The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Park Bench!

[HammerMouseOfHorrors]

Hello

I'm Mouse and one of the Brave Babes on the Battle Bus.

The bus is never full and you'll find a real mix of people on board, all with the same goal.

To take control of their drinking. Whether that's to stop completely or cut right down.

Everyone is welcome to get on the bus at any point. You will receive a warm welcome and plenty of support.

Some come meet the others.........

The journey so far.

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Morning mouse!

I love the new title, that's going to make me grin when I see it.

MrsG - well done with your daughter!

diabolik - I feel as if I should be upping my game here and training for the marathon or something - you're on the same number of days as me but I'm still guiltily telling myself that I need to sleep so much because my body's out of kilter. How do you do it?!

Morning to all the other babes and blokes out there, looking forward to another trip.

Here is a mix of resources that might or might n
AA GSO Watch
AddictionInfo
GoodTherapy.org
Life Ring
Non 12-Step
Orange Papers
Rational Recovery ?
Science Based Medicine
Secular Organizations for Sobriety (S.O.S.)
SMART Recovery(tm)
Stanton Peele
Stanton Peele on ST
The Big Book online
The Clean Slate Addiction
The Skeptic's Dictionary
Women for Sobriety
X-Steppers
ot help. To which I add Allen Carr's book on drinking on the basis of strong recommendation on this series of threads.

oooooh shiney new thread - love it

daddy I'm glad your DH seems to realise it's time his behaviour changed. He sounds very manipulative, i think it's called 'gas lighting' os something

all fine here. Where's venus?

also, where is moomin?

She posted earlier on today on t'other thread jwn

ahh, thanks christi!!

LRP - well I might not mention it but I am sleeping a lot and regularly am in bed by 10 ( or fall asleep on the couch after dinner )

Also we have no kids at home any more. So we have the house to our selves which safes a lot of time and energy.

The sports thing is something I always did unfortunately never at any point in my live longer then 3 consecutive months ( see the unprepared 10 k ). It is something I really enjoy doing though and there is nothing like a 30 - 45 min jog to clear your mind.

Another Monday at work survived - I feel like I am drowning sometimes - how on earth did I manage with a permanent hangover?

diabolik the way you throw yourself into activity sounds really positive and effective as a strategy to keep you distracted when the beer monster comes calling -

Do you also manage to relax though - other than falling into bed at the end of the day? I only ask, because it reminds me a bit of how I function when I am fighting off depression - I almost think that I can 'busy it away' As a strategy it works for a while, but when I crash it is with an almighty thump.

luci how are you doing this evening?
x

witchety - its ok really - I work from home and make my own hours so I can work 8 9 hours and get some house keeping out of the way in the same time some else goes to work. So I have plenty of time to chill out maybe read a book or mong out in front of the telly.

Here you all are!!!! Norty!!

The un-filled thread police will be shouting at me!

Sorry mouse

diabolik sounds like a good balance.

hi all
after yesterday's lapse am back on the soft drinks. am mad at DH though who went out and bought beer when we had agreed we would both not drink.Snot fair. he is drinking beer and watching footie on the telly while I contemplate a hot chocolate.

• DM - I know its hard but remember you are doing this for yourself you cant change other pple. On the bright side you'll wake up with a clear head tomorrow so hang in there .. :)

Ma - second what diabolik says.

This has to be about YOU not him. And, if he wants to drink, then he will regardless of what you hoped he'd do.

What matters is whether or not you drink because he is.

If you want a drink or two then have one.

If you want a bottle or two then you need to not pick up that very first drink.

You are the one who has to decided what you do about this, not your DH.

When I stopped at first, DH said I was over thinking it all, stupid etc for thinking that I had a drink problem.

I'd say that 90+ units a week and not stopping til I passed out or ran out was a problem.

That has all changed now. He has cut down dramatically. ON HIS OWN! I left him to it and he saw how fresh and alert I am each morning and thought he fancied some of that too, and being sober of a morning [hgrin]

My point is this - do this for YOU. Just you. I know it's tough going it alone but you CAN DO IT.

If we want to, we can ALL control our drinking.

thanks guys - this hot chocolate is very tasty and that makes two nights out of the last 3 with no alcohol. tomorrow is a test as dH is on a sleepover at work so i have the rare luxury of a night to myself to relax. normally the cue for a bottle of wine...but tomorrow is another day and I will be at least facing it sober and clear-headed.

I'm sure it's not easy ma when your DH is enjoying his few beers in front of you - but having got over the initial urge, and passed over the ready made excuse to join him, you know that you will feel much happier in yourself.
When I first stopped smoking I used to be so envious of people that still smoked - I saw them has having all the fun without any of the guilt - That just seems like really odd logic to me now.
Looking forwards to another hangover free morning tomorrow.
x

Sleep well lovely. Glad that the title is a pleasing one.

xx

diabolik, thanks for telling me that about the sleeping! I have to say, a 40 minute jog is my idea of hell but I did go out for some long walks in the first few days sober, and should do it again.

weeindie, hi there! I know what you mean about identifying with people because you can see it in yourself - my friend's dad is basically dying of alcoholism, and it gives me the shivers when she talks about him, not just because I'm sad for her but because I feel so guilty for being not so very different from him. He must only be in his late 40s (I think), but last time she heard from him he had fallen asleep in his caravan drunk, burned his legs badly on the portable heater, then discharged himself early from hospital ... because they wouldn't let him drink as much as he wanted to.

evening all. Quiet on here tonight! I hope everyonr is feeling peaceful. X

Hey LRP

How sad is that story. And yet, you can bet your life that he, and countless others, will still drink until they do die from alcoholism.

So very sad. [hsad]

Hi christi a lovely peaceful evening here. DS away at his friends, so just me and DD pottering around - no dramas, no guilt.
[hsmile]

Yes, mouse. And weeindie is right: we identify with people because even if the rest of the world thinks we're coping fine and miles different, we're not really. It's good to get that dose of reality, even if it is very sad.

But sad things aside - it is nice and peaceful here Anti, I'm hoping that's a sign we're all doing well.

I think I'm going to head to bed soon, but night night all! [hsmile]

(I have always wanted to do a festive smiley and I don't think I ever have before.)

Goodnight LRP

Sleep well. I'm off to bed too.

Christi - how are you? I feel like we haven't spoken in a while.... how is the job hunt going?

I hope you are ok xx

Off to bed myself now Brave Babes... rest well xx