The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

[watchoutforthatsnail]

Here we go again....

These men twats are definitely not worth your tears.

me thinks there's a fair bit of 'lying about your age' going on in those womens profiles Lueji!

i think you may be right Mercury, in one of those...didn't cut and paste the one not in blue. Problem is the amount of men who state on their profile they would go out with a woman from 20 yrs younger to about 5 years younger. Occasionally they will go up to the same age as them, rarely above 5 yrs older....So if you were 50, you are looking more towards the age 70 bracket unless you lie about your age and hope you get past that when they meet you and see how fab you are It's a bit chicken and egg, but I suspect the Menz started it first...

Hurrah sponge :)

I know It's hard,but from this board you can see pretty much everyone has the same experience. So, It's not just you. Occasionally someone gets lucky :)

I do think you have to be quite thick skinned for online dating, or take it all with a pinch of salt, because the high failure rate does lead you to wonder if it is you ( 60 Fucking dates where it was wrong, and a ton of crap sex and I was wondering if I would ever find someone interesting and funny and get some good sex again... It had been 9 months since mr epic sex)

In the words of bon jovi, you just need to keep the faith!

( sorry, been up all night with an ill child)

Also, I'm still very excited about the Albert hall thing :) and even better, when people have been asking who I'm going with, and i reply ',my boyfriend' Yeah, thats kinda fab :)

sponge there is NOTHING, I REPEAT NOTHING wrong with you and anyone who tells you or makes you feel there is is only doing so to make themselves feel better.

Chin up girl (i tell myself this every day) all will be okay.

Sponge,
I think the main point is that you (we all) must be yourself and feel confident in yourself.

Nobody is wrong or right for anything. We all have average traits and distinct traits.
(even the scary women in those profiles...)

Finding a good match can be hard. And I'm not sure what is best (or worse): not wasting time beyond a first date or finding out after going out for several months that the person is not the right one.

Have you tried speed dating, BTW?

Interesting point about men lying about their ages too. I hadn't really considered it, but you are probably right.

Hi guys....sorry to but in but was advised to join this thread for a bit of advice..........OK, I have succumbed to the world that is internet dating, and have registered on POF (yes, i know!!), however, I have not put my picture up as I know quite a few local people who are on there, though I have stated in the 'blurb' that I will send a picture if requested. But.....I don't know how to do this....has anyone else succumbed to this form of trying to find a 'fish' and know how to do this?!? Thanks in advance :)

not butting in at all 3kids welcome. :)

I think you'll find a lot less traffic with no photo - I'm not sure if POF lets you upload private pics and then you can allow someone to see it is you so wish, or whether you might need to do that by email - in which case, set up a seperate email addy for dating..

Hey 123 :)

Yes, yes you can do that. I used to do it a lot. You upload them as normal, and then in the manage photos bit, un check the box that is labelled ' show on Profile'

When you send messages, it will give you the option to attach a pic

Hi 3kids

you'll find that everyone on this thread has succumbed, yes. :)

Meanwhile, I have hidden/deleted my picture on the two dating sites I was on. I have only left my profile so that I don't have to re-do it should I go back any time soon.
Previously, I've just checked around for any messages received, etc, but not even one interesting profile. Well, maybe one, possibly, but I have only made a note of it, for future reference, just in case.
We met again yesterday and won't be able to see each other again this week, and then going on holiday. But, I'll probably go by where he will be, while en route to my holiday, which will mean meeting his friends, probably for lunch. But also DS, so we'll have to be very discrete.

He's already proven that he can be discrete the other day, so I think it will be ok.
As it will probably be on/by the beach, I'm hoping to do some checking before embarking on activities more of the indoor variety.

My initial flurry of activity has dwindled to a hlat - I'll be back to the sofa on friday i think (soonest point at which I can hide my OKC profile again...)

Thanks for that watchout, I am using the application on my phone and it doesn't give me that option unfortunately :( Maybe I will check the computer version when i get home to respond to the ones that have asked for photo's and ones i am willing to give it to :)

Can I butt in too?

Quick question, how do we know if we are all not chatting to the same guys? Especially if in or near London? Is there a do not touch with a barge pole list somewhere?

We trust we aren't I think. Although I know I am not. I am firmly on the sofa, unless of course leonardo dicaprio knocks on my door, then it might change or I meet someone in real life.

We should probably have a do not touch list. Or something.

Oooo.....i could add to the do not touch list in the Gloucestershire area!!!

There you go 3kids, told you! :o

Girly if the guys you are chatting to all disappear either before or immediately after a date, irrespective of how keen they may previously have seemed, then you may well be in touch with the same ones as me :)

So, I haven't had a text from Mr Ill since Saturday (if it matters, he sent the last one that night). So I decided to text him earlier and suggest a day to meet. That was 2 hours ago, and no reply. I think the lack of reply may be my answer. Not crying though yet.

Snape!

Why are you hiding it again so soon?

I got with current Mr VN when things were pretty much dead, then I decided to do some screening and sent out a few messages.
I don't think it needs to be all flowing and constant.
You have holidays to consider too.

So, why not bother much for a few days, then do a blitz session, then don't bother again, etc? Activity-rest-activity-rest.
If a bonus comes your way, then great.

Plus, Friday night should be an active day for men with no company...

Girly, it would be fun to rate men. In any case, why not submit profiles for MN approval stamps? Something to do for those of us who are not currently looking for a mate online...

Can I join you guys?

I have a date for Friday night

A guy I "met" on POF months ago. We originally planned to meet up and then I had to cancel, I then got a new job and was working every hour and I just never had time to arrange anything. We kept in touch through the odd text and occasional facebook convo and then yesterday he asked me if I still fancied meeting up at some point now that my hours have calmed down ... so here we go!

He's 40, I'm 31 - I'm trying to look beyond that lol

We're going to meet up at a pub somewhere. What do I wear???

Thanks Nicholas Teakozy

Good luck for your date MrsTodd....wear what you feel comfy in - if its just a pub, jeans and a top would be ok IMO :)

and this stupid plus one party in a fortnight is getting me down. last time I saw this particular group of friends I was dashing off from another party to meet a guy (who, needless to say I never saw again - that was the one who text me lots about how much he wanted to see me etc. not enough to actually see me of course). they all assumed that it was someone 'ongoing' and because I get fed up with their faux sympathy about my constant singledom, I let them think that.

so of course they are now expecting me to pitch up with 'him' (well they never met him so any man will do frankly). and when I dont it will be like the smug married scene from bridget jones diary...

MrsTodd you can not go wrong with jeans, heels and a nice top for a first pub date. Always works for me!

So, this list, how should we do it? I am only just back on pof, day 2 for me. It's going well so far but I am very relaxed about the whole thing, that approach works well. If I like the look of them I reply or contact or block if I don't. Don't settle fr 2nd best, if that means you have to be patient then sobeit.

Sponge, I know you have had a hard time, these guys do not know the real you so therefore it's not personal, if they can't see how fab you are then that's their loss x

sponge dont worry. Say you enjoyed being with him while it lasted but are now enjoying being single again (not exactly a lie)

mrstodd my ex husband was 9years older than me. I was 16 when we started dating too. I don't think age really matters and my upper age limit is about 8 years older but no younger than 19 lol.

I think I can only manage a week of OKC at a time! It's funny being 'away' from it, for a bit, lots of familiar faces..

Dunno. The attention from vaguely attractive ones is nice, the fat, old, toothless elderly gentlemen ratio far exceeds the vaguely attractive ones though, and as my standards are unlikely to ever stoop that low, it all seems a bit of a waste of effort... I'd rather go on a run than on a date just now, not because meeting new people fills me with dread, but because I am far more likely to get sweaty & out of breath from a good pavement pounding than a good pens--pounding.

The universe has two days to send me someone... serendipity & all that. Then another few months on the sofa until hormones get the better of me...