BFP after recent loss

[purplecolouroffunk]

Hello!

I know there are quite a few threads like this, but thought I’d start a new one for those of us going through this just now 🙂

I found out about my MMC at what should have been 7.5 weeks (no growth since 5). Had to have a D&C as my body wouldn’t let go. That was back in mid-April.

I’ve had one period since then and it now looks like I’m pregnant again! Can’t believe we’ve been so luckily to fall again so quickly.

Got a vfl yesterday at 10dpo and the line is a bit darker today at 11dpo. Pic attached has 11dpo at the top and 10dpo bottom. What a shock when I saw that line!

Anyway, I’m already feeling nervous about everything so I thought I’d make a space for people in a similar position to join. Maybe we can help to calm each others’ nerves a bit 💜

@Beks96@Lemonbalm8 hope you're both doing ok and your scan goes well tomorrow @Lemonbalm8 🩷

Best of luck for your scan today @Lemonbalm8 🩷

Will be thinking of you today @Lemonbalm8 ❤️

I've been having on and off all day nausea, but I'm only vomiting in the morning if I cough as it triggers it? Like it's a cough then I gag, then I'm sick but it's usually just bile as I have no food in my stomach. I feel better after I'm sick but then the nausea comes back not long after! And I tend not to vomit during the day it's only when I first get up, am I weird? 😤

I've also been panicking recently about progesterone masking a MC, I'm 7+4 now and my MMC was at 8+3 but found at 12 weeks, I do have a scan at 10 weeks but terrified it'll show another MMC 😭

@purplecolouroffunk me too re sex only once in my fertile window! Weird eh? I'm telling myself it was meant to be 🌈 I'm on holiday but catching up on posts and just wanted to say that I was measuring 6mm and 6+2 at my last scan too so sounds like your measurements are fine 👍

All best wishes for today @Lemonbalm8 💛 sending love xx

@CosmicLove that's good to hear! Makes things seem a bit more normal :)

Thinking of you today @Lemonbalm8 💜

Wishing you all the luck in the world today @Lemonbalm8. I hope it goes well and will be thinking of you.

@purplecolouroffunk - I think each machine has its own calibration set in in terms of dating based on CRL and gestational sac. I was 9.5mm at 7weeks which online is either bang on for 7 weeks or tracking behind or even tracking ahead depending on the chart I find, but seemingly for the scan machine they used it’s measuring in line with dates. My gestation sac is a bit small which I’m super worried about, but the EPU told me they weren’t concerned so I guess I have to trust them. I could only find one chart online that had my gestation sac in range :-(

Have booked a private scan on Friday at 8+1 as we’re leaving that evening to go on holiday for two weeks to visit my husbands family in Europe. If it’s still progressing won’t be able to hide the pregnancy as I love wine normally and will be avoiding all the things we normally do like the sauna so feel we’ll have to share the news and then I’ll have to tell my family too to be fair. Wish it was a few weeks later as feel like 8 weeks is still so early and really won’t feel remotely comfortable sharing news until 12 weeks. I just don’t want people getting excited and telling me it’s all going to be fine when I’m so anxious about it all.

@Bubbles19818 that's interesting! And actually makes sense. I only looked at one table online with CRL by weeks/day so I guess maybe it differs. The machine calibration totally makes sense too. Makes me feel better! I'm hoping I'll have caught up by the 8 week scan.

I'm glad you have your 8 week scan booked! How are you feeling about it?

Hmmm that is a tricky one with the family. How many people are we talking? Are they people that would be supportive if anything were to happen? We've told the same people we told last time - my thinking was that they were incredibly supportive, and they're people that I look to for support again this time if we need it.

Some good news from my side. The bleeding was caused by hematoma, that seems to be quite small, hopefully it will disappear. The baby is doing well. Good heartbeat and measuring even a day ahead. The hematoma may cause some more spotting, but hopefully this time I won't just think the worst. It's been such a difficult time for me, I couldn't stop crying this morning. I had an argument with my partner as well, just feel like there aren't many people who I can rely on for support. I'm so grateful to have this group here. Thank you for the good wishes, and I hope we all continue well in our pregnancy.

Oh @Lemonbalm8 I'm so pleased for you! What wonderful news. I hope this gives you some peace and calm for now. Sending a big virtual hug from sunny Spain ❤️ xxxxx

@Lemonbalm8 amazing news I'm so pleased for you and that you can also pinpoint it to the hematoma. Measuring a day ahead is amazing! Sounds like the little bean is doing really well! Sending so much love xx

Hi ladies, wondering if I’d be able to join your lovely group? I’ve been reading your thread all weekend and you all seem so lovely and supportive. First I wanted to say @Lemonbalm8 I’m so so pleased to read your latest update - what fantastic news and I’m keeping everything crossed for you.

I am 6W3D today. I have a beautiful 2.5 year old baby boy. We lost our first pregnancy in 2021 around 9 weeks and I had to have an ERPC which was very traumatic. We were so lucky to get pregnant with our little boy a few months later though. We were then TTC since October and finally got pregnant after a chemical in April (again traumatic but in a very different way) so here we are. I’m really proud of myself for getting this far, I stopped testing at 5 weeks after getting a dye stealer on a FRER and feeling like it was time. I hardly had any MS with my son which stressed me out so much but MS has really ramped up over the past few days and I now feel hungover all day every day which tbh I’m thrilled about as it’s helping my anxiety. I had an early scan at the EPU with my son as I was so anxious I was making myself ill but this time I’m finding the ‘head in the sand’ approach is working better and me and my husband aren’t really discussing it! Every time I go to the loo my heart is in my mouth, I’m taking my BBT every morning in a vain attempt to check ‘something’ and I’m drinking and peeing a LOT. I’m having intrusive thoughts about blood and early scans and hospitals which I’m trying to sit with and work through and tell myself this is a new pregnancy, but it really is challenging. I don’t think I could face an early private scan as we had one with our first pregnancy and all looked fine (I’m so sorry if that triggers anyway) but equally terrified of a MMC. I also struggle with ‘jinxing’, like I feel I’m jinxing things just by writing this out…I know, I know, I’m really fun at parties 🙃

Anyway, that’s my life story! Happy to be here and I hope everyone’s doing okay today at least xxxx

@Lemonbalm8 it's such a hard time and emotions are so heightened, my partner and I were really in a bad way the last time and we've had our moments this time too. It's because you both care so much. It takes time to learn to deal with something like this as it's something you never wish you'd ever go through. Sending hugs and you always have us! 💖 so nice to hear your positive news!

I have just had my booking appointment and asked them to book me a scan at the EPU because of the spotting. They said they're not concerned based on how I described it but they knew I was anxious and could do with the reassurance.

@Lemonbalm8 that's fantastic news! I'm so happy you got good news. Hopefully you don't get any more bleeding.

@Dreamer1987 sorry to hear about all you've been through. After my MMC I was adamant I'd get an early scan but I actually feel like I won't as I've had the head in the sand approach so far. I also wouldn't like to have bad news at a private scan. Hopefully all goes well with this pregnancy.

@Lemonbalm8 i am so so pleased for you. What a relief, hopefully the heamatoma will stop asap for you!

How is everyone finding eating a balanced diet? I’m struggling to eat as healthy as I’d like all of the time as I’m just craving yummy things which isn’t great I am still fitting fruit and veg in the mix but I want everything I shouldn’t have!

@torturedpoet13 regarding coughing and gagging, since I got cold last week, I've been coughing quite a bit every day (I thought this could have caused my bleeding - thanks Google), but i did gag few times. I thought it was heartburn so had gaviscon some evenings, it helped a bit. I think yours is obviously pregnancy related nausea, but just wanted to mention I've also been gagging with coughing. Have you tried eating something right after you wake up? Like something you keep under your pillow, and then lie down for 30 min and see if it helps.

@Beks96 it's so hard isn't it. Relationships are complicated enough without throwing in past traumas, stress of sickness and and the fact that this is all happening inside our bodies and all consuming. Hopefully we will make up today or tomorrow, but I am sure it won't be the only time... He sulks after fights and I definitely don't want to be the one apologising because I'm always the one doing it.
Have they booked anything for you in terms of scans? I am glad they think it's ok, though I understand you might want to have the scan.
@Rockyslife honestly I've been eating the same due to not having symptoms 🙈 but I am not a very healthy eater (occasional McDonald's and takeouts). I should probably eat more veg and fruits, the only way I get fruits in is eating after my son's leftovers (he is a big fruit lover). I am definitely using the pregnancy as an excuse to eat junk 😂

Thank you.
I think we have all found our own ways to cope after loss, it's whatever works for each of us. Not having a scan is ok. Also if you are ever worried about symptoms going, I have absolutely no symptoms (I had about 2-3 days of symptoms since I found out) and after a day of symptoms the next day it's gone for like a week, I still can't believe I'm pregnant. I have had 2 early scans, one unplanned and one due to bleeding, and I'm so grateful for them, but I am also same as you, trying to remain oblivious most of the time (helped by not having any symptoms), not testing as much, a bit detached. It's up and down really, not every day is the same but this is the calmest I've felt in a pregnancy, I just feel like I've got no control over anything.

@Lemonbalm8 they are, I think eventually it does bring you closer together and you learn each others triggers and stuff but at the time it's rough. People are such complicated beings🤦🏽‍♀️ We are both really stubborn and feel everything really deeply. My partner doesn't show his emotions as much as I do, this has all made him better at it though.

The midwives I saw today are going to book a scan at the EPU for me. I was adamant at taking the head in the sand approach but I think I've got past a certain point now, close to where it went wrong last time. I feel more in control of it this time as I was bleeding lots last time and this has been different, it clears up for a good few days and it's brown.

They may not even ring as I rang twice approaching 6 weeks and they said they'd get back to me and never did 🤷🏽‍♀️ I'll chase it again if not.

I hope they can get you in for a scan, and just generally look after you. It makes such a difference mentally to know there is somewhere and someone you can turn to for help. Early pregnancy is the most worrying time I've gone through, but it'll be worth it 🤞🏻

@Lemonbalm8 selfishly after hearing your news today, I'm feeling more reassured about my own situation! I've not really had much proper nausea yet - just off my food a bit. By this time in both my successful and unsuccessful pregnancies, I was so ill with nausea. So I've been really worried that something has gone wrong. It's so reassuring to read that everything is healthy for you, despite not really having any symptoms. I don't think I'd even know I was pregnant if I hadn't tested! Xxx

@Dreamer1987 welcome and lovely to have you with us. I'm so sorry for your losses. I also had a surgical evacuation and I found it very traumatic too. Huge congratulations on your BFP and here's to a healthy pregnancy ahead ❤️🌈xxxx

Hope you enjoy your holidays! And yes I thought people who said they don't have symptoms are trying to make people like us feel better, bless them, but it seems that it truly can happen. I did read though it can start later at week 9-10, so we will see.
I just had a mucus plug type of thing come out with clots, I'm almost tempted to put a photo of it here but it's tmi. Honestly I'm not out of the woods and feel constantly worried. Hope this Miracle baby keeps going strong 🤞🏻

@Lemonbalm8 nothing tmi on here as far as I'm concerned! Feel free to post if you want. I've also had some weird looking cm but I honestly think that's okay in pregnancy so please try not to worry xx

Girls I can actually help with this - I really did not have symptoms with my son and all was fine despite my worries.the odd wave of nausea but nothing serious, no vomiting at all. The nausea would come and go every few days to a week from about weeks 7-9 I’d say, but it really wasn’t what I thought pregnancy nausea would be. Didn’t impact my day I just noted it down in my app as I was so desperate for a sign. I felt completely normal for the vast majority of my pregnancy. Baby boy made his debut at 39W3D completely healthy ❤️ when I started feeling him kick it was a game changer and I finally started to believe something was happening.

just sharing in case it helps anyone feel better as it really is possible. I appreciate the irony of not taking my own advice here though ha! 🙃

Hey gals, sorry I’m so bad at posting I’m always reading though! Been so busy at work then at home too with a little demon toddler running riot😴
I’m 6+4 now, feel like everything should be progressing ok as the symptoms are definitely intense! Hoping it’s not twins aha😱 was going to wait til 8 weeks to arrange booking app. as didn’t want to jinx things but think I’ll get booked in now as things are definitely ramping up!
Current symptoms: tired alllll day, hunger and eating like a pig has been replaced with sickness and being put off loads of foods and my tiny titties are now hugggggeee😅😍

@Lemonbalm8 so glad your scan went well today! Measuring a day ahead is fab too, strong little bean there😍💪

@torturedpoet13 I’m literally exactly the same with the sickness!🤣 Feel sick on and off all day long, but only ever throw up in the morning when I wake up and also triggered by coughing! Feel like I kinda force my self to cough to make it happen though cos I’m like get it out the system then you feel better 🤦🏼‍♀️😅😩
after my MC in April I said I wanted morning sickness this time (as I didn’t then) to reassure me that I was actually pregnant and now I’m like erghhh the suffering🤢😭