Dating, Loitering and Sofa Surfing, It's All Happening! Dating Thread 16.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

In continuation from previous thread:

Watch do not talk exclusivity until you have assessed the contents of his trouser department after the 5th date. Only after you have assessed the contents of his trouser department the 5th date do you decide whether or not the willy he is worth the commitment.

And yes, of course you go on Friday!! What on earth are you thinking woman! Today you were the BOSS of a coconut shy, a few of his friends will be nothing compared to that!

I've got to go make coffee, I've just watch Paying it Forward and I am in bits! BITS!

Hello everyone!

My latest update is that I seem to have a boyfriend... MrAmazing4thdate that is. It's been two months, eight dates, the last four of them all rather epic long ones staying together for nights/weekends.

Anyway. We had the conversation, and that's the way it went...!

Unfortunately it isn't without complication, as he has just been offered a job in Hong Kong, but I'm trying to cross that bridge when we come to it.

Keeping it off fb due to me having two visible break ups on there last year, and this new thing all being a bit unsettled with his job offer and whatnot. We also both agree that we don't want anything mega serious just yet (told some mutual friends we were together and they went off on one with delight and going on about weddings and hats, and I broke out in hives... literally!)

Anyway though, for now it's all very cool and I'm super happy. :o

lubey how exciting Hope you get things sorted re the job offer.

wrt paid sites, my impression was that the men there tended to be less of a 'good catch' ...my theory is that they know their chances are not good and they think that paying will increase them?

Aww it's lovely to catch up and see how everyone is getting along. Alas I'm still single, I've had a flurry of requests for my company but tbh I feel really cynical about it all and say no to everyone that asks me out :( I think it's because last year was such a disaster for me that I'm overly wary now. For those that can't remember me I was the one who met Mr Genital Warts, Mr Dubai for my 2nd date and Mr I Like Doing it with Men too. Ho hummm but I love reading your stories :)

Ah Lubey!!!!!! That's fab :) how lovely :)
Dont worry about Hong Kong yet, just see what happens, but that's just lovely, and you sound so happy. I'm pleased for you :)

great news lubey :)

it is absolutely pissing it down here and has been since 7am. thankfully my friend had the sense to hire a marquee.

off to get ready as it starts at 12 then to spend the day drowning my singleton sorrows. will be back at 3 if i get too pissed off with it all

Brilliant news Lubey, and Hong Kong is perfect for a LDR! And it means you will get lots of presents when he comes back home!

Raining heavily here too Sponge. Just put your wellies on and have a good time.

Hello lovely people, have been lurking here for ages but never had the gumption to join in.

Feeling very fed up this morning - long story short, div 2 yrs ago, sep 5 yrs, a few ons and short relationships in that time, nothing wonderful happening but at xmas met a guy, things moved v quickly but realised he was only there for the sex (earth-shattering...) and he stopped communications as soon as I got over the sex and started suggesting nice dates to go on. So a month or so later met new guy, seemingly very honest about his marriage/divorce situation, all went well, some lovely dates until a month ago I realised things with his wife were not as clear cut as I'd thought so decided to cool it. Found out yesterday after much deep, heart-felt discussion that he's at home and no intention of divorce. End of story - so betrayed - I can't believe the details of our lives that we (I) shared and confided and I'm such a mug to have fallen for it.

I'm 52, I should know better. I feel lonely and alone, all my friends are married so the internet seems to be my best option. I enjoy sex so don't see that its a problem if its on the agenda but I feel so fucking used. I know you'll tell me not to go there with the sex until several dates in, but I enjoy the closeness and the intimacy. Why does this have to be so shit?

Hello new people. I look astounding in a hat, I expect some wedding invites in the near future. :)

I am about to have a major wobble. :(

Good night out, got home around five. Lovely flat mate basically told me straight about PM, said I was 'all over' him in the bar (dont think i was too bad tbh) that he would never be what i wanted him to be and that he is moving to the coast in the very near future. PM hasn't bothered to tell me this, prefering to spend a substantial portion of the night telling me just how good he is at oral sex...

I am wafting around singing 'i dreamed a dream' from les mis and going for pointless walks in the rain. Bollocks and fuck. He's due over later today, i basically want to greet him with, ' so. When are you leaving?' (& i do know that this is 2nd hand drunk flat mate information, but suspect all of it to be true.)

Budge up on that sofa time.

raskolinov. I know it is very little consolation, but it's not you, you werent stupid for not seeing through his guy, sadly there are lots of 'men'. Who will take advantage. There are good guys too though, the trick is to have a bit of a wallow, then dust yourself down and get back on the dating horse. says she :)

Now if you'll excuse me, i have to watch bridget jones a zombie movie.

:( snape
I would just greet him with that tbh. If hes telling other people, but just not telling you, that's not fair ( or what friends do)

Nice of your flatmate to tell you, even if It's not stuff you want to hear. Did he have any advice ( knowing the two of you)

Sorry, I know its crap :(

Thank you Snape, as it was dawning on me yesterday what was going on, I texted him, saying "I need to work on my 'hard-nosed bitch' persona - he replied, no you're lovely as you are .... great, that makes me feel a whole lot better. But I seriously think I do, being honest and understanding doesnt cut it, does it?

No advice and frankly he's not really a voice of authority in matters of the heart. He's still asleep, he'll probably apologise when he gets up. I know i need told. though. I spose, on the silver lining side, distance is my friend, it will be easier to recover when he's not here.

Cunty fanny balls though.

Yeah, it might end up being a good thing, in disguise as a Fucking awful thing.

But It's still absolute shit.

And bless your flatmate, crap at relationships or not, It shows he cares about you and your feelings to tell you. Good friends like that are hard to find.

ooh new title :)
the bloke I've seen a few times has turned into a text nightmare. he is textun me nonstop and get the huff if I dont reply straight away! and keeps asking if he said something wrong. is this what women are like if they dont reply straight away! lol
it quite putting me off him. he's nice other wise... no sparks though as yet. I was out with my friends last night and he had to keep texting asking to meet me otherwise. I ended up just completely ignoring him.
I've deleted my profile from POF for a while. I think I need a break from there for little while again!

my friend is also in there and we sat in the bar spotting people we'd seen on POF.. was quite amusing.. till one winked at me and he must have recognised me too.. that's a bit un-Nerving :)

Arguably, but i think he could possibly take some diplomacy lessons. ' :) '

Stuff all this fucking hand holding & strolling around with his arm around my shoulder. I think i might need a cold turkey approach.

rask that is men for you. Take it from me, me and just friends, slept together then he went back to his wife. It happens cos men are arseholes.

Internet dating is easiest tbh. Chat, meet, see what happens. I have slept with a few internet dates but erm yeah no proper relationship as yet.

Snape why did your flatmate choose to give you all that information. From where I am sitting it wasn't given in a manner fitting of a friend, more of someone who is jealous of the relationship you have with PM. And how can PM afford a move to the coast when he can't afford a night out? It's not making sense. And if it is true, then I would be absolutely fuming at PM!! Don't be afraid of alienating him by giving him bloody what for! How very dare he treat you like this!

Hi raskolinov, as Snape said, it's not you, it's them. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get right back on that horse!

Flatmate is awake, doesnt remember a thing. This is good. Apparently there isnt a definitive date of leaving, i am putting this down to a lot of beer. There are issues around the moving to the coast thing (ex girlfriend, now a lesbian lives there with her fiancee...) which are rather large issues.

Meh. Spose we have to talk about it at some point, but from the perspective of being severely weepy hungover, probably not just now.

Bloody buggery fuck. :(

Does flatmate really not remember a thing or is he in fact regretting opening his mouth and using hangover as an excuse? But that aside, yes, it does seem a discussion is in order.

Afternoon everyone. Ann Summers party went well until it finished. I was the onnly single woman there and once the woman had packed up everyone was leaving to go see their partners! I nicked borrowed a bottle of wine as I ad no one waiting for me at home

I wrote a really good psot for the last thread then it told me I couldn't post it.

My daytime date for next saturday is arranged. I was thrilled pleasantly surprised when he said where ever I chose to meet would suit him.

I've had a week/10 days of lovely, caring texts from him.
I think he's gorgeous, he's quite shy and a little bit cheeky too!
I hope he turns out to be all he seems to be.
We'll have to wait and see.

Off to a twins 8th birthday party later, lots of fun and cake.

Hmmm. Suspect he will have a spectacular reconnection of synapses a bit later on and be absolutely mortified. I am saying nothing, i am waiting for him to remember...

...spectacular memory loss though as i did go to bed on the verge of tears.

Oh! Got an email from the teacher from leeds who looks like Tim Minchin who i havent heard from in aaaaaaggees. he's in london for a gig and do i fancy beers this afternoon?

Options:

(1) go, have very angry sex.
(2) reply, apologetically.
(3) ignore.

I cannot face beer...I could quite fancy a extremely ill advised, rebound shag.

Awhh Snape I hope you soon feel able to ask PM about it, I think it will probably bother you a whole lot more not knowing than it will actually knowing. And you never know, it could be something he has said in a depressive moment and not be actually intending to go through with. For a start, he will need money, something which he seems not to have. Plus, he would be losing a superbly supportive and wonderful 'friend.'