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Pregnant After MMC - Thread 3

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Sakura54 · 21/09/2020 11:51

New thread for anyone pregnant after MMC.

Here’s our current list of 12/20 week scan dates and due dates.

Scan dates:
@Poppy10121 Thursday 1st October
@Sakura54 Wednesday 7th October 2.40pm
@bubblybon20 Tuesday 13th October 11:10am
@Dancem1 Thursday 15th October
@ew1990 Tuesday 20th October
@SkyBlue20 Tuesday 27th October, 1:20pm

Due dates:
@bubblybon20 - 27/02/21 Boy
@Sakura54 - 28/02/21
@DanceM1 - 04/03/21
@ew1990 - 12/03/21
@SkyBlue20 - 13/03/21
@PhotoMum4 - 18/03/21
@smileyT - 18/03/21
@Poppy10121 - 08/04/21

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Smilingdonkey · 27/10/2020 08:17

names.darkgreener.com/

Trying again

Starfish762 · 27/10/2020 08:29

@Smilingdonkey omg that website is amazing, thanks for sharing! DD’s name is around 200 babies a year, up to 600 if we’d gone with the more popular spelling but that’s still rare enough for me :) The girls names we like this time are both pretty rare atm. Although I remember when Luna was rare (my friends little girl) & now it’s pretty popular, funny now names go in waves. All the old ones seem to be coming back now too like Martha, Enid etc - cute ❤️

Sorry to hear you’ve been unwell, sack that midwife pppfffttt!

Smilingdonkey · 27/10/2020 08:59

@starfish762 it's good isn't it? Something to waste time on on a rainy day anyway!

Workingmama1 · 27/10/2020 09:44

@smilingdonkey that website is brill! I just got lost in it and a bit of a Google hole thinking of names, think I've added a few to my boys list....

At my 12 week scan they told me I'd get a letter with my 18 week appointment and to ring if I'd not got it by 16 weeks... just rang them and they said no you have to ring the community heath centre to book it! Spoke to the health centre and apparently the midwife is supposed to ring me to book it but I've not heard anything. Hopefully she is giving me a ring later to book it in. It all seems a bit confused as no one seemed to know who is doing what....

SkyBlue20 · 27/10/2020 09:59

Fab website, @Smilingdonkey! Sorry you’ve not been well, glad you’re on the mend though and baby is wriggling around.

@Workingmama1 Not sure which trust you are with for your midwife appts but I had to ring mine at 15 weeks to chase them, they put me in touch with my midwife, she started booking in my appt with me and then realised I already had one that day, they just hadn’t thought to tell me! I got a letter with the appointment on like a couple of days before it 🤦🏻‍♀️ Agree that it’s all very confused!

Bellabubble · 27/10/2020 10:04

Does anyone have any good advice for not symptom spotting? I’m 7 weeks today - have recently turned off the heart rate bit on my fit bit as my rhr has been dropping (quick google search confirmed like most things in pregnancy that it could be fine or it could not be, but also - my last pregnancy it only started to rise once the pregnancy had stopped progressing!) I feel like I’m on boob ache/sickness watch - I think because it was a mmc (kind of - nothing progressed passed 5weeks but I didn’t get any bleeding until 8+2) and I’m now looming towards the 8 week mark - my anxiety just shot through the roof :( and it’s half term so the week is stretching out before me!

Starfish762 · 27/10/2020 10:37

Hi @Bellabubble - I’m 8+5 and still don’t have any symptoms! I am a bit tired but not extremely so, and I think it’s more WFH every day & the dark nights. The only thing that settled my mind was a private scan last week when we saw a little heartbeat. I thought I was 7+5 but she moved me forward 2 days to 8w. Are you in a position to book one? I feel totally different now, on top of the world! Obv I’m not naive & know things can still go wrong, but I just feel so much more positive now. I found out about my MMC at 9.5 weeks last time (no bleeding even by 10.5 weeks) but the baby had stopped growing at 5/6 weeks. So I had the same worries as you about no symptoms. It’s all very scary, sending love xxx

Workingmama1 · 27/10/2020 12:56

@bellabubble the early days are so tough arent they! Im still anxious now but think more than I would have been if I'd not had bleeding recently as seeing a heartbeat and getting to 12 weeks were big milestones for me.

As @starfish762 said an early scan really helped me, and some of the other ladies if that is an option for you? I also ditched my fitbit for the exact same reason, rhr was dropping and it was stressing me out, 16+4 now so it wasn't indicating anything! I've also found yoga and meditation help (at least for the time you are doing them!).

@skyblue20 midwives are Bolton so they not got different trusts to battle with! The community midwives office were quite annoyed I'd been told to wait for a letter as apparently I was the second person today who had rung to ask! I was also supposed to be referred to a bereavement/mental health midwife from my booking appointment and I never heard from them either....

SkyBlue20 · 27/10/2020 14:07

Baby girl is looking perfect 💕 Very relieved. Sonographer confirmed the anterior placenta and said it’s still early so not to worry about not feeling movements yet but baby was up as high as my belly button! (She was being squished up there by my very full bladder 😂) DH got to come in but they started everything before he got there, which is arguably the worst bit, but just glad he got to see her ☺️ It feels weird not having another scan date to work towards now!

Poppy10121 · 27/10/2020 14:27

@Workingmama1 We're in totally different parts of the country but your midwifery team sound about as confused as the ones here! I have had to chase up every appointment and then there's confusion about whether it's in person or by phone... they also forgot to give me the contact details of the community midwives which I apparently should have been given at 12 week scan! I am trying to be kind and just remember that Covid is causing havoc with everything, but it does make for a stressful time!

@SkyBlue20 so glad everything went well for you, hope you can enjoy the rest of your day off now!

@Smilingdonkey great site, thanks! My fave boys name is quite a popular one which doesn't bother me too much but might start thinking of more unusual ones too!

@Bellabubble Sorry you're having such an anxious time, I was the same. I booked an early scan for about 10.5 weeks which gave me something to aim for and gave me a lot of reassurance when it came around. But ultimately I am still symptom spotting now (17 weeks) and nervous, and my friend who also had a MC before successful pregnancy told me she never felt not-anxious until the baby actually arrived. So do what you can, but be kind to yourself, anxiety and nerves are normal and you will get through it.

Bellabubble · 27/10/2020 14:36

Thank you ladies! It’s comforting to know that it isn’t just me! I threw myself into some online Christmas shopping research which has taken the edge off (or just transferred someof the anxiety to thinking of Christmas gifts lol!) i have a scan booked for Saturday next week, when I’ll be 8+4, but I originally had it booked for this Sat and pushed it back to have a better chance to see the heartbeat etc. Definitely kicking myself now lol! Luckily when I am back at school next week the week will fly by!

RosieJess91 · 27/10/2020 16:17

Just got to hear a very happy little heartbeat! Feel so relieved!
@skyblue20 glad your scan went well! 💗

ew1990 · 27/10/2020 18:30

@bellabubble you'll get lots of support here!

@skyblue20 aww lovely scan. I've got a growth scan booked for when I'm 28 weeks or I don't know how I cope. I'd have to book one of I didn't

@rosiejess glad you got to hear the heartbeat 💗💗

I've been feeling movement all day today. I keep getting kicks to my cervix too it's a very weird feeling .

bubblybon20 · 27/10/2020 18:50

Glad your scan went well @SkyBlue20 😀

@ew1990 those lie down kicks make me get goosebumps and feel weird! I don't know why, just feels completely odd doesn't it 🤣🤣

Anyone else got lower back ache 😫😫 I can't ever remember having back ache with the boys although adamant this one has turned again as I feel kicks further inside. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣

DanceM1 · 27/10/2020 20:15

@smilingdonkey can't wait to have a play around on that website!!

@skyBlue20 so glad you had a lovely scan!

@bubblybon20 sorry you've got a bad back. I can't say I have the same but keep getting terrible pains in my hips after sitting down. It hurts to put weight on my right leg (sometimes both) for a good 10 minutes or so after getting up 😬

Is anyone else in a tier 3 area? How do you feel about going out and about? We went out for a meal tonight but I feel almost guilty like ive put myself (baby) at risk. Its silly really when I'm so exposed at work to lots of people but I think because it wasn't essential ive gone into worry mode!

Pugprincess · 28/10/2020 01:25

Another late one from me 😅🙈

@SkyBlue20 huge congratulations on your scan! ❤️ Glad to hear everything is all good with her xx

I checked my names on the website @Smilingdonkey posted. Alfie is in 15th place so Yh popular but I still love it, was more popular back in 2009 though, only half as popular now. Iris is in 81st and not so many but has gone up over recent years to last year being the most so it’s gaining.

I’ve felt more flutters today at least 3 noticeable lots. Sometimes I feel odd kick type twinges in the area where flutters are but I can’t be sure if that’s baby or muscle at the moment as I get muscle twitches all over tummy and round sides/back.

Smilingdonkey · 28/10/2020 07:54

In my experience popular names are usually popular because they are lovely! 🥰 Nothing wrong with a popular name! Our choice for a boy would have been William which is really common! Xx

Smilingdonkey · 28/10/2020 08:01

Anyone else having period like cramps and backache? I'm 21 +3 today. I'm worried because this is the exact point I had firboid degeneration with my DD and I think it started like this 😩 xx

Workingmama1 · 28/10/2020 08:55

Urgh I had a whole message written out and accidentally pressed the back button!

So pleased your scan went well @SkyBlue20, and that your husband could be there, even if he missed the beginning!

@RosieJess91 lovely you got to hear the heartbeat!

@Poppy10121 seems like they are just a bit disorganised around the country! Im booked in now for two weeks when I'll be 18+4 (they do them at 18 weeks here for some reason). I asked the midwife if they listen to the heartbeat and she said not normally but we might be able to see of we can get a sneak peak!

@bubblybon20 and @Smilingdonkey I've had on off cramps and back ache for the last few weeks, so far have put it down to growing and stretching. My sciatic pain has got considerably worse though so considering asking for a physio referral but not sure what services are offered at the moment.

@Pugprincess Alfie was on my list for a bit (and my grandad was Alf) but for some reason I'm not so sure now, its a potential middle name for a boy I think for us.

Workingmama1 · 28/10/2020 08:56

Also just finished my pregnancy yoga for the day, I've forced myself to do it every morning this week and it's really helped with my mood and anxiety (at least for a bit!) Hoping I can keep it up!

Poppy10121 · 28/10/2020 09:50

@bubblybon20 and @Smilingdonkey I've had on-off lower backache for a few weeks, it did seem to improve using the pregnancy pillow to support my leg when side-sleeping although this morning I woke up at 5am with hip pain instead! I've also had a lot of cramps/aches, I spoke to the midwife about it yesterday and she said that unless it's worse than period pain or there's any bleeding, its just growing pains.

MRJ86 · 28/10/2020 11:13

Hi All!
I'm 5+4 at the mo - so still early days. My symptoms definitely come and go but the tiredness has been pretty constant this last week!
I was just wondering, my booking appointment isn't for a few weeks, but exactly what do they go through with you? I'm booked in for 8+4 for a face to face one at a local community hospital.
Thanks in advanced - I hope everyone is doing ok! X

Starfish762 · 28/10/2020 13:13

@Dipsy77 congrats on the scan, love the announcement pic - the joys of an active toddler :)

@SkyBlue20 @RosieJess91 yey to scan & heartbeat ❤️

@MRJ86 I just had mine this morning at home, it may be different in different areas but she was here an hour & went through my maternity notes filling them in, lots of questions about mine/DH’s health history, my previous pregnancy/birth, DD. Then she went through what appointments I get when, contact numbers etc, basically absolutely everything! And lots of opportunities to ask questions.

I have the same midwife I had with DD which is SO nice ❤️ They’re doing a new thing in my area called continuity of care, meaning I’ll always see her or one of another 2 people, and they’ll all be on call for my birth, so it means I should know the person delivering the baby. How lovely (if it happens!)

She did mention that she listens for the HB at the 16w apt (I know a few people have asked that, so thought I’d share).

There’s also a section in my notes to self refer to a physio if I have any back/hip issues. Not sure if different in different areas but those who’ve mentioned issues it’s worth having a good look through your notes in case there’s some support there.

SkyBlue20 · 28/10/2020 13:39

Afternoon!

Thanks everyone for your well wishes, it’s lovely to have that reassurance that baby girl is ok despite my lack of kicks so far. Hoping they’ll come on in the next few weeks 🤞🏼 I think my next appointment is 2nd December now, which is with the midwife, so I’ll get to hear the heartbeat there (although there’s always a chance we’ll end up booking another private scan before that if my anxiety gets the better of me). December! It’s really not that far away and then March is so soon after that!

@rosiejess91 Glad you got to hear the heartbeat, how lovely!

@bubblybon20 My lower back has been killing me for weeks now, it’s awful. I make sure I have my pregnancy pillow carefully placed behind me whenever I’m seated and that seems to be helping a bit.

@DanceM1 We’re in tier three – I’m not not going out but am definitely going out a lot less. The numbers are huge in our area (500+ in 100,000) so I’m nervy to go out more than I need to really but also don’t want to completely stop and essentially go back into lockdown, so just balancing it a bit. Obviously, I’m always masked up and sanitising etc, too.

@Workingmama1 You’re so good doing your yoga every morning, I go through phases of doing a lot in a week and then nothing, it’s so sporadic. I’ve also been having physio for the last year or so on my knees, which got cancelled during lockdown and I was meant to carry on with the exercises at home but I’ve done them once this whole pregnancy and am beginning to feel it now, my knees ache when I’m lay in bed! Must get my backside in to gear and do it once a week at least (meant to be three times). I have no excuse at the moment other than it being boring 🙈

@MrsJ86 My booking appt was in person, they took bloods, did a urine sample, height and weight, asked a million and one questions to fill out the green book, and then I had a chance to ask questions, too. As Starfish says, there were a lot of questions about health history for both me, DH and our families, so worth asking your parents if there’s anything you should know (if you can) – my mum had pre-eclampsia when pregnant with me, for example, which means I’m on asprin and my dad’s diabetes means I need a glucose tolerance test.

@Starfish762 How lovely that you have the same midwife and that you have that continuity of care! I know a midwife at my hospital (she’s my DH friend’s gf) and she said she could possibly add me to her continuity of care but I’ve met her like twice so wasn’t sure about her knowing me quite as intimately as that at this point 😂 I haven’t been offered it otherwise though, but she is a different trust to my community midwife.

Workingmama1 · 28/10/2020 15:05

@SkyBlue20 I've only managed yoga for three days in a row so far!

Will probably need it more now as I've just had the call from nursery that my daughter has been in contact with someone with covid. Which means she is at home for the next two weeks self isolating and my husband can't come to my gender scan on Friday as he will have to look after her. I'm kicking myself as I was going to book it for today and then changed it to Friday!

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