can either do a chick flick and enjoy it, or something your kind of guy would enjoy. (and be on the lookout for potential single men)

I had a very nice police officer come to take a statement earlier. Tall, blonde, really good looking, heaven on earth, good with little man.......the list went on and stopped at MARRIED

oh well an hour of eye candy anyway. Come on you would have looked too.

I am firmly on the I am single sofa.

girly I had the same message! We must be getting the same guys messaging us - either that or there are 2 total saddos using that crap line!

I think we will have to start comparing notes :)

I think I just got excited by the prospect of the actual date itself. God it's been so long since I went on one!

And I was flattered I guess. I was just dipping my toe in the dating pool and this guy came to me. And I honestly thought that wouldn't happen.

Didn't realise how low my self esteem was :(

But todays guy seems warm and funny and I'm pretty excited :)

But nervous too.

Also, would you guys date a seperated man?
I feel wary about them.

Oh and I had this last night : " u look like u give great head. Want 2 test my theory?"

What is wrong with these guys? I can't believe they think messages like this will work! I mean, come on! Text speak?? Really??

Oh and I was mildly annoyed at the subject too :o

And for the record, I promise I'm not seductivly eating a banana in any of my photos!

I'm separated, Mr Nice is separated. His XW lives about 250 miles away whereas XH is about 5 miles away. I know you can't be completely sure of anything but I am pretty sure he isn't about to get back with her. Waiting for someone to get divorced could take a while and seeing as I'm not a bit hypocritical really.

If it helps, I am separarated.

Only because divorce is taking a long time. It was filed almost a year ago.
Ex lives in a different country and he is only in contact with DS, or because of DS.

Tbh, I have stayed away from separate men mostly because there's enough drama in my life already.

But if I was single and 100% free I might consider it in special cirumstances. That would mean feeling 100% confident in the relationship (no second guessing, meeting friends and family, having almost total dedication) and that he had divorce proceedings well under way.

Good luck with it.

We have all given too much time to wasters at some point or another.

I dont give too much thought to whether men are separated or divorced tbh, half the time they are probably not being entirely honest whatever they say - and in my case its not like I ever see them again so not worth getting too worried over it really!

Nothing more from Mr Ill. So that's that. Told my friends I was out with on Saturday, and they were like given he spent all that night texting me. They think its very odd, and are as baffled as me as to where between then and now I went wrong...

Mainly because I have no interest from anyone else (this weeks dates also having predictably vanished) I'm going to let my friend give Mr Jubilee my number. Although of course once I do he probably won't even call me, which will just about put the tin lid on this week!

According to blokes at work 3 months after separation is an acceptable time to get back on the market...

However I did go out with a separated guy years ago ... turns out he wasn't at all but the signs were there after a few weeks

Sponge, are you sure you want to do that?
I know its Been a bad week, but didn't all your friends warn you off him bevsgse of coke? ( am I remembering that right) and didn't he refuse your number when you offered it ( sorry if I've got that wrong)

Please dont let this weeks Dickheads push you into something which might not leave you feeling any better.

I am separated. 8 months

Sorry caught the wrong button.

So I am.separated. I left 8 months ago. The divorce is taking forever which does my head in. I know I can't go back and I don't want to either.

I don't know watch it probably wont make me feel any better, but I'm not sure it could make me feel any worse than I do.

the coke thing possibly is not as regular as I'd assumed (more like once a month than every week - though I know that's still a lot, certainly by my standards where I've never done any sort of drugs at all, and never would) My friend also still thinks he's a bit of a dick tbh, and he probably is, but in that respect he's no worse than the idiots I meet online.

But honestly knowing my luck I either won't hear from him at all, or he'll stand me up, or we'll go out once & never hear from him again...

Do you really want to go out with him though or is it jsut because he'll just have to do??

Sponge, coke taking is bad news regardless of how often.

I suppose you could go out with him if you wanted to go to a specific thing and needed company, but you could still end up getting into something you don't really want to.

And it might make you feel even worse.

Second the coke taking is bad news.
I was married to a regular user and they are sly so you don't realise how often they take it or how much.

Drugs are a no for me. I also have never touched the stuff. And like you wouldn't, I have seen the results of drugs and its not pretty.

Sponge, I cant see that It's a good thing to do. And you are worth so much much more than someone your friebds describe as a ' bit of a Dick'

Obviously I can't tell you what to do, but as a friend, please dont :(

I know your self esteem has taken a battering, but risking it further on a man with a bad rep from people you know is not the answer. It's only going to hurt you further.

@Charlie
" u look like u give great head. Want 2 test my theory?"
What is wrong with these guys? I can't believe they think messages like this will work!

He knows he's not likely to get a date with a stupid line like that, he's trying to use you as a free wank service

he wants you to indulge him with some rude banter, he uses this to become sexually aroused so that he can jerk off

Can I join? Just starting with the online dating thing and it would be good to have some people to moan with and cheer me on!

hello western :0

sponge I agree with just about everyone else. I dont think Mr jubilee is a great idea. :(

one of my potentials resurfaced, Mr Beardy, the fundraiser. He resurfaced with, 'you wanna exchange numbers and meet?'. I think I need a bot more chat than that? I dont feel 'wooed'

I think I see what you mean Snape, his tone seems a bit off...he should be conveying some acknowledgement of the fact that you'd be doing him a big favour if you agree'd to swap numbers and meet up.

Of course I'm not privy to the context of his remark so I may be getting it all wrong?

well there isnt really a context - he'd been completely silent since the weekend, the last exchange was me saying I couldn''t do saturday, but offering a couple of alternatives during the week.

Hmmm, but id be tempted to go, based on his other factors. Some people dont do online chat very well and are way better in person than online... And some are lovely online then have nothing to say in person..say yes, but stick to a day time date maybe???

Hi western..jump right in :)

this is true - I normally wait for an online click before deigning to meet in person. then they're hideous anyway!