The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Christmas Party (part 2)

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Hello

I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus - Gerald! Blame Silver for the name!

We are a group of MNers who post about our relationship with alcohol and how drinking it, or not, has an effect on our day to day lives.

Come and meet the other Brave Babes, say hi, take a seat or just read.

Here are the threads so far

Morning All

Feeling fantastic today. A brand new start to a brand new year!!!

Well done all that stayed sober last night, meeting followed by an evening where I sat and watched a DVD with my 12 year old DD, and was in bed by half past, have to say, was the best new year in ages!!!

CG wow, what an inspriration!! 3 years - thats fantastic!!

thurso well done babe!! I agree with JWN, your husband is probably really confused, but it would annoy me too, I would want him to know what I wanted, and when I wanted it - (me being a contrary mare!!).

wasindie your meal sounds lovely, and I hope that the DT's slept well!

dementedma I know what you mean about the elderflower seeming really boring, but tbh, there is nothing more boring than playing the same drunken record over and over again.

To all the other BB and MIFL, thanks all every single one of you. I never ever thought that I could see this new year in happily without a drink, but with you and AA I have managed to achieve this.

The serenity that I feel for large portions of time these days, is really something that I never thought I could feel, my relationship with myself is slowly rebuilding,

Here is to a FANTASTIC 2011.
Big hugs and kisses to you all!!!!

xxx

Can I join please?
I have had ongoing issues with booze. I am a bad drunk/binge drinker and possibly a alchoholic.
Went out for New year and drank so much that I blacked out and don't remember being sick everywhere last night which my poor parents had to clear up. I feel quite ashamed tbh. I have tried aa but it isn't for me. I will try this threda.

Hiya posh, hope you're not feeling too rough this morning, take a seat(passes the paracetamol and large glass of water), you've come to the right place.
This thread is so many things to so many different people, all with one common goal. I'm a bit of an on-the-bus-off-the-bus kind of girl, tending to lurk when I'm too ashamed to post. Feel free to offload here, no judgey pants allowed.

Day 2 for me, last night's party gave me a real boost. I have no intention of drinking today.
I'm not much good with words but I'm sure some of our more eloquent members will be along shortly with some soothing words and wisdom
Welcome aboard

Thanks munkymaz. I gave all my Cava to mum today. DD is dressed and happy. I've eaten my toast and honey and am gagging for asprin.
I just feel like crying as I thought those days were over.

I do miss my party girl days but last night reminded me that it wasn't all that.

Morning Posh and Munky.

Of course you may climb on Posh, can I offer you a bacon roll and a cuppa . What can I get you Munky?
Very quiet on here this morning - hope everyone is enjoying a nice relaxing morning.

Going to jump in the shower and start getting prepared for 8 people for a meal this afternoon! Really looking forward to this afternoon and a fab start to 2011!!

The good thing about new years eve being so drunken for me is that I have more steely resolve to sort myself out.

Well done to all you sober ladies. New year is best seen in with lovely children, a meal and at home methinks.

Just been to take DH a cuppa, he's feeling a bit rough poor thing.

At one point he was talking to me, kind of swaying, and breathing beer fumes in my face - attractive He later plonked himself on my mates kitchen floor to sleep. It was time to get him home but even 2 of his mates couldn't move him. At first I felt a flash of anger at hime being such an idiot.....but then thought 'there for the grace of god......'cos that is usually me!

Feelign sparkly this morning, DS and Dnephew are up, fed, and playing on the Wii. I am having a relaxing morning, planning my day and enjoying being hangover free

posh if you get one bit of advice from this thread, the recurring theme is 'one day at a time'. I think that is where I (and many others)fall down. It is so hard not to think about the weekend, that night out in 2 weeks etc, etc, and hard to imagine it all without alcohol, especially when, as you said, party girl is still live and kicking!
So, just for today, I will not be drinking.

munky, the best thing I have done, is to stop projecting, enjoying living in the present, and not worrying about what will happen next week or next month, it is not always easy at all!!! But I have not drunk for over 5 weeks, and the last time that happened was over 12 years ago (which is really scary!!)

So, ODAAT!!
Off to make another cuppa - have replaced my alcohol addiction with an addiction to tea!!

Bafana 5 weeks is excellent, well done you! The most I've managed was 3 weeks last Oct after a full-on weekend in Windsor, most of which I couldn't remember

Morning Babes! Just marking my place for Gerald's 2011 travels. Had a lovely dinner with friends last night, didn't miss the drink, woke up feeling boingy today. Happy New Year babes, I'm looking forward to this year's adventures

morning all. not a drop last night and a world beating day 5 here. so why do I feel so fucking miserable? That nothing has or will change and not drinking is not going to add anything other than making me even more fed up. I know that doesn't make sense - ignore me. New Year Blues. this too will pass.

Ma I'm sorry you are feeling low, particularly since you are doing SO well. You predicted you might feel like this - does this time of the year have bad memories for you?

Hello Babes.

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL.

I have taken the liberty of setting a new thread up here for when this one gets full.

Just because I might not be around to do it.

Can we PLEASE fill this one first?

Thanks lovely Babes, hope you are all okay and surviving NYD.

Hello also to posh

Happy new year!

posh Please be kind to yourself - dust yourself down and remember we've all been there. Drink plenty and eat whenever you can. Sometimes it takes a big blow-out to make us question ourselves and our drinking habits, before we can resolve to try and do something about it

Ma well done, day 5! And a sober NYE, both great achievements (although I can understand why you feel down; my first sober NYE in about 16 years and at first I felt I was going to miss out on 'something', until I woke up to a hungover dp hanging naked out of the bed looking like Homer Simpson with python breath, nowt attractive about that nor did I envy him then

Have a lovely day, all x

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

not been up long, ive had a lovley lounge about in teh bed with tea and toast, chatted on the phone (read, gossiped about last night!) - im incredibly proud of myself, i have seen in a new year year totally sober, i had one wobbly moment when the hostess insisted i take a glass of bubbly from her ready for the toast, my dear bf dashed over to the rescue and took it from me, she said i looked like a startled rabbit and she couldnt bear it! apart from that everything is fine - i danced till 4, laughed till my sides hurt and just generally had a good time!

anyway, welcome posh!, munky, nice to see you back and well done to bafana and ma!

off to look at my new christmas pressie books, see you all later!

XXXXXXXXX

Sorry, forgot to add hello to Chuss

Well done JWN!!!! I bet this has been the nest Birthday, Christmas, and New Year all rolled into one.

I think you are amazing.

thurso - the journey was hell in terms of pain and I had enough meds on board to knock a horse out!

I think I'm a wee bit resistant to them though. Oh well!!

BTW - I did drink last night, not excessively, just in a nice, relaxed and controoled way, over dinner fizz at midnight.

A wonderful evening.

HAPPY NEW YEAR BBS.

Just got back from my first AA meeting of the day/year - off to another one this evening. Feeling extremely rough but have managed to mend my PC - by spending 50 quid on a security system x

So now just filling in the hours till time to go out again - still a bit full of cold so think I will go and snuggle up in bed with a good book.

Welcome to Posh and Chuss - here are your open tickets

thank you mouse! you are right, i have enjoyed the last month so much i cant tell you - at one point i was dreading the party season, it made me feel quite weak and helpless to think about being sober for all these events, but i can honestly say that i have actually enjoyed things more - i love dressing up, travelling, socialising etc, i can remember everything ive been to, all the people i have met, all teh food ive eaten and mainly, all the fun ive had - my dh pronounced that he 'is very proud' of me and my dd rang at midnight to speak to me - i cant think of a better way to start the new year!

Oh dear, DH made an appearance at 11.30 ish and has just sloped off back to bed to sleep it off.
Am sat having a quiet chuckle to myself.......actually, feeling a bit smug!

Ma you are doing brilliantly, a world-beating 5 days must make you feel a teeny weeny bit chuffed, deep down [wink}

BBwannaB - no particular bad memories. I just am very prone to depression at this time of year and always have been. I am trying very hard to see the positives - and there are many -but I have a lot of "other" stuff to deal with and generally I deal with it but I think at this time of year I just see another year stretching ahead and feel despair.
I think I might have a glass of wine tonight.Now that I know I CAN do a run of several days at a time, I feel more confident. I can picture MIFLAW shaking his head at my foolhardiness here, but I;m struggling a lot.

Hey Ma

Why not just try to get thru the next hour without picking up and then have another think about it. Think how fantastic you will feel tomorrow to have done 6 days.

You are doing so well Babe - take it 5 minutes at a time - make sure you eat - a full tummy reduces the craving.

(((((((huggs)))))))

xxx

Hi Ma, you sound like you are feeling a bit stuck at the moment, wondering will things ever change and is it more of the same for the year ahead? I completely empathise with you, you have done almost 5 full days without alcohol and congratulations on that, why not take Silver's advice and take the rest of the evening 5 minutes at a time, have a bath, read a book, a drink won't change what lies ahead, we both know that.

Hi all. I know the thought of a whole year stretching before you seems daunting but try and see it as an opportunity to paint a beautiful picture on a blamk canvas.

I feel a little bit better about last night. I do so love drink. It's going to be tough. I just don't like the way I BEHAVE when I have been drinking. The party season is a tough one.

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