Pregnant at 35+ (old ovaries, new lines) - Thread 2

[M4v3r1ck]

Setting up a new thread! Hopefully I can tag some of you! 😃

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7
@ImpatientTTCer
@Katiekattty
@TTCat39
@MgW1

@Noodella18 I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I have my scan on Wednesday and I've got a really strong feeling that I'll be in the same boat.
The exact same thing happened to me - literally overnight lost all nausea and boob pain. It's such a worry. Do you know if they make you pass it naturally at that stage? Last time I was quite early on so let it happen at home but would have chosen surgical if they hadn't cancelled general anaesthetic due to covid. I wouldn't manage surgical management without it GA but found it really distressing the last time x

@M4v3r1ck you're almost exactly the same as me! MMC in July 2020 and pregnant again for the second time now. Still googling all the lingo and abbreviations 😄

@Noodella18 oh no, how awful for your friend. That’s what we’re all fearing, isn’t it, so we can all feel particular empathy with her. Two of my best friends lost their babies at a similar stage (a 9w mmc noticed at 12w scan, and a mc at 10-11w) and I’m petrified of it happening to me - I’ve even started having proper wake-up-screaming nightmares about it 😩

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 so glad everything went well with your scan! 🎉 must be a weight off your mind. Do you have a booking appt arranged yet?

@lennyunexpected symptoms can also come and go, and the chart I saw for hcg levels today showed it starts reducing down in healthy pregnancies a couple months before going into the 2nd trimester also. Good luck for your scan. I think all of us having had losses before can empathise with the anxiety and nerves though this time around.

@ImpatientTTCer I can refer to a midwife normally now I think, so I'll get that sorted

Oh wow @Noodella18 I'm so sorry about your friend. 💔

That's literally my fear going into my 7 week ultrasound next week. For them to tell me nothing is there or that it's smaller than it needs to be or that there is no heartbeat...

I don't know how not to stress about it. Everyone tells me to relax and that it positive thoughts.

I am scared and stressed and anxious and frankly not very optimistic.

I'm 6+1 today according to premom app. And I'm feeling the exact same things I felt this time last miscarriage pregnancy. At 6 weeks I had really sore boobs and I was sooooo bloated I felt gross. I feel bloated but hungry at the same time. Anything I eat causes me to feel bloated so I'm trying to eat less but then I get hungry about an hour later. Same thing as last time. I'm scared that this is so much alike that it makes me feel it's the same outcome.

I just don't know how to be positive right now. I would kill for other symptoms like nausea or maybe frequent urination.... Something that would make me feel this is different.

I just want to vent, as today I woke up feeling super down.

What do I do if next week they tell me, sorry it's not good news. For the third time.

Do I just give up then? Ugh.

How do I make myself feel more optimistic??? With stories like Noodelas' friend, I just feel worse about it happening to me. It's just so common.... Like, why would this time be different.

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 that's a little reassuring. The anxiety comes in waves, like most people. I think it was just the suddenness of the symptoms stopping that rattled me a little. I've deliberately tried to make myself quite detached from the whole thing to protect myself. (And focus on all the things I have to be grateful for now) x

@VixFromThe6ix it's so tough. From what I've seen in all the official literature, we're overwhelmingly likely to have babies - but it's not really a comfort when you're experiencing the dread, eh? X

I'm really sorry to bring a downer onto the thread 😔 I guess I was a bit shocked and let it out, but it was insensitive given people's past experiences and lots of scans coming up. So sorry everyone.

Although it's scary, the rational thing to think is that most likely everything will be OK. We're not all carbon copies, people bleed, have no symptoms, have stopped symptoms etc and go on to have healthy little babies. I bled every day of my first trimester with my daughter and she's solid as a rock! Sending loads of love and luck to everyone who has a scan coming up soon xxx

@lennyunexpected it's so hard!! Just wanna feel calm and look forward to a baby bump

@Noodella18 aww, I didn't mean to make you feel bad, it's something I thought about before reading about your friend. It's a sad reality that women have miscarriages late. I'm living in a bit of fear right now... Dreading next week.

What did you end up getting for your friend? I never know what's appropriate for sad occasions

@Noodella18 I'm gutted for your friend didn't take it as a downer x I find it quite helpful being able to discuss stuff like this openly, with people who understand what it's like to be that scared. I think it just shows our fears are all normal x

@VixFromThe6ix I saw recently that they were making cards for people who had miscarriages as a way of breaking they taboo. After mine my friend showed up with a beautiful alocasia plant, champagne, cigarettes, posh nail polish, and LOADS of junk food and it was everything that I needed to just veg out and feel sorry for myself. She's VERY anti-smoking (she's right, it's a filthy habit), so I was just so touched that she bought them x

@VixFromThe6ix did you have any ultrasound yet lovely? I bet that one week til your upcoming one feels like it's dragging for sure.
You've got the progesterone this time around, and it should make all the difference to the other times. It's hard to stay zen though. I'm feeling this anxiety may stay for this whole pregnancy anyway - when can we relax a bit!?

@Noodella18 don't worry about bringing up your friend, it's something sad and we all know the reality of miscarriages in the first trimester. Had she seen the heart beat before? Saw a comforting stat that if you've seen the heartbeat and are at 8 weeks or more, your miscarriage rate drops down to just a couple percent.

@lennyunexpected what a lovely friend, that was so kind of her!

@lennyunexpected wow your friend is amazing. I bet it helped to take your mind off of it all for a second. I didn't get anything from anyone... Just some sympathy. That's why this time around I'm waiting to tell anyone till at least 3 months. Only one friend knows and she's been checking in on me every day so that's nice.

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 hi love, no ultrasound yet. This will be my first. I'm with a different doctor this time so I'm following her direction. Definitely not had a stress-free day yet. Will it even come? Lol 🤣

I just hope my stress is not doing any damage to the fetus.

@VixFromThe6ix
No I think you should be optimistic because this time your on your progesterone and its normal to feel bloated. Im not having early scan , im thrashing it out til week 13 x

@VixFromThe6ix well you're so close to having it now, and seven weeks sounds like a good bet

Ladies i have had a call from my mc consulatant who has invited me to to the clinic for a scan today.... bag of nerves!! I wasnt going to have one but she said that they wont be discharging me just yes so can keep an eye on things over coming weeks 😬 x

@MgW1 that sounds really great and I'm glad they'll be watching you properly and checking up how you go. When will your scan or bloods be?

@MgW1 ignore I see you said today! Good luck

@MgW1 good luck! Fingers crossed for you that all is well xx

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7
At 12:15 today 🤪 xx

Ah good luck @MgW1 !!

Everything crossed for you @MgW1 🥰

Had scan and they cant see anything yet , lining of womb has thickened and thats it so far , cant see anything in my fallopian tubes which is reassuring sonnow its an anxious wait 😳

Sounds like everything is moving in the right direction @MgW1 x

Just on way for blood test and then another in 48 hrs x