Dating, Loitering and Sofa Surfing, It's All Happening! Dating Thread 16.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

In continuation from previous thread:

Watch do not talk exclusivity until you have assessed the contents of his trouser department after the 5th date. Only after you have assessed the contents of his trouser department the 5th date do you decide whether or not the willy he is worth the commitment.

And yes, of course you go on Friday!! What on earth are you thinking woman! Today you were the BOSS of a coconut shy, a few of his friends will be nothing compared to that!

I've got to go make coffee, I've just watch Paying it Forward and I am in bits! BITS!

Cross posted.

Oh.......just oh.

Massive red flags, I'm afraid. Massive.

:(

Watch, I'm not happy with his behaviour at ALL if I'm honest. When push comes to shove, he's being a cunt, and he knows it. So he apologises and then does it again.

It's made me really quite cross actually!

Bloody hell Watch :( I don't like the sound of how he's behaved at all. It seems from what you've said about him as though it was really out of character - on that basis I hope there is an explanation, that he was out of sorts, wobbling because you were going away or whatever, and that he mans up and properly apologises and explains asap, because it's really not fair on you.

Men really are shit sometimes.

Watch I agree that his behaviour sounds not good and seeing your other posts about it sounds like something is up with him. He's definitely not being fair to you :(

The Cumming is still an issue. He is now doing it, takes a few hours Though and only happens if he does it himself. Any noise or input from me puts him off.
That's starting to annoy me.

I don't know. One min he seems very.confident and the next insecure..

Doesnt matter though. It's been 4 weeks. I dont need to.find excuses for his behavior. If he doesn't sort it out I'm done.

Just a thought Watch but I wonder if he is well into porn, and that is one of the reasons he finds/found climaxing difficult, because he has become desensitised to penetrative sex. I wonder if his performance tonight was porn related, because he was determined he would climax.

Sorry if I've not explained myself very well, very tired. Hope you are ok. I know you are a tough cookie so it must have been really unpleasant for you to be so affected by it. I'm sorry he is showing a twatish side.

Watch: if it doesn't sit right, it ain't right. It's weird as he has been so attentive previously and making plans etc.
He will want to see you again. Guaranteed. That's when you may need to have a think about feeling disrespected (if that's the correct word). You didn't get a chance to talk to him about the sofa sex as he had to get his train. Yeah, talk to him.
Omg your camping trip sounds so much fun. Will you have chilled wine or rum in a bucket too? I went through europe on a motorbike (back) a couple of years ago with a very good, platonic male friend. I had the time of my life. Didn't fancy him at all and no pressure just major fun. Every night we drank champagne or wine we cooled down in a collapsible washing bowl.
I'm going to arrange a date with someone of pof. So far so good. No cock pics, normal text messages. No negativity.
sponge: the day will arrive soon enough.
MLM. Take whatever you want to the grave and just spend time being there
Snape. Spas fill me with fear. The site of men in dressing gowns makes me think of the haemorrhoid clinic and it's a vision that is hard to shift. I think swan around looking clandestine would be what I would do.
I've ran out of money one week before pay day. Grim.

He's said he's tired. Thats why.

I dont think that's good enough.
It is out of sorts for him, but then again I don't realky know him, do i.

This is tricky Watch, the first time something abusive 'uncomfortable' happens, is always out of character. This could be a one off or it could be him feeling more comfortable with you and showing his true colours. But tiredness is in no way a good enough reason or excuse for treating you the way he did. He is out of order.

I wonder about the porn thing too...I think a lot of men now who are single for any length of time tend to become a bit reliant on porn, and as Time said a bit desensitised.

tries not to think about this in relation to my date next week whos been single for 4 years

It's not at all nice how he's behaved tonight though. And as you say after 4 weeks you dont need all this, it should all be happy and relaxed and non-stressful.

Even if he is generally a nice bloke, it's not nice that he has this disrespectful side to him.

"I dont think that's good enough" Neither do I.

His behaviour is a fucking disgrace, quite frankly. Nothing less.

There was another thread today "Is it me" or something - where a woman was worried that her boyfriend wouldn't let her touch him anywhere or talk to him while he was trying to cum because he'd "lose focus".

I'll see if I can find it. & link.

I don't think it's good enough either.

I'm ALWAYS tired, but I never treat anyone like that.

Weirdly, there's another thread on here tonight with similarities... here

He's acting like a prick. You don't need it. Being tired is a really feeble excuse for being so utterly disrespectful

Hmmmm.

I also text asking if he was ok.as he didn't seem like himself.

No reply..

Cock.

I'm wondering if I should be a bit worried about myself Sponge. I have become very friendly with my rabbit over the last 3 years. I might be a complete flop when it comes to the real thing

Here....

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1499478-Sex-Ive-got-a-funny-feeling-its-me

Ring any bells, Watch?

Yeah, saw that thread.

Forgot, he was about to cum when we were shagging, but apparently I clenched and that made him lose it.

Not good at all

Him not replying isn't good either as he isn't making the effort to reassure you that the problem is with him and not you. Don't text him again. I have a feeling he may go for the sympathy vote. He needs to take responsibility for the way he has treated you, no excuses. There are no excuses.

Me too, Time. I've got to the point where I need the highest setting (fecking noisy, tho!) to get there - finger doesn't work anymore. This worries me a lot actually.

Nope, not good at all. Blaming you for his failings is a red flag and it's not acceptable.

I'm so sorry Watch

Yep, exactly the same here Crikey. I keep thinking I should 'retrain' myself.

Hmmm..lenghtly email recieved. Appolgising, blaming being tired and ' forgetting himself'

Not convinced.

Hands up everyone who thinks Mr "Lovely" will be wanting to come round tomorrow?

I do.

I'm sorry watch but he was terribly disrespectful towards you this evening, there is no excuse for that. If he was too tired then he shouldn't have had sex with you if he was going to treat you the way he did. And what does he mean 'forgetting himself?' He forgot he was with a real live person, who has feelings and would like to be treated with respect? I'm disgusted with him.

If he does want to come round tomorrow, I wouldn't be letting him. I wouldn't be so easily forgiving as to let him come round, I would let him live with the consequences until I got back from holiday. But I am a bit of a hard faced 'no one messes with me' cow, these days

AND.... after what happened tonight, he should be ringing you, to talk to you, with his voice, so you can hear how sorry he is!! Texting and emailing is not acceptable.