BFP after recent loss

[purplecolouroffunk]

Hello!

I know there are quite a few threads like this, but thought I’d start a new one for those of us going through this just now 🙂

I found out about my MMC at what should have been 7.5 weeks (no growth since 5). Had to have a D&C as my body wouldn’t let go. That was back in mid-April.

I’ve had one period since then and it now looks like I’m pregnant again! Can’t believe we’ve been so luckily to fall again so quickly.

Got a vfl yesterday at 10dpo and the line is a bit darker today at 11dpo. Pic attached has 11dpo at the top and 10dpo bottom. What a shock when I saw that line!

Anyway, I’m already feeling nervous about everything so I thought I’d make a space for people in a similar position to join. Maybe we can help to calm each others’ nerves a bit 💜

I'm short sighted anyway but when I'm pregnant I can't see anywhere near as well in general. I have to wear my glasses all the time. I think it can be a common thing, not sure what it relates to medically though @jellyfish2

@Beks96 lovely news that's great you got to see your healthy baby.

Thanks for the reassurance, I wear glasses anyway and weirdly felt like I had to take them off. I'll mention it at my booking appointment next week.

@Beks96 Congratulations on your scan 😍 I was prescribed Cyclogest, I take it vaginally and don’t have any issues (it is messy though, wear liners!!!) but I know some people do have problems with it irritating the cervix so prefer to have it up the back way

Hello! I had my booking appointment this morning, it went on for 2 hours. It was just a lot of questions but also I have high risk pregnancy due to blood clotting likelihood, though the midwife mentioned that doesn't mean the birth is high risk.
@Beks96 oh lovely, it's reassuring to see the heartbeat, did she prescribe progesterone? It's a little tricky to get it more than 2 weeks and also GPs are not great, so feel free to go to epu to get more if needed. I take 400mg twice a day. I do it in the back, it's obviously not the nicest thing to do, but it does help many pregnancies and has no risks. It didn't deter me spotting even doing in the back each time and I am still spotting every week, it's giving me so much anxiety. But I think overall it provides a good environment for the baby. No side effects for me, maybe a bit more diarrhea and bloatedness (sorry tmi), but as long as you don't have a bowel movement within 30 min of pessary, I was told it's all absorbed.

@MrsB2019x I'm feeling much better today as well, after a rough week. I don't think this is a big worry as I had a lot of symptoms coming and going with my son 💚 but I'm really worried about spotting, it's just a constant reminder and I'm even drinking less water so I don't need to go to the bathroom so frequently 😞
@jellyfish2 have you had a booking appt yet, they take blood pressure and bloods. It might help to mention there. I did have a day of strong headache together with weird vision. It wasn't exactly blurred. It was almost like my eyesight changed, I wear glasses and I felt like I needed to take off my glasses to feel less sick. My blood pressure was a bit low. It might help to pop in to do eye test as well, I feel like I'm also getting far sighted, not just near sighted 😂
@Dreamer1987 thank you for the good wishes!

Well I'm sat in the EPU waiting room having gushed out a massive amount of blood and clots so I hope everyone else's day is going better. Felt exactly like when I had a SCH last time, but that ultimately didn't end well so not greatly reassured by that thought. They did say they probably can't scan me today but to come in anyway so the doctor could review things, and they've booked in a scan for first thing tomorrow.

@Lemonbalm8 glad you're feeling a bit better today. I've not got my booking appointment until next Wednesday so I'll mention it then.

@Persipan I'm sorry you're going through this, you must have got such a fright. I hope everything is OK 🩷

Oh god bless you this is so stressful - virtual handhold. I had this at 14 weeks and all was fine - it was very hot and they said I hsdnt drunk enough water. I know you’re earlier though. Sending you so much love and hoping all is ok and that the Dr can at least reassure you somehow xxx

Done for now, no scan until tomorrow as predicted but at least it's first thing. Bleeding has eased off but not stopped; feeling vaguely crampy but nothing to write home about. We'll see what we'll see; not optimistic but then I never am, really.

Sorry to hear about the day @Persipan . I hope they give you some reassurance tomorrow, it's good sign that bleeding and cramping are less now, but I understand why you'd feel worried. Best of luck for tomorrow, I've got everything crossed you get a good outcome tomorrow x

Hello everyone. I hope we’re all ok, I’m sorry that there are a few of you feeling anxious and overwhelmed at the moment. It’s the worst feeling in the world and I am trying to keep mine at bay.

Me and hubby have decided to go for the nipt private test after a week of contemplating what to do we think it’s the best route for us. I’m just so scared because again it involves a scan a scan I don’t want to have a scan I am absolutely petrified of having to ensure that baby is still alive and is ok. It’s just so traumatic. I keep telling myself this time you haven’t had any hick ups (yet) and there is no reason for baby to of passed away but then there are so many women who go for their 12 week scan with no symptoms of loss and find out that news it’s horrendous.

they’ve advised me not to have another scan before my dating scan which is a week ok Wednesday at the early pregnancy unit unless I need too for medical reasons etc, but the scan place has said they need to check baby’s dating far gone enough and it’s hearts still beating. I am contemplating what to do as my dating scan will be a week on Monday but she did say my dating scan won’t take very long if all comes back clear from these tests as won’t need to have the process done again.

im scared, in fact I am petrified, but after 3 losses already I really want a healthy viable pregnancy and would rather know at 11 weeks than 14-17 weeks if something wasn’t right with the baby. I am scared to talk about it because I’m scared that baby might not even be alive. It’s mental what my brain is doing to me I just can’t control these emotions and thoughts. All I keep thinking is it won’t happen for me I don’t ever have any luck.

any way, I am waffling but even if no one reads my waffle it’s helped me in some way writing it down.

sending you all lots of love

Oh I feel sad that so many of us are worried now (including myself). We have come so far, good scans, but we still have so much trauma and anxiety. Big virtual hug, and I hope we get our good outcomes. Two week wait is nothing compared to this! Let's keep positive until if and when we hear otherwise, there is nothing else we can do or control.

@purplecolouroffunk shall we start another thread? Think this one is running out.

Oh @Persipan I’m so sorry, hope tonight flies by so you can get your answers tomorrow 🩷

AND NOW I HAVE FUCKING COVID

BECAUSE FUCK YOU THAT’S WHY!

In all seriousness, I hope you’re okay. Will they still scan you today?

@Persipan awww I'm so sorry you're really going through it😢 I hope you still get to go to your scan❤️

@Lemonbalm8 you're so right, we need to try and stay positive until we're told otherwise. We truly have no control, whether we're negative or positive, so hard though but we'll get through it🤞🏼✨

@MrsB2019x & @Lemonbalm8 thanks so much for the advice RE cyclogest. I've been prescribed 400mg twice a day too. I think I'm going to try the back passage first and see what happens. I'll deffo wear a liner though lol. Are you meant to lie down for a bit afterwards? Just thinking how early I'll have to get up when I'm in the office ffs lol.

I don't know if anyone is in the same boat, but my symptoms completely disappear for a good few days, then I'll get slight symptoms again but nothing to write home about. Does anyone else jump to worst case scenario straight away and panic a bit? Was speaking to the lovely nurses at the EPU, they said a lot of women are like that and it's a coping mechanism but so normal for symptoms to go away, even sometimes completely. It's like a rollercoaster. Trying to detach myself from being fixated on symptoms now and just go with the flow... sooo hard though.

They did indeed scan me, they just had me wear a mask and they wore ALL the PPE. Still pregnant! Heartbeat, measuring fine. But as predicted, a whopper of a subchorionic haematoma which is not great. I had one last time around and although I know things end well for many if not most people who have one, things went the other way for me last time. So I'm basically very tense right now. (And also have FUCKING COVID)

Amazing news about your scan @Persipan! I’m honestly so thrilled for you!!

I’ve made a new thread as this one is about to get full -

www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5127417-bfp-after-recent-loss-thread-2

Haven't seen you on here for a few days @purplecolouroffunk hope you're okay 💜