Very early pregnancy and so much anxiety after miscarriage

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I found out I was pregnant a couple of days ago.

i had a miscarriage about 4 years ago and have since had a successful pregnancy who is my gorgeous DS.

but now I’m pregnant again I have SO much anxiety, I’m terrified of miscarrying.

how do you reassure yourself to calm down? I feel like my head goes completely out of control!

Hi! I could have written this myself, it’s literally my story!

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss first of all, I also had a miscarriage 4 years ago and now have my son who is 3 years old. Currently only 4 weeks pregnant and wishing I found out so much later than this, I’m now in constant worry and stress of miscarrying. This 2 weeks wait until I can book an early scan to see any kind of heartbeat are the longest 2 weeks.
Every symptom/cramp I have, my mind immediately goes to ‘I’m miscarrying’. I don’t have any words of wisdom on how to help the anxiety because there’s nothing that’ll calm it, take each day as it comes and know you’re not alone.
please keep me updated! I’ve got cramps and a little lower backache at the moment xx

Thank you so much for replying!

literally snap! I feel exactly the same as you!
i feel like my entire day is filled with worry and stress over miscarriage.
I completely ruined my last pregnancy, the panic of loss never went away and it was completely miserable, I don’t want to do that again but I’m so anxious my head totally rules!

im going to book an early scan too but worried as the last time I did that I was a week behind and couldn’t see a heartbeat (everything was fine in the end just too early) and you can imagine the panic 😅

im also 4 weeks! Maybe we are due at the same time- 3rd week of May?
deffo keep me updated too!
i have cramping and have done for 2 whole weeks!? And for the last 2 days very sicky… I started being sick this week with my last pregnancy! So anticipating that to probably start soon 😅

My previous was exactly the same, I didn’t enjoy it until I got to 24 weeks and then diagnosed with gestational diabetes so even then I couldn’t relax 🤦🏼‍♀️

I’ve been having backache today with cramps, seem to get really nauseous if I haven’t eaten in an hour either 😅 it feels like my belly is completely empty and I know it’s not! Haha.
Every time I’ve been to the toilet today I’m 90% sure there’s going to be blood and I can’t seen to shake that feeling at all! I just know that backache and cramps I associate with my period and my previous miscarriage.
how’re you feeling today? Yes due 21st May I believe 🤞🏻

oh no!!!! Yes same the entire way through it was constant anxiety, I never believed I’d meet him!

so similar to me, backache, cramps, trapped wind, sicky, I need to eat CONSTANTLY I didn’t have the hunger part with my son!
I’m the same I keep going to check there’s no blood 😞
I’m feeling ok 😅 the symptoms come and go, so I panic but I know some people still have none at this stage

no way mines the 22nd 🤣🤣🤣

Ah such close dates! Amazing.
Woke up this morning with barely any symptoms, just achy nipples 😅 always worried me, but keep having to tell myself it’s so so early to be worrying about lost symptoms xx

Yes! How funny, I think my dates will be wrong though and I’m earlier than 4+6 I can’t ever understand how on earth the dating makes sense 😅

yes I had to tell myself the same. Basically I’m a constant internal monologue atm haha!

I only know my dates because of that Flo app, tracking my periods etc 🙈

my symptoms seem to have slowed down today, been worrying me for hours. Just can’t calm myself about anything. I’m holding on the the fact my nipples are a little sore when I touch them. But my ovary’s seem to twinge when I’m walking or when I move suddenly. Don’t know what to make of that though
how're you?

@Cassarat yes I had that yesterday! Basically no symptoms, then today I was feeling SO sick, and lots of CM. I think at this stage it comes and goes, I’d try not to worry too much. The only thing that helped me is doing daily tests 😅

I had a very painful pain when I sneezed earlier, I think it’s just the stretching that takes place!

I’ve booked in an early scan for 3 weeks when I’ll be 8 weeks. I’ve also received my booking in appointment at the hospital, have you got yours? X

Ah yes. When I cough and sneeze it feels like my whole uterus has exploded! So intense haha.
I’m getting a stitch like pain on my left side tonight, it was the right side last night so at least it’s not just one sided.
I booked myself in online on the NHS maternity referral form thing last week, but it did say wait until 6 weeks to do it but oh well.
I’m 5 weeks tomorrow so don’t think I’ll hear for a few more weeks. Wish they were more efficient so I feel like things are happening.
I done another digital test today and it had moved from 1-2 to 2-3 so that’s something 🙏🏻

Yes haha that’s exactly how it feels 🤣
I’ve had stitch pains at different points too, on both sides. The worst pain I’ve had is the trapped wind!?!??

oh I hope you hear soon! I got the letter 2 days later. Maybe my hospital are less buy then usual 🤣

that’s great news! I’m going to do a digital at the end of the week i think

@Cassarat ^

@Moonbeam4040 thank you! I’ll have a look! I’ve been doing daily yoga and it’s deffo helped my anxiety

Ah thank you! I’ll have a look at that too.
Ah trapped wind! I hadn’t thought of that although I have been going to the toilet - woken up this morning with horrid cramps and lower back pain, I’m so sure they’ll be blood next time I go to the toilet 😔 it’s a really uncomfortable pain xx

@Cassarat oh no!!! Hot water bottle and some paracetamol! Can you rest?

I’ve had some slightly more painful cramps then usual today. I feel worried too but I’m going to take it easy and eat lots of nourishing food and do some yoga to take my mind of it!

sending love x

Yes I’m going to rest all day today - not that I do much any other day apart from school runs and cleaning.
I had 3 bowls of chicken casserole last night so maybe it’s some backed up constipation going on 🙈
Hope you’re doing well today! X

@Cassarat good plan! HAHA that’s hilarious, too much casserole 🤣

I was very close to vomiting today 😬 think it might be soon

I just kept going back, couldn’t help myself! Wasn’t even hungry after the first bowl! 😂
Oh no, not the sickness, I’ve just woken up from a 2 hour nap 🤦🏼‍♀️ I was only sick once with my son and that was around 9 weeks because my bath was way too hot. Really hoping I don’t have it again this time round x

@Cassarat I can understand because I CANT stop eating 🤣

I had to nap too! But 2 hours wow!

oh lord, I actually had hyperemesis with my son and was sick 20x a day, reallllly hoping that’s not the case this time

I’ve had left sided pain today and it’s scaring me, Really hope it goes or evens out by tomorrow

Ah I’m sorry to hear that! Must have been awful. Hoping for little to no sickness this time round for you 🤞
I had that left side pain yesterday and it freaked me out! I had it on the right today and looked around for a reasoning. I found that it’s common with the uterus stretching.. as long as it’s both sides and doesn’t just reside on 1 side - it should be completely normal!

@Cassarat thank you!

yes it does seem to swap thank goodness, it’s just constant worry isn’t it

I did a test today and it’s a dye stealer so that’s made me happy 🤣

What’s a dye stealer? 😅 haha

@Cassarat haha it’s when the test line is stronger than the control 🤣 it ‘steals’ the dye from the control line I guess

Ahhhh of course! I should have put 2 and 2 together there!
These are mine from the past 3 days including today, which is at the bottom. Yesterdays scared me as it was much fuller than the previous 🙄

Duller**

Those are looking good though! I’ve got 2 digitals left and then I think I’ll stop testing 🤣