The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Park Bench!

[HammerMouseOfHorrors]

Hello

I'm Mouse and one of the Brave Babes on the Battle Bus.

The bus is never full and you'll find a real mix of people on board, all with the same goal.

To take control of their drinking. Whether that's to stop completely or cut right down.

Everyone is welcome to get on the bus at any point. You will receive a warm welcome and plenty of support.

Some come meet the others.........

The journey so far.

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wasindie brilliant plan for tonight. Hope you and dp have had a lovely night out - and you know what they say about oysters Apologies for assuming that you would drink 2 bottles of wine each - obviously applying my own standards to you - that's what I would have done if my bestfriend was coming - definitely 2 bottles, inevitably 3, and would have another 'cos it would have been awful to run out

Been smiling at the karma that only sent you 2 bottles, and made Christi's trip last night so frustrating. Perhaps I'll stop posting and just sit at home sending karmic thoughts to disrupt everyone's drink supplies - I might try exploding beer cans, wine that is corked, credit cards that don't work, transport that breaks down, oh and many, many more..... look out for it everyone [hgrin] [hgrin] [evil magic cackle]

That's really good news BBwannaB
and MsGeepers just count from when you started being honest about your drinking and taking reponsibility for it...it doesn't have to be an absolute black and white thing.

I have been thinking about you with your moving - I may be doing the same soon...having a little wobbly moment tonight - feeling very stressed about money, about my future, and then managed to yell at DS and tell him that I hated the lies that he told over silly things as his father lied continually for 20 years. Not big and not clever

Not drinking though - I think if I did I would end up rocking in a corner.

Interesting discussion about the stopping / starting / giving up stuff, and always reassuring to see DangerMouse getting her dander up

For me, I think that there is a very, very fine balance between being kind and supportive (because I truly and deeply know, understand and feel what other people are going through) and worrying that I am enabling other people's drinking though a hey-ho, never mind, new day tomorrow approach. In general, I'd say that between us all we get the balance pretty close to where it should be (at least for the people who are on here and who stay around). There are occasions when I read a reply and think "ouch - that's gonna hurt, I'd have been more gentle and subtle" only to find the poster coming back and saying that the harsh response was just what they needed. Just goes to emphasise the wonderful mix that there is on here.

I think that if someone comes on here having already started drinking, I am still going to try to persuade them to stop and pour the rest away. Others are probably reading posts and thinking - oh there she is banging her head against a brick wall again - but I think that if someone posts on here, then they're looking for something, and maybe one day, one of us will say something that is just what is needed. It may be the strong words, the rant, the irony, the joke, the kind support... we can not know. All I can do is respond as I see fit, hoping it will help someone else, and knowing that for sure it is helping me. Thank you all Babes for being here.

witchetychicky good on you for not drinking tonight - it would be such an easy excuse (not that excuse are ever hard to come by).

Remind yourself that money can only be better when you are not drinking than when you are pissing it down the drain. Your future will be better if you are not in the grip of alcohol. And you will be able to maintain your own personal values about being truthful, more easily if you are not tempted to lie (to yourself or others) about your drinking habits.

I know I lied every time I had an empty bottle or had a sneaky drink in the kitchen while cooking.

I cannot believe how long my money lasts these days - I was spending thousands on drink in a year

Say out of that corner witchetychicky and find something more soothing. Ice cream? hot chocolate? Warm bath? Good book? TV? TV = Oh shit I'm missing the Apprentice. Gotta go x

'hid' an empty bottle

Hope everyone is having a peaceful and restful night:)

Witchety you are doing a grand job, and your DS is benefitting from you not drinking. Don't worry, we all yell at say things we regret to the kids some times.

sorry yell at

Thanks venus - just apologised to Ds - not sure if he has accepted it.
Things are just a bit overwhelming at the moment and I get so tired.

I get up every morning though and think "how the fuck did I do this with a hangover". I really am amazed.

Heading off for a bath then bed.
xx

night all!!

see you tomorrow!

L XXXXXXXXXXXX

Morning all! What a joy to wake up with a clear head. Off to do a productive day's work now and WILL NOT HAVE A DRINK TODAY.
I'll be back later to see where the bus has taken everyone....
Hugs x

ps lol at Witchety - "how the fuck did I do this with a hangover" - how true, how true.

close shave last night but rode the dragon ... and I got out on the other side ( no idea how but I did ) . So today its 21 + 1days since my last drink :) and am well in to my second week since last cigarette .. Pool is closed for refurbishment till Saturday so no sauna and swim to celebrate but will go out for another run tonight...

Well done dipso - feels better than waking up with that rotten feeling, horrid mouth, and the 'why did I do it again' thought.

Have a good day everyone.

Diabolik Sorry last night I asked you about your running and then internet went down! Man/boys set to it like their lives depended on it!! I was dismissed as Mum's are clearly not equipped to deal with such manly tasks!! [hhmm]

Witchety - moving is very very stressful but its easier if you realise that you have no control over anything at all and go with the flow (I didn't). Now it has happened though I feel as if a huge weight has been lifted off me and I can move forward.

Don't beat yourself up about DS. We all yell at our kids at times - they do test our patience. I forget how old he is but can you sit him down and talk to him about how upsetting lying is and its really important for the two of you to trust each other? Just because you feel bad for yelling doesn't mean that you don't have a valid point! I do the same with DD, I get so annoyed and apologise for yelling and then later think - hang on, she was in the wrong initially

venus - am too scared to count up how much I spent on booze in a year.

Mouse - thank you for climbing into pocket the other night, the company helped.

Morning to everyone else. I am settled into a coffee shop, hope they don't mind me using it as an office for the day [hgrin]

No worries MP .. - they better not meet some of my colleagues .. seriously hardcore lady techies :)

So how much do you run MP are you training for anything - I have no illusions I am useless at running I am more a swimmer ( eg throw me in the water and am happy to swim for an hour at a decent pace )

Really sorry if I upset people yesterday. I'm not a regular on the thread so it's not really my place to hand out advice and sometimes I jump in too heavily.

Sorry to hear about your uncle WasIndie:(
Today I will not be drinking!!

morning everyone. so I'm on day 4 but going to a wine expo tonight.... control is the word of the day here. Had a long talk with dh about it last night and said it's our decision how we behave tonight. and he agree so that's something [hgrin]

mountain of work - website to update for starters and then halloween costumes to make - might start with those I think

Why is Loopy going? I have just read back the last few pages and I can't see what has scared her orf. Loopy. I thought you had a good plan to cut down and I thought (was this you?) that you had your dp onside, which I thought sounded very very auspicious. No one is judging anyone here.

I had a glass of wine (Rioja) at a restaurant on Saturday. It tasted delicious. Only one. I think that I used to drink such cheap wine that I had never really appreciated the taste. The taste, as opposed to the effect. And it looked absolutely minute.

And hello to LRP et al. And Silver, have you taken further legal advice re the homemade will. I had decided not to mention it but watched Poirot last night and the forged codicil reminded me. Dp was convinced you were badly advised. He is not a lawyer but used to work for one and has an eye for any Agatha Christie shinanigans.

Was the au pair in Poirot the actress who played Jeremy's girlfriend in the Peep Show?

(I don't think I have ever ordered wine by the glass in a restaurant before .) Very expensive if you want to get drunk. Probably reasonable if you want to savour the vintage.

CJ - not at all, everyone is more than welcome to post their thoughts and advice.

And to be honest, it is up to the reader to decide if they do anything about it, no?

Please don't worry about not being a 'regular', it's not about that at all.

Morning Babes.

On the same theme as the above, I hope that my DangerMouse mode didn't upset anyone yesterday.

Sometimes I just get a little passionate about being sober and enjoying my life without the aid of alcohol!

Had a lovely evening with DH celebrating 2 years in out current home. Steak and chocolate cake for afters.

Delish!!

And I had half a glass of fizz to toast with him. Again, that was all I wanted which still surprises me after what I used to consume and how.

Anyway, be brave and strong Babes, I'm sure SIlver will be along soon to tell us where today's destination is.