The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Park Bench!

[HammerMouseOfHorrors]

Hello

I'm Mouse and one of the Brave Babes on the Battle Bus.

The bus is never full and you'll find a real mix of people on board, all with the same goal.

To take control of their drinking. Whether that's to stop completely or cut right down.

Everyone is welcome to get on the bus at any point. You will receive a warm welcome and plenty of support.

Some come meet the others.........

The journey so far.

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Hi thurso. Please stay, I know how you feel there are lots of us here who felt that too, the problem is people are at different stages, I'm at the stop start feel guilty and ashamed stage, and I for one need as many people similar to myself that can join me in my battle. I really don't think anyone meant to be unkind yesterday. :)

No no no no. Mousey you are NOT allowed to leave. Please let's just draw a line under yesterday and start over. Nobody meant to be mean yesterday, we all know that. Let's move on and up :)

loopy

My post was not meant to upset anyone or point the finger. At all.

But it has really hurt some poster's feeling and for that I feel very bad. Even though I asked new posters to ignore it.

A new thread is on the horizon so you can all start a fresh soon enough.

I will have the post removed.

Again, I am sorry for the upset caused. I guess what works for some can destroy others confidence and the LAST thing I want is new comers to feel they can't get on the bus because of me.

Going to throw in my two-pence worth, if you read back over Mouse's post, yes she shouted, but it was with pure frustration. She so badly wants each and everyone of us to succeed in our battle against booze.
Mouse has been a steady influence on this thread and has been open and honest about her own drinking and has comforted many of us when we felt low.
So Mouse don't you dare go anywhere and there is no need for anyone else to leave either.
I do take exception to Thurso coming on thread and saying that they would not stay on thread due to shouty message, they claimed to have followed the thread for the last week, if that was the case then they would know that there is no-one on this thread more caring than Mouse.
Team Mouse:):)

I know you typed it with good intentions. :) I think because of our problem we can get a bit ' sensitive' but if it would make you feel better get that post removed but under no circumstances remove yourself. You have already done a great job helping people and nobody would want to see you go.

• at this rate no one will be left -

It will be just me munching me cookies and MIFLAW telling me I have a cookie abuse problem lol

Not a chance of you going Mighty Mouse - I won't let you - everything you have ever said has been in support of everybody on this thread - we all know that - I think there are just some jangling nerves around (mine included).

Now sit down and hand out the butties you cheese fiend [hgrin] xxx

I have copied and saved Mouse's post. I think it makes a lot of sense and was also very sensitively put (in between the shouting).

She said 'ignore this, new babes' for a start. So new babes shouldn't feel offended, it wasn't directed at them.

She also talked about how much support there is here, and anyone who's followed the thread for more than five minutes will know how true that is. And how much she contributes.

And finally, she said she was sorry if anyone got upset but it was because she genuinely cares.

Yes, she said it quite loudly! But that's no reason to ignore the love and thought and support behind it.

I'm not ignoring the love behind her message, I have no problem with Mousey I think she's fab.

hi, Thurso here.
Really, really sorry if I intruded.
I spent hours yesterday and previous days reading all the posts from Mouse, and they were so great, as were all of you. Suppose I just got shocked, and yes, very oversensitive at the moment, because not in denial any more.
Very, very hard.
Am so sorry. Please, please mouse don't leave your friends. You are a lynchpin.
Sorry again.

Thurso - sit down and here's your open ticket - special window seat for you and if you want to tell us a bit more about yourself, please do - in your own time - everyone on here wants to help - you are not alone in thie battle.

[hwink]

Thurso

If you love my words so much then take them all on board equally. Don't go away and KEEP COMING BACK.

Or perhaps you could apply the attitude to this that I apply to AA; I'll keep coming back until I have a better idea ...

Guess what - behind all this internet anonymity stuff, we're all real people. With real feelings and real needs.

And we're a bunch of real people who have real alcohol problems. So no surprise that occasionally we rub each other up the wrong way and feel vulnerable and sensitive and hurt and angry.

But EACH and EVERY one of us has a valid and important contribution to make on here. Please, no backing out, no retereating to the corners (and I know that many of us would feel more comfortable in the shadowy places than out in the limelight). Please everyone take what you need from this series of threads. Contribute what helps you and what might help others. Do not be fearful about what you are saying - whether you are confessing or whether you are cajoling and supporting. Just say it from your heart. It is the honesty on here that makes it work so well.

And if things are a little fraught at times, then that's OK too. They get like that because we're being honest. There is not a perfect life. There is not a perfect internet support system for women (and men) like us. But both the real world and the internet world are better without being in the grip of alcohol.

Accept these threads for what they are. A potential source of help.

I was going to post but venus you have just said everything that I wanted to.
MOUSE - you know what you would say to someone if they said they were leaving because they thought they might have upset someone - SO GET YOUR ARSE BACK ON THE BUS!!
(God I enjoy a good shout sometimes!!)
xx

Hello.

Sorry for the drama queen flounce!

Now, who promised cheese? Anyone?

Do you know something Brave Babes, these threads never ceases to amaze me.

The personal contributions, the strength, the raw and very real emotions posted on the threads are simply fantastic.

Other than the long term bereavement thread, I doubt there are many other threads on MN that offer so much help and support to anyone on the bus.

I value each and everyone of you. xx

desiretochange-please forgive me, if I can explain...
I was watching this thread because I am desperate to do something about my drinking, felt all the love and support, and was shocked at the post...but, it led to me having a bit of a meltdown this morning in bed, and telling my husband that I was an.. can't even type the word.
He has been so brilliant, saying one day at a time. But felt terrible all day, and can't even think what possessed me to post that stupid, stupid message.
Mouse is completely right, and I am so grateful because it led to me being completely honest, instead of, oh, I've had a bad day or any other excuse to make it reasonable to drink a lot.
Anyway apologies to all, and I hope I haven't upset the equilibrium of this thread.

thurso

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus, where would you like to sit?

So, what is your plan for today/night? And if you like, tell us a little bit about you and I guess why today is the day you decided to climb abord the Bus.

Mousey, I confiscated your cheese stash to make sure you came back, you can have it back now

Just cooking up a bit of Haloumi for you mouse
Hi thurso park your bum.

Here's your cheese Mouse - eat it slowly and none of your normal gobbling it up.

Christie where are you?? xxx

Thank you so much Mouse.
Am crying a bit now, so will maybe talk later.
I've been trying to hold it in for so long.

ok!, dont panic!!, im back from my meeting!, what do you mean?, you didnt notice i was gone!, what have you all been talking about? [hgrin], honestly, i leave you all for a couple of hours and i get back to this! [hgrin], you bunch of soppy buggers!!

WHAT WE ALL HAVE TO REMEMBER IS WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS AND SOMETIMES GET THE WRONG END OF THE WEDGE!! (im not shouting, just waggling my finger!!)

every post is as important as another, we all have differing views and differing ways of dealing with a horrible illness - the whole point is though, we ARE dealing with it!!

thurso - nice to have you aboard!!, you sound pretty fragile - just take it slowly, be kind to yourself and we will see what we can do to help!

XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX big wet kiss for mouse!!

On Thurso I can so remember that first admission - firstly to myself, then slowly, slowly to others. Well done you.

As your dh says - one day at a time. And if you have read much on here, you will know that sometimes we have been hanging on by our fingertips one hour at a time and screaming out for help one minute at a time.

However much you drink, whatever your life circumstances, however you plan to sort things out, SOMEONE on here will understand.