'I'm not doing the school run'

[Quattrocento]

Announced DH, ten minutes ago. Tuesdays are his day, and not mine. I take a deep breath, for I am booked on a 7am flight (which means check-in at 6am and getting up at 5am) which he knew all about, well in advance.

I ask him why. He tells me he does not have to explain himself. Which I think means that he has no good reason for not taking them. Before you ask, there is zero public transport, it's 8 miles away and too far to walk/cycle and all available lifts seem to be taking extended half-terms.

He is being a twat of the first order, and I have no idea why. I've booked a taxi for the DCs, so that problem is solved, despite it not being my problem to solve. But I am concerned about DH's general twattishness here.

So tell me why my husband is being a twat. I'd like to know.

i don't understand booking a taxi.
why don't you just go for your flight... would he really head of to work leaving the kids in the house alone and not going to school????

if he would, then why are you even married to him.

He is acting the tosser. Is this an unusual occurrence?

It worked for him, though. Why did you solve the problem?

Twat.

Why have you enabled this by dealing with what is, essentially, his problem?

I'm not having a go, btw. Just curious.

I can't imagine what it's like to have to deal with that situation. Was it out of the blue?

I don't understand quattro

would he be leaving them in the house alone while he goes to work ?

or locking them out of the house to fend for themselves

or is he at home and just can't be bothered to leave the house ?

is he always like this ?

How odd.
Why did you solve the problem for him?

Why does he think he does not have to give a reason if this is your family set up?

Is this a "oooh, I am so jealous of Quattros career I just must throw a strop to show her whose the boss here" ?

"I ask him why. He tells me he does not have to explain himself."

he would if the authorities demanded to know why your DC's aren't in school/ why he's went to work & left them home alone.

although, i'm guessing if they're old enough to taxi it alone, they're old enough to be home alone?

still, he's a twat.

I am not advocating that you should have called his bluff...but what would he have done if you had simply said "your problem, mate"

I'm sorry Quattro. What a twat.

But I agree with the others - solving the problem was not the way to deal with it. You should have just said "don't be ridiculous" and gone to bed/ignored him.

He sounds hard work. Why do you think it might be?

I know this isn't helpful but it's reading things like this that make me glad I'm a single mum....everything is just down to me, end of!
I'm sorry your dh is being a dick.....is this a usual occurrence or a one off?? Xx

What a very strange set up.

The children need to get to school but he can't or won't get them there. Any reason he can give? Apart from, I'm a twat and I don't want to.

Why is he a twat? I have no idea, perhaps he does?

Wtf! Of course he's a twat. Personally I think you should cancel the taxi and leave him to it.

I think you're a fool for pandering to him, tbh. Cancel the taxi, get your flight and stay away at least 2 days longer than expected. (If you don't trust him with your children's welfare for this extra time, then don't, but you must seriously consider why you're with him)

Yeah, ignoring it would have probably been the best solution.

I have no idea why he is being a twat. Or sulking. Sulking is jolly ridiculous behaviour IMO. Yes it is a surprising occurrence. Totally mystified. And sleeping in the spare bedroom until he gets over himself.

I would be interested to know what would have happened had you not booked a taxi.

< waits patiently for OP to come back with some answers >

< gets out knitting >

solving the problems might sound questionable but for all we know he'd have responded to her not solving the problem by getting up and going out earlier than her so she was left with the kids with a plane to catch. we don't know exactly how far his twattiness extends yet.

from what you've said so far he does sound a prize twat though.

Oh, you surprised me there Quattro, think I dropped a stitch

V odd. Is this out of character? Has there been anything else odd recently? Just wondering if it's a health problem, or whether he's actually just a nob.

let him sleep in the spare bedroom! not you.

Good point Saf

I would not have ignored it, I would have booked a taxi for them. What else, as a parent can you do?

Unhelpful from your dh either way.

they've got two parents though agnes. it appears in her husbands world you can just say, i'm not being a parent tomorrow so there!

shall we take the opportunity to call him a twat again?! if you don't mind quattro?

quattro, I'm not sure how you withdrawing to the spare bedroom and not tearing him a new one discussing this is going to help, though

he gets his whims pandered too, and your stomach ulcer gets to develop a little bit more

Unbelievably bad. Doesn't have to explain himself? With his own kids and an arrangement known well in advance? Oh yes he bloody does.