Dating, Loitering and Sofa Surfing, It's All Happening! Dating Thread 16.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

In continuation from previous thread:

Watch do not talk exclusivity until you have assessed the contents of his trouser department after the 5th date. Only after you have assessed the contents of his trouser department the 5th date do you decide whether or not the willy he is worth the commitment.

And yes, of course you go on Friday!! What on earth are you thinking woman! Today you were the BOSS of a coconut shy, a few of his friends will be nothing compared to that!

I've got to go make coffee, I've just watch Paying it Forward and I am in bits! BITS!

Singlemum, I have no idea if I am having better or worse luck than you. I just know that I am In Love.

I have googled the symptoms and that's what comes up.

It's not what I was looking for.
It's the opposite of what I was looking for.

ooo how come? where did you meet him?

watch yes I thought so too! Saw one of my friends yesterday and she was that he didn't take my number, but then followed it up by saying she was glad cos actually he's not at all the sort of man I should be dating lol!

is it the 4th date today? have a fab time if so :)

singlemum welcome :) some of us are having some success with the online stuff, others - like me!- have entirely given it up after one too many dodgy emails, I'm just taking my chances with who I meet in real life

On which note I went out again last night (my liver is now waving the white flag...) with some friends & their husbands. There were a few single men there but none really my type. Overheard one of the husbands saying to single bloke - about me- 'you should be chatting her up, look at her she's bloody gorgeous' which I was and about. I mean, I know I'm gorgeous but its always nice to hear other people think so!

sponge it is always good to know you are gorgeous.

And girls please may I have a break down moan to you? First off today is a hard day, today 7 years ago I got engaged to my ex, and a year later we found out I was pregnant with junior, who I lost :( I also phone my solicitor tomorrow to get the affadavit in motion (spelt wrong I don't doubt)

Yesterday I also got a message via my best friends daughter's status from my ex under a fake profile. Really angry. Apparently I am being spiteful in keeping liam away from him FFS I have offered a contact centre and agreed to mediation which I was told we should be suitable for (shuttle) but he didn't bother pursuing it. Whose fault is that. And you shouldn't walk away when things get tough. The worst thing though was he is getting my best friend and her family involved. He is of course blocked. Anyone know if I can get a non molestation order?

I met him on POF. It's really not a bad site. The only thing I will say is don't waste any time replying to those who seem "not right". They are "not right".

Ooh Hatesponge, sounds like you are having a great time.

Sorry for all that self indulgence. Please ignore.

Miracles have you spoken to your friend about this?

I told my best friend what he had done and how sneaky he had been. I just feel mad and hurt. I haven't spoken really to anyone about how I feel about the divorce because everyone seems to think I should be celebrating. I did talk to someone yesterday after i read my best friends daughters status remark, and we both ended up in tears and ended up walking a good few miles, walking and talking. Why should I feel bad he doesn't see my DS? His choice.

I will be relieved when the divorce does come through but he even makes that difficult. He said he will sign the divorce depending what it says if I want it that bad. Well too late to sign now, I am getting it regardless.

Sorry this should be on another thread really. Just you guys give great advice.

Still loitering here ... you lovely ladies have no idea how helpful it is to read your words of wisdom - I try and figure these things out for myself but often find I'm too trusting. Last week's disaster (finding out supposedly lovely man was married and no intention of divorcing after 4 months of dates and endless texting) still happened despite me being added on a number of social/business networking sites - my business to his business etc, having discussions about his job/business/ friends/wife/kids and seeing his house on the estate agents website - his wife is on fb - even after all that I still get duped...

However, as instructed by the wise Snape, I dusted myself down and had a very short notice, spur of the moment drink with lovely okc man I'd been chatting to, turned into a late lunch, long chat and much texting/flirting last night ... (telling myself to take things slowly ...)

sponge how lovely to have friends gunning for you!

dione have transferred alliegance from POF to OKC, seem to be meeting better people on there, but good to know there are people on POF who aren't dysfunctional to the extreme! Has been my experience so far...

raskolnikov unbelieveable...after 4 months he turns out to be married!!! I know what you mean about being too trusting though, I am same. I hope things work out with the OKC guy...

and ((((MyLittleMiracles))))

single - i knew he was married, but he spun me a long story about redundancy, not being able to move out, living separately at home for 2 years, having instructed solicitors blah blah which I swallowed hook line and sinker - only a long chat last week about honesty and conscience resulted in me asking "are you really getting divorced?" Didn't reply.

Sponge, you ARE Bloody gorgeous!!!! :)
Sounds like you have had a great weekend!

Yep, 4th date later today. Texting all evening last night ( he texts me first, so It's from his side :) )
Looking forward to seeing him later :)

and I've just brought a new, damn Lush tent, which I'm excited about. Holiday in 2.5 weeks and selling the old tent.... Booking something up for aug too :)

Rask, have a good date!

Miracles, I know It's hard. You are not in the wrong, and I'd ignore anyone that's in contact with ur ex tbh. It's not good for you to hear this stuff. Its emotionally tough, and It's ok to be upset. And It's that reason Why we all said not to date now. You need to get past all this, deal with the hurt, and be in an emotionally sound place.

Seem to have spent the night phoning wank lines with my (male) flatmate, bringing off nasty little men while PM sat on opposite sofa giggling with a cushion strategically placed on his lap

sample conversation:-

Me (seductive voice) me and julie are just sitting here in our underwear..
Nasty man on phone: what do you look like?
Flatmate:(high pitched girlish voice) i'm blonde, 23' long legs, green eyes,
Me: i'm 22' long dark hair, pale skin, big tits...
Nastyman: (gasping) how big?
Me: 36e...we're so lonely, we need a big....strong...man with a big cock.
Flatmate: Have you got a big cock darling?
Nastyman:(grunting) yeah, it's really big, i'm stroking it and thinking about you..
Flatmate: (real voice) me too mate!

Line goes dead.

This is wrong, yes?!

fallen off the bed laughing at snape :o

watch aw thank you :) I have had so many compliments this weekend - especially from men- I will be getting terribly big headed at this rate enjoy your date later, am sure you will have a lovely time. Hope you get a proper snog too and excellent re tent and holidays!

I confess I'm not looking terribly gorgeous today though as have a massive bruise on my knee from Sunday, when unsuitable man and I were snogging in the garage and sort of fell over Was hoping he might have asked my friend for my number but apparently not (although tbh given what she thinks of him I doubt she would have handed it over!) but he's not at all bf material, so it would only have been probably very very good sex. Oh well...

Snape it probably is wrong yes however it did make me laugh. A lot

watch thank you. Hope you enjoy yourself. To be fair it wasn't her fault, he opened a profile as a female with pic and she (being young) accepted, as soon as she realised who it was she blocked him. Unfortunately I had already read what was written on her status. Bless her. She couldn't stop saying sorry. I don't blame her, I think it was a sneaky devious thing for my ex to do.

Friend over tonight. Seem to be spending a lot more time with those closest to me and a hug or two when needed and not just at greetings. whether male or female, really which ever friend happens to be there.

And snape that did make me LOL. Thank you. Needed a giggle today.

Another guy kept talking to my flatmate after he revealed he was a bloke

Flatmate: i'm a BLOKE mate! I've got a cock!
Nastyman2: (Grunting) i dont caaaaaaare!

Then they had a chat about football. .

do the nastymen pay by the minute for the entertainment Snape? :o

What's more baffling is that men call these lines, there's enough free porn online, surely?

Having a bit of a wobble total freak out about later, today, general mr lovely things.

The nastymen pay hand over fist by the minute, but it's free for the laydeeez.

watch. I hope you have a lovely date! :).

Snape that tickled me

Update.

Found out a male friend of mine who I haven't seen in a couple of years as he moved to other side of the country is back and living 10 minutes away from me.

He came round last night as my son was with his dad and I must say he is good looking. He has only just left about half an hour ago. Nothing happened. We were talking and catching up and before knew it was 7 in the morning!

He had a sleep on sofa and I went to bed. Had a couple of hours sleep then went back to talking. I fell asleep on him while watching a film and was woken to a kiss on the forehead. He had to go as has work and he and needed to shower and things.

Seems RL is working out well for me hopefully

Sometimes things happen when you least expect them too that's just the way life works.