Pregnant After MMC - Thread 3

[Sakura54]

New thread for anyone pregnant after MMC.

Here’s our current list of 12/20 week scan dates and due dates.

Scan dates:
@Poppy10121 Thursday 1st October
@Sakura54 Wednesday 7th October 2.40pm
@bubblybon20 Tuesday 13th October 11:10am
@Dancem1 Thursday 15th October
@ew1990 Tuesday 20th October
@SkyBlue20 Tuesday 27th October, 1:20pm

Due dates:
@bubblybon20 - 27/02/21 Boy
@Sakura54 - 28/02/21
@DanceM1 - 04/03/21
@ew1990 - 12/03/21
@SkyBlue20 - 13/03/21
@PhotoMum4 - 18/03/21
@smileyT - 18/03/21
@Poppy10121 - 08/04/21

[Pugprincess]

Aw good on you @Workingmama1 you are totally right.

@Smilingdonkey glad to hear today’s scan went well and that you are feeling more xx

[Pugprincess]

Another milestone for me 16 weeks today. X

[Sakura54]

Of course. Understandable to wait until the 12w scan after what we’ve been through. Looks like we’ll have quite a few more dates in about a month’s time!

@JoJo58995 When’s your due date and scan date? I’ll put you in.

Yep, that’s the plan. I’ve updated it. @Workingmama1

In regards to HV visiting, I had one come shortly after DS’ birth to weigh him, take blood (which I thought was an important test) and to see if I was healing ok. I then had another visit from his actual HV to introduce herself. If that isn’t necessary then I’d rather they not and I certainly don’t need a HV visiting before I’ve even had the baby. I also had to take him for an appt when it was still hard for me to walk which was annoying. I got him weighed on a weekly then monthly basic as I'm obsessed with his development as he’s a preemie.

[JoJo58995]

@Sakura54 due date is 02/05/2021. 20w scan is 14/12/2020. Thank you xx

[Sakura54]

Scan dates
@RosieJess91 Tuesday 10th November, 11:30am (20 week)
@Poppy10121 Tuesday 17th November 9am (20 week)
@Workingmama1 Friday 20th November 9am (20 week)
@Lu93 Friday 20th November 10:20 (20 week)
@Pugprincess Monday 30th November 3pm (20 week)
@bubblybon20 Monday 7th December 9am (28 week)
@lollol86 Friday 11th December 11am ( 20 week)
@JoJo58995 Monday 14th December


Due dates:
@bubblybon20 - 27/02/21 BOY
@Sakura54 - 28/02/21 GIRL
@DanceM1 - 04/03/21 SURPRISE
@ew1990 - 12/03/21 GIRL
@SkyBlue20 - 13/03/21 GIRL
@smileyT - 15/03/21 BOY
@Dipsy77 - 15/03/21 TWIN GIRLS
@PhotoMum4 - 18/03/21
@RosieJess91 - 31/03/21
@Poppy10121 - 04/04/21 BOY
@Workingmama1 - 09/04/21 BOY
@Lu93 - 11/04/21
@Pugprincess - 17/04/21 SURPRISE
@lollol86 - 25/04/21
@JoJo58995 - 02/05/21

[Smilingdonkey]

So this might help anyone who is struggling with anxiety. As I said, I had my second attempt at the 20w scan yesterday and after processing it all last night, and having a little emotional breakdown, I have woken up this morning feeling like a new person. I feel like an enormous weight has been lifted and suddenly this thing in my tummy is a real person. I think I've been protecting myself by distancing myself from it but seeing all her little features yesterday and knowing everything is ok changes everything. I just walked past a little market stall near my house and bought a little hand knitted hat, booties and cardigan - I can finally be excited 🥰

So if you are feeling like I was, there is hope! Xxx

Pictures of her below ... Bonus points if you can work out what you are looking at in the second images?! 🤣 It's cool once you can see it!

[Pugprincess]

@Smilingdonkey I’m rubbish at this but second pics is top one top of her head? And is bottom one her bottom? Lol. Glad you are getting excited and feeling so much better xxx

[ew1990]

@smilingdonkey is it the nose and mouth from face on?

They showed me that image at mine and it was the cutest thing ever 😍😍 glad you've started to feel a but better x

[Smilingdonkey]

@ew1990 yes!! Isn't it amazing when you see it?! She was opening and closing her mouth and it made her seem so real suddenly!

[ew1990]

@smilingdonkey I had the same at mine. I knew it was A girl before they told me as the face on picture looked just like my DD. With a cute little button nose, and she kept putting this tiny little hand over her mouth! It's amazing isnt it.

After my 20 week scan was when I believed there was a baby in there too! She deffo lets me know as well with all the rolling about 🙈🙈

[Smilingdonkey]

@ew1990 yes the hands in the mouth! And she looks so much chubbier - like a real baby!

[Pugprincess]

@Smilingdonkey @ew1990 told you I’m rubbish at this! 😅 what were the last ones?

[Pugprincess]

@Smilingdonkey @ew1990 oh wait I see the mouth and nose lol, what about the top pic then? X

[Smilingdonkey]

@pugprincess same view but mouth in a sort of kissing shape!

Kind of appropriate for Halloween 🎃💀😱🤣

[Pugprincess]

@Smilingdonkey @ew1990 wait wait I’ve got there with both now 🙈🙈🙈🙈

[Pugprincess]

That’s amazing, must have been incredible to see! X

[DanceM1]

@smilingdonkey im really pleased for you but I hate to say, im just not seeing this at all 🤣 im rubbish with scan pictures!

[Smilingdonkey]

@dancem1 my partner can't see it either 🤣🤣🤣

[bubblybon20]

@Smilingdonkey they're amazing pictures!! 😍

I see Boris is having a talk today, possible lockdown again 😫

[Lu93]

Aww @Smilingdonkey your post has really made me well up, so pleased you feel so much better. I've had an up and down week but feel I'm really getting there sometimes and get excited and talk about our future. I hope by 20 weeks I have that light bulb moment of feeling way more positive! Only 3 weeks to go! Gorgeous scan photos congratulations again on your little girl 🥰

[Workingmama1]

Cute pictures @smilingdonkey! Glad all was looking good for her scan too... I've felt similar, I've been keeping quite disconnected from this pregnancy, I shocked myself this morning, we have a big mirror in our bathroom and I did a double take when I saw myself naked with a bump!

A few people have asked me if I'm excited, the reality is that I'm not yet, I feel awful saying that, but I'm still not in the place where in 5 months time I will have a baby in my arms. I've not let myself get to that point in my head, I guess I've been trying to protect myself...

[SkyBlue20]

Evening everyone!

So back in to lockdown we go...it’s quite disheartening feeling that we’ve regressed seven months but needs be I guess. Can’t drink through this one though! 😂🙈 We went to Mamas & Papas today for a personal shopper appt as want to try and buy the big things in the Black Friday sales but also wanted to be able to try them first. Feels too early but we had an eye on lockdown so thought we just needed to get it done. It was really helpful actually and we really quite like the Ocarro pram but didn’t commit to anything as want to have a bit more of a look around first. Might try one more shop tomorrow.

@Workingmama1 Congratulations on your scan and your little boy! 💙 So lovely your mum was there. Well done you for writing to your local MP, too, your point is completely right! Glad you liked the leggings.

@Smilingdonkey Congrats on your scan, such amazing pics! Glad you’re feeling so positive about everything, too. I’m a bit like WorkingMama in that I still can’t see a baby at the end of all of this but I’ve been trying to force myself to enjoy it by buying some cute bits of clothes and having the Mamas & Papas appt etc. Told my god children today, too, which was nice (but made me very nervous).

Still no real movement here, it makes me so anxious when I see everyone else talking about how much they’re having. I think I had a few little taps a couple of nights ago (it was the first time it really felt like there was something hitting me lightly from inside rather than a twitch) but I’d say that was probably the third time I’ve MAYBE felt something. I’m just so desperate for them to become more regular now, I’m 21 weeks today, SURELY it can’t be much longer?! 😫

[Pugprincess]

@SkyBlue20 aww I think you have the anterior placenta though don’t you? So least you know there’s a good reason for it.

My scan this morn guys 🙂 excited and nervous. I’ve not felt the long flutters since thurs but had the odd fairly regular one or two in a row. Hoping everything is ok 🤞🏻 Does anybody else wake up and think oh yes I’m pregnant and struggle to believe there’s actually a baby inside them lol? I have moments where I’m excited and I can imagine the future but most the time I’m cautious and anxious and can’t imagine a baby at the end of this 😔 I do love it so much already though, I’m always rubbing my bump or looking in the mirror lol. So I guess my heart 💖 is taken. I get so protective too, like in supermarkets if someone’s coming near me with a trolley or when DH is driving I freak if a car comes to close. X

[DanceM1]

Morning ladies!

I couldn't post yesterday because I let myself get all stressed and anxious after all the lockdown talk. Really worried about being in work without PPE and distancing now. I live in one of the worst areas in the country for covid and just don't feel protected at work so I feel really guilty that I'm not protecting my baby. I have asthma as well and ended up in AnE with it last Christmas (could have been covid, who knows) so its all worrying me. Anyway... I've woken up a little more positive this morning. Im going to just do the very best I can to protect myself..going to wear a mask unless actually teaching at front etc..What else can we do!

How are you all feeling about being stuck at home again? I realise that brings its own troubles! Hope everyone is OK!

@SkyBlue20 my friend didn't feel movements until 25 weeks so don't worry!! It sounds like you have been feeling baby anyway! This little one is kicking away right behind my belly button this morning 🤣 I love it and it freaks me out all at the same time!

@Pugprincess good luck for your scan!! Im sure it will be brilliant and you will be beaming afterwards.

[DanceM1]

@workingmama1 I forgot to say, I feel very much the same as you. People keep saying "oh you must be so excited" and the truth is, I do get a little excited but im still really nervous! I havent bought a single thing yet and I'll be 23 weeks this week.