The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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Here we go again....

watch have a great holiday :)

post good luck with the op. If you feel in need of support then we're here. These threads are mainly focussing on dating but that doesn't mean that we can't provide other forms of support too, so anytime you need a slap with a wet fish

sponge don't give up all hope just yet.

I've now completed my course and have a City & Guilds in Business and Admin.

I've been unemployed just over a year now and have had to start on some workfare course. I saw my advisor for the second time on Wednesday and noticed a poster on his cubicle wall about it so asked if I could go on it. Good job I did notice it because I don't think he'd have mentioned it if I hadn't.

Watch have a great holiday!

Chaotic well done! I will have been unemployed for a year in August and I will have to go on the workfare course too, if I am still out of work. I like the sound of the business and admin course. My advisor is just the same, they don't mention anything at all to me, I have to nag them for everything.

watch:enjoy holiday
sponge:is ok to feel that way,is hard to trust them when weve been lied to over and over again, but you never know he maybe good,all the best.
just got back from park results with kids,only 4 nites but had fun.Got myself fwb so going off dating for now,he was my ex(i left him for my ex husband bcos he wasnt the married type lol).Hes got all the package and we have a chemistry,we both not looking for relationship but who knows.He drove two hrs to visit us at holiday park n it was great.Am tired of shaging strangers i meet online,at least i know he will be there when i need a shag.lol.My 46 yr old date is still in contact,he is lovely but have not been able to tell him i have no feelings for him,(poor man).

that thread title is almost tempting me to sign back up to POF... esspess as he lives near me :-D
however I'm not sure I can keep up with the POF thing at the moment

feelinglonleyI'm also tired of shagging strangers..it gets old:(
shagging tired old strangers gets especially old :o

So why stick with one night stands? Can't you see them another night when they're not strangers?
(I hate one night stands!!! If I fancy someone enough for a shag, I will want to sleep with them another night, too)

I haven't been shagging strangers, or having one night stands, for the reasons a couple of you have mentioned. I'm online dating, originally looking for a long term relationship, but find myself updating those check boxes to include other stuff just don't think I could ever feel comfortable having sex with someone I don't know that well.

I started a thread about it here

The problem is I'm getting wildly horny and it just makes me want sex. I don't think I'd feel good about myself afterwards though. Not that I'd know where to go for it!

hmm, well if I fancy someone enough for a shag then I might give it a go, but, in my experience finding someone attractive is no guarantee that you will 'gel' sexually.
Mostly one night stands have occurred because I didnt enjoy the sex enough to want another go.

Understand that things are different if you want a relationship Henrietta but I dont really enjoy that level of togetherness.

ONS are no longer my thing. I done a couple yes just friends was one and had a FWB which although there was feelings wouldn't have worked long term and he has a girlfriend now, but that's good with me. To be honest I went off the rails for a while after the ex, searching for my sexual confidence to return. Now I no longer shake with fear my ex really did a good job of fucking me up but with some help I am good now. Just friends healed me in that area, he was the first person I didn't shake with or feel guilty about after. He therefore is not a regret but a blessing, whether he was still with his wife or not, he gave me something back that I had lost, I thought forever and words can't describe ny gratitude for that.

We all dating to find a better partner or relationship but to me online dating is meeting strangers.All the men I dated on pof made me believed they were genuine and looking for long term but after two three dates n shags they just disappeared,.The good once were just not my cup of tea(sad),I guess my type of guys r all liars n just not looking for long term.I've hears successful stories about online dating but to me is putting urself up there for strangers. I do feel vulnerable when am honey so is better to have fwb untill I meet a genuine Guy.

hi, it's Tolly I name changed. well I decide this morning to reactivate my POF account.. the first two people to message me were marrie and looking for no strings... and another Is only 23 ! bless.. I'm 35.. but he has a very nice body!! lol
I have stated lookin for anything... omg they all appear out of the woodwork don't they !

So I had my date with the handsome architect. It went well I think. We got on, he was attractive, we were sitting very close together doing that almost touching thing at one point which felt nice...

And then at the end of the date he said goodbye... and kissed me on the cheek! The bloody cheek!

So I thought he wasn't interested. But he has since texted to say that he had a lovely time and "hopes to see me again next time I'm in London."

What do you think ladies?

Go, he was probably trying not to push your boundaries and be really nice, go go again. LOL. Seriously he was just being a gentlemen, poor men cant win can they, they kiss us and they are too full on, we dont want to be tongued or they dont kiss us and we write them off as not interested? He wants to see you again, and you do him so go for it.

After our first date Mr Nice didnt even kiss me on the cheek. But was in touch again about an hour after the date finished :) He was being shy - wasn't until nearly the end of the second date when we kissed at all but then things moved nice and quickly :)

I really wouldnt discount someone for kissing your cheek at the end of a first date.

Agree with MLM completely

I would like to see him again. He was nice. And very much a gentleman actually. Quite old fashioned in lots of ways I thought, for example he insisted on paying (although I offered to split the bill), asked me if I was alright in quite a protective way when a car drove past too fast, and did that gentle hand in the small of the back thing when walking through a held open door - know what I mean? All of which was unnecessary but quite nice. So yes, perhaps he was just being polite and gentlemanly. I wanted him to kiss me though!

"Hope to see you next time you're in London" is a bit non-committal though isn't it? I sent a text back saying, "Yes it would be lovely to see you again - I'd like that. Let me know when you're free." So the ball is firmly in his court now.

thank you henrietta its not often people agree with me completely

Those on my facebook will see two new pics of me have been uploaded, and apparently i am beautiful and sexy.

Feeling really good and happy.

I reckon he wanted to kiss you but sounds like too much of a gentleman to do so.... GOD WHY IS IT WHEN WE SO WANT THEM TO THEY DONT?? But when we really dont want them to they do?

Ah, have just had a text back: "I'm free lots, but you live a long way away... So it's really down to you. The only day I'm busy at the moment is next Saturday. x"

What to do, what to do...

Work out what day you are free, and say well am free on (delete as appliable) monady/tuesday/wednesday/thursday/friday/sunday, and go from there. Easy (how comes she says it but can never take her own advice?)

What he means is that he's a bit worried you may turn him down. So suggest two dates as soon as you can, and ask which he prefers. And possibly pack a toothbrush & a spare pair of knickers when you visit.

Taghain

So did you text him with your dates of availability?! (I second Taghain's suggestion btw!)

I am having a rather good weekend. I'm not sure what to say about what's going on, other than that it's making me happy. And even though I have to go to mediation with my total plank of an Ex tomorrow, I'm still smiling!

Long may it continue :)

That's great you're having a good weekend Sponge - enjoy. And best of luck with mediation tomorrow too.

I have contacted him with dates of availability so we shall go from there...

Good stuff, hope you can set another date soon :)

Am fine with the mediation (other than the cost which is painful) serves only to remind me how very stupid my Ex is, and how very glad I am we are no longer together!