To separate from dp because I can't have a life of my own?

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Been with dp for 6 years and we have 2dc, but throughout this time all our arguments have been based around things I do to just try and be me which isn't very often.

For example going on facebook, talking to ex's or guys in general, going out with certain girlfriend's he doesn't approve of etc....

As much as I love him and want us to be together it seems that I can't have a life of my own separate from our relationship and it's making me feel trapped (at 24yrs old) and resentful as he does all the above and more without me complaining.

So I just wanted to know AIBU?

I don't think it is just you sfs, but if you are getting tetchy to the point of controlling who he speaks with then that is not healthy.
The OP is posting because she has no life at all, not allowed certain male or female friends that her dp does not approve of and that is just plain wrong. And all of this while he is allowed any friends he likes, she needs to get away and stay away.

X post with AF, really need to type quicker and stop watching tv at same time :o

My husband can talk to whoever he wants. I trust him.

talking to exes is just a side detail, ffs

this man is a controlling twat who wants to browbeat a young woman into submission

I would also wager my house that he is the one doing any cheating in this relationship

So can mine - and he has never taken offence at me chatting to male pals on fb, or going on a night out with them or whatever....it's my life after all...

OP - this relationship is no good. End of.

SFS - yours sounds a bit weird as well.

Telling this guy she's talking to exes isn't going to help the situation.

Best keep it to herself.

She says she loves him and wants to be with him.

really...what are you saying ?

she should lie to her abusive boyfriend

and stay with him ?

AnyFucker

Are you wabting a scrap?

She may talk to whomever she pleases Animation.

she has separated from him...can't you read ?

do you know what ? it's women like you that apply the pressure just as much as these abusive men

she is trying to stay strong and keep away from him, and you are still prattling about shit

what is wrong with you ?

You don't go telling your partner you're talking to exes - that's looking for trouble.

First of all she need to stop telling him that.

Rubbish!!!

"it's women like you that apply the pressure just as much as these abusive men"

What pressure's that then?

AnyFucker

Calm down - I've only just joined the blood thread - and the place I'm starting is with the OP talking to exes.

That's where I WANT to start.

"looking for trouble" my sharney arse!

You can still sometimes have a friendship with an ex, it doesn't always have to be a bad break up! The exes are not the issue animation, the fact that he tried to control what she did wit her life is why she is on here, she wanted to know if she was being unreasonable for wanting a life seperate from her dp.

If I am talking to a man online or in RL my husband knows exactly how I know him, because we dont keep secrets, he also trusts me and doesn't feel the need to police my social circle.....

The ops partner getting pissed of for talking to exes is just another round of emotional blackmail for him to fire.

In a normal relationship, you can talk to whoever you like.

You can even have friends.

You can have a life of your own.

You shouldn't have to lie to your partner just to protect yourself, or have your past held against you.

This relationship doesn't sound healthy to be OP, and YANBU to separate.