The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 2)

[TheMousefaceBeforeChristMouse]

Hello

I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus - Gerald! Blame Silver for the name!

We are a group of MNers who post about our relationship with alcohol and how drinking it, or not, has an effect on our day to day lives.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, say hi, take a seat or just read.

Here are the threads so far

How are you noteven - don't forget your not lonely when there are BB's here to talk to you.

How are you tonight wasindie

Hey Babes. A lot of people sounding a bit blue and under the weather. That's what you get for cavorting naked round Stonehenge in these temperatures!

have had two glasses of wine and another bottle is calling to me - just one more glass, one more glass.....

Good evening......it must be in the air because things are a bit shitty here too. This is my fifth sober day and how does my DH support me? By out going out on the lash with work and leaving me with a house full of XMas booze.

Instead of drinking I have been eating all XMas food: pate to pringles to satsumas etc I have now just puked on too much food instead of too much booze Sorry v self indulgent and TMI.

Lets get positive again - hi dementedma we haven't formally met but I am Tes and trying to sort my life out once and for all. If you want I can convince you not to have another glass of wine by sharing my horrific hangover with you that I had last Friday or just by being here

Hi Tes. I'm struggling not to open another bottle. I should go to bed but its been a long day and I'm just starting to unwind now - if I open another bottle I'll drink at least half of it and feel like boiled shite in the morning.....

Do not open that bottle. You are allowed to go into the kitchen and get a hot water bottle to take to bed and a big glass of water.

You will feel great in the morning. If you can't sleep reach for a trashy, feel good book and sip more water and snuggle with said hot water bottle.

I am a bossy, demanding individual and will check up on you tomorrow. You do not want a day where you feel like shit, it is so not worth it.

Good night - I'm not off to bed quite yet but you dementedma are!!

As I'm sober I managed to send DH a polite text - when I'm wasted I am v v rude and swear lots at him . This one said "Hi there, I'm off to bed now, food in fridge. Tes x"

Most mature I have been in years - I think he will be most confused by this message and will try hard to figure out its secret meaning

I'm hoping you are all sleeping after today's Stonehenge / eclipse adventures! I have been reading various other threads, most amusing one on Dadsnet about things they didn't know until they joined mumsnet - been chuckling to myself over it - my DH still has no idea about mooncups don't think he would belive they are real!

Wow - just got message back "Hi darling, last drink here, thank you for being so special xxx"

I should bloody well think so too - I cooked a huge beef casserole (Gordon Ramsay) and couldn't even eat it myself due to OD ing on snacks

I'd better go now - feel like I am talking to myself and if you all read this in the morning will think I'm slightly mad

Hello,

Mmmm, I wonder if we're all in tune on this thread, like when all the women in the office get their periods at the same time!

I feel a bit tonight, I am so happy to both Dc's under my roof, and have had a lovely day, but Dh came home, and I gradually felt my fizz ebbing away.

It is very lonely, feeling lonely sat next to the person you love.

I knooow he's tired, but a couple of sentences wouldn't have hurt.

ma have a good sleep.
tes tonic water to quieten your tummy . xx

Gah, I didn't mean that to sound horribly sexist, but it looks like that. Sorry

Morning all.
I feel such a mess. Been up for 2 hours as can't sleep with the virusey thing I have caught from DD but feeling very panicky and worried. Have lots to do. Terrified about the next 2 weeks. Palpitations. Weepy. Thank goodness I've not added alcohol to the mix.

Going to get in the bath with a book, get dressed in jeans, and get on with it the best I can. I wish I could have a hug and someone from real life who said I was doing something right. Self pity - probably.

Morning noteven

Sorry about the self pitying post from me last night, I haven't got anything to feel sad about, ignore it please .

I hope that you are feeling a bit calmer now that you have been up for a bit. I get the "panic tummy" so often, when I just wake up, but, it goes after a while (sometimes).

I am sending you a huge virtual hug, and saying that you are doing something exactly right...You didn't drink last night, which would have made you feel even worse this morning.

I, too am stricken with the lurge, and was just so grateful this morning that I didn't have a hangover to contend with, as well.

Deep, slow breaths, and lots of herbal tea, if you've got it. xxx

Morning everyone. Have you got a list of the things to do - tell us what some of them are - and then let us know when you've done them.

You might even find that some of them don't really need done at all.

I was out last night, and i was atsonished by how little my friends drank - everything from 'oh great I'm not driving I'll have half a pint of beer' to 'no I've had enough (2 glasses of wine), I'll have a lime and soda', to 'a G&T - that'll just set me up for the night'. It has made me see again how disfunctional my drinking was - I would have had that lot as a warm-up at home before I went out . And none of them were worrying what people would think about them not drinking.

Morning brave babes

Hope you are OK this morning Noteven is your Mum able to look after your DD whilst she stays with you, at least then if the 2 weeks get too much you can get out, even for a walk, for a bit of a break. Giving a hug.

Don't feel you are being selfpitying Thurso alot of us have been there recentlt, especially me who seems to feel upset/lonely every night at the mo. I have felt very lonely sitting with the person I love many times and it is a horrible feeling - can you talk to you DH (or DP) aout how you feel

morning!! - i am pathetic!!, im ill!! dear god i have man flu!! (can you tell i dont 'do' ill very well? frin!)

i have loads to do and i feel like poo!

venus - i noticed the other day when i was out with my girlfriends just how little they drank, even the ones who wernt driving - the amount of soft drinks on the table was incredible! - i honestly never noticed before, no wonder that my announcment that i was an alcholic didnt exactly surprise anyone!

btw, everyone is entitled to a day - just dont drink on it!, it really wont help!

Good morning

Dementedma how are you today?

My DH didn't come home until 12.30 completely pissed, I didn't get cross. However this morning I got up early and made him brekkie and then he said he would order a cab as he thinks he would still be over the limit - I lost it big time WTF how much did you drink?? He said 5/6 pints last night this morning its gone up to 7/8.........and the rest!!

I then say since Friday I have had 1.5 glasses of wine (a small miracle for me) and said you haven't offered any support or encouragement (except getting a lemon to go with diet coke )............now here is where it goes v v wrong, he said they were making up for their work XMas party which I wrecked last Thursday felt like bursting into tears.

Since that horrendous night I have been apologising, beating myself up about it and not drinking - but that doesn't stop him throwing it in my face to excuse his drunken behaviour yesterday. I haven't mentioned B4 but this has been the worst year ever for our relationship due to drink and his infidelity and lies.

Bugger - sorry to be such a drip normally much more upbeat than this.

Hey ho today is another day

tes my darling i feel very angry for you! - have you been drinking because of unhappiness? i think i would be on the sauce if dh had been unfaithful! - he is being an arse of the worst sort!

Morning all.

Tes - for you. Not a huge surprise that you are using alcohol to blot out the bad memories and feelings that you must have inside your heart.

If you want to talk about it, you can always let it out here or PM me, and I'm sure any one of the Brave Babes too.

Don't suffer in silence, it will only fester and build up. Especially at the moment....

Sending you a huge Mouse hug {[{[{[{x}]}]}]}

Thank you for that Jesus...........

I posted Feb this year and got some excellent advice from AF and WWIFN plus others. Said I should leave him - obviously I didn't. I had to get thread deleted and name changed as I said so much RL stuff and really didn't want to cope with huge fall out if RL found out. He didn't tell me my BF did on the phone since she was the one who came on to him when she was babysitting my DS. I went to my bed; her and my DH didn't.

I keep trying to move on but whenever I get drunk I lose all sense of control and freak out at him - may have done this on Thursday and now everyone at his work knows - too scared to ask.

So in one move I lose BF (known since I was 8 years) and all trust/respect for DH. He claims he was v drunk, they were talking about BJs and then she decides to give him one, he pushes her off and says he didn't come - TMI for this time in the day - sorry.

Now you know that I am even more screwed up then you thought

Anyhow 2010 worst year ever and surely things can only get better - at least I know by not drinking I'm not going to blurt out to family over Xmas lunch what a tosser I have for a DH and why!

Thank you mouse as you can see it has come pouring out - so wish I has a magic potion to wipe out this entire memory

Feel really on your behalf Tes, I would imagine he threw it back in your face due to guilt about drinking himself and not supporting you and about being unfaithful - not that it's any excuse AT ALL. Am not surprised yuo have been masking your feeling by drinking but you have done sooo well to not drink since friday. Are you able to talk to him about things later or would that make things worse.

Tes if you did blurt it out last Thursday then stop feeling bad about it. He was the one who did it not you, if they hadn't betrayed you like that then there would be nothing to blurt out. And your not screwed up you've just had a bad year and have possibly drunk too much to blot out your feelings like Mouse says.

oh my love!! what an absolute fucking shit bag!! - im not surprised you lose all sense of control! - and tbh, if that lot came out at my christmas table the men in family would take him apart piece by piece (always a thought! [frin]!) as to your bf, well, i have no words! (well, i do but mumsnet would ban me!)

i dont think you are screwed up - i think you are unhappy and at a turning point in your life - and its bloody scary!

By BF I mean best friend - not boyfriend that would be very odd

Hope I haven't made everyone's day even worse - I am OK - sorry.

Merry Christmas - and some good news my mum is taking me to the LK Bennet sale tomorrow to buy me new shoes - there is nothing (apart from DSs )that make me quite so happy as new shoes - see I'm OK

What is your dream Xmas gift brave babes?

tes!! enjoy enjoy!!, new shoes!!! get some with a lovley pointy sharp heel that can break flesh!! you never know when the urge will take you to stamp on 'someones' bollocks!

should make think twice before getting it out!