Pregnant After MMC - Thread 2

[Sakura54]

New thread for those of us pregnant after MMC.

Lots of upcoming scans to be arranged. Here's our current list:

@JennyMY Wed 12th August 2pm
@Sakura54 Tues 18th August 3.40pm
@SmileyT Monday 7th September 9am
@DanceM1 Monday 24th August 2pm

@ew1990 oh.... funny you say that... I had a single small cyst picked up at my final scan last time (to make sure everything was back to normal)
Apparently it's common in pregnancy. she wasn't bothered by it and didn't ask me to go back. Said it would prob resolve on its own.
I've been googling a lot about ectopic 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄
Coz it keeps being all over as well as one sided and goes away it might not be. But if you go to early they may not be able to pick up anything on the scan so tell you to come back in a week or two.
Gonna hang fire and see how I go. No EPU near me by the looks of it. A&E it would have to be 😐

@Wishful30 I'm sorry for your loss its heartbreaking. The scan I had was private and they have offered me a free one next Wednesday to hopefully see the heartbeat. I haven't contacted my gp or a midwife yet I'm not sure why. The tablets didn't work for me last time it just started naturally when I would have been 16 weeks and when I had the tablets again to move remaining tissue it took a bunch more weeks for that to happen. Do you think you'll book a private scan soon? Honestly I never thought I'd feel this way but it looks like most do after a loss, it helps a little to talk about it i think. Fingers crossed for you xx

@bubblybon20 whens your scan? Hopefully that will calm your nerves a little xx

@Nep2020 that's so hard... 😔 so sorry it took so long for you!

After my last experience, yes. If I make it to 6weeks I'm booking a scan for the end of 7weeks.
I'd rather just know, and deal with it if I need to.
And knowing me I'll get a 10week one too, or sooner if I decide somethings up.

I'll be surprised if I make to the weekend at this rate tho 🙄
I'm not even sad at the mo. Just fed up coz my body can't decide what the hell is going on.

@wishfulthinking yeah I've got 2 on each ovary. I Had one with my DD to and it had gone when I had my 12 week scan. They just said they will keep an eye on them but there quite common apparently from the ovary you ovulated from.

I'm really crossing my fingers for you x

Welcome to the new ladies. I'm sorry for your losses. I think it is totally normal to be super anxious - lots of us (I may say all of us?!) have been/are too - it's so hard to relax. This thread is great and full of support. I find the other pregnancy threads a bit too excitable - I'm just trying to quietly celebrate each little milestone at the moment 😊 I'm 11 weeks on Sunday and saw a healthy baby in a scan last week at 10 weeks 🤞

Has anyone told work yet? I need to email tomorrow (we are on summer holidays) and I'm dreading it. I would wait but I don't know if they need to do extra covid risk assessments or anything 🤷

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@bubblybon20 yeah the last private scan I had it was nice but the sonographer didn't give me all the details so it was nice and good to confirm that my ovulation pain was correct and not in my head 😂

@Nep2020 hi 👋 brown spotting could definitely be nothing, ahh getting to 12weeks and then taking so long must've been tough, glad you have a follow up scan booked to give you peace of mind x

@Furbabymum15 sorry for your losses... good luck in this new pregnancy x

@Workingmama1 thanks and yeah I'm going to have another scan just before the 12week, I'll be going alone and want to be as confident as possible it's good news. Yay to another milestone x

@Smilingdonkey i was supposed to be telling my manager today (first time we'll be f2f since Feb), but feeling super anxious so OH has suggested I put it off. Are you a teacher? I think that they are having to do risk assessments for everybody before your return but normally comes out with 'try to keep to social distancing rules and wash hands regularly' but I guess it will depend on the school. Hope it goes well ☺️

Morning ladies.
so, the top test is Monday morning. The middle test is last night. They're both clear blue tests.
The bottom test is this morning and that's a cheap Asda one (even tho it looks the same) the same one that gave me a shiny white test the day before 🙄
I guess there's nothing I can do and no point keep paying for tests. Just wait it out 🤷🏻‍♀️ AF will be here sooner or later 😔
AF was due Tuesday.

@Wishful30 I'm so sorry this has happened 😥 sending you lots of love x

Hello to new ladies @Nep2020 and @furbabymum15, hope this is the lucky time for you both 💖

@wishful30 I’m so sorry you’re going through this 🙁 sending big hugs xxx

@smilingdonkey I ended up telling my boss yesterday because I was feeling really emotional and tired and struggling. They were really kind over the MMC and I said I don’t want to talk about it this time I just want them to know why I’m probably shit at my job right now!

Yesterday was my 6 week milestone so contacted the midwives about booking in, I hope I get one as nice as @skyblue20!

I’m having a rough week, I’ve been more on edge than ever - woke up yesterday and today not feeling terrible so immediately thought the worst. Yesterday over the day the sore boobs came back and I felt nauseous later on, so hoping the same happens today. Does anyone else feel much worse in the evening than the day? I’m fine in the morning when I wake up but feeling sick and ready for bed by 9pm 😞 I hope I just feel ok now because I’ve slept for 10 hours!

Last night I started getting these weird little pains on my right side, very ,very low down, I'd say just above my pelvis really. I've got lots of weird little pains everywhere, but these stand out, they come in waves, but almost constantly, I'd say every 2 seconds when they're there. It's not painful, just there, feels like a pencil just prodding me in the same place over and over.
As soon as I move from that position, they go away. Only there when I'm sat almost straight or lying on my back.
I assumed as they disappeared, it was nothing to worry about and they'd be gone by the morning. But they're back. Still the same, just little prods, disappear when I move.
Anyone had this before?
Not sure if it's something to do with morning sickness, as that has kicked in like you wouldn't believe this morning!

@ew1990 @SmileyT Aw you guys were tiny babies. DS was 4 weeks early and 5 lb 4oz. I’m worried it’s going to happen again, which would mean another EMCS. He was never going to be big anyway, estimated to be 6lb something. They don’t ask for the father’s height/size. Surely they need to know in order to estimate it better lol!?

Congrats new ladies! I remember you congratulating me when this thread was first made. Glad you’ve joined us so soon @Furbabymum15

@Poppy10121 Yes that’s normal. I feel ok until late afternoon where the nausea and struggling to eat happens so it’s more evening sickness than morning sickness lol. My nausea never got too bad this time and I’ve only vomited twice so far! Came close many other times though but this is nothing compared to my previous pregnancies. I’m hoping it will taper off completely now I’m nearing the second trimester.

I think it’s the end of the crazy weather now. I don’t mind it too much as it’s only temporary and usually I’m permanently cold, but I’ve been sleeping on the bloody sofa some nights as my room at my parents is the loft conversion which is like a sauna. Terrible sleep! Going home today though.

Welcome to the new ladies that have joined us and congratulations!

@wishful30 I'm so sorry you're going through this and really hope you are OK... it must be really difficult for you.

@jennyMY congratulations on the twins!! How exciting!! And lovely pictures too 💕

@Smilingdonkey I haven't told work yet but will before we go back in September. My 12 week scan is before that so I will wait and see if that goes well first 🙏🤞

@Poppy10121 try not to worry about not feeling too terrible! It sounds like you still have symptoms but they are bound to be up and down so I'm sure you will be OK.

@RosieJess91 I had a lot of pains exactly like that earlier on. Probably still had them when I had my first scan at 8 weeks actually but all was OK. Ive actually taken to feeling some comfort in aches and pains actually because I didn't have any like that with my MMC but had them this time and have had 2 successful scans so far. Dont get me wrong, I still worry myself silly but the pains don't make me panic too much.

I hope everybody else is OK and that you have some nice plans for this weekend?!

@wishful30 so sorry. Hopefully your body will reset soon

@poppy10121 I told my manager this week too, I kind of had to after my panic of ectopic as I was at the hospital for three hours, but she is a friend too and was great with the MMC, and also wanted her to know I might not be at my best right now between symptoms and anxiety!

We've had a lovely morning, finally got my daughter photos taken that were meant to happen in March and then we all went to the farm, she loved it and just ran around shouting cows cows!

Still feeling crampy but its been a busy morning so might be that. Reckon an afternoon nap is on the cards, guilt free as I'm not working today!

@Sakura54 @poppy1012 I'm similar and often feel worse in the evening. It seems to hit my then and about 8am, just after breakfast. Just forced down some lunch but what I really wanted was a Greg's suasage roll 🤣

Afternoon everyone, happy Friday!

@SmileyT So glad everything was ok and you got a lovely scan 💕

Welcome @Nep2020 @Furbabymum15, congrats on your BFPs and so sorry for your losses 💕

@Workingmama1 Yay to the six week milestone! Sounds like you've had a lovely day and you've also really made me want a Greggs sausage roll (or two) - if I had the time I'd be off out to get one, alas I have a call soon 😒

@bubblybon20 11+4! So close to that 12 week milestone, so exciting!

@Smilingdonkey Agreed in that I find other pregnancy threads too excitable. It's sad that we don't feel we can be that excited but hopefully once we're all past 12 weeks, we'll be able to relax and enjoy it a bit more (though I have no doubt we'll all always be on edge).

@Wishful30 Sending love - we're all here for you xx

@Poppy10121 My symptoms have been reduced the last few days, too - it's making me really anxious. My midwife said if you still have any symptoms at all then they wouldn't worry too much compared to if all of your symptoms that you have previously had just dropped away. I'm the opposite, I feel worst in the mornings and by the evening I'm actually able to eat a healthy meal, not just the carbs I've been mainlining all through the day.

Although I'm sitting here feeling quite ill now, I've felt a lot better the last couple of days and it's making me so anxious. I have my scan on Sunday but not until 6pm so this is going to sit with me all weekend, I think. I just can't seem to put my logical head on and tell myself I don't feel well so that's probably a sign that all is ok, I just keep defaulting to the worst and imagining being told bad news at the scan - it's like my brain can't fathom anything else after last time, even though I had good news last week. I almost feel like that good news was just to set me up for an even bigger fall this time. Clearly, my brain and I are not getting on and it keeps catastrophising. Doesn't help that I have a quiet weekend ahead so lots of time to ruminate plus every morning my husband is like 'how are you feeling?' and my mum messages to see how I am - I know they mean well but I also feel almost a pressure to feel ill as they clearly want to know in order to be able to guess how baby is. I don't know, my brain is in overdrive, I'm aware of that, I just can't help it 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is quite reassuring... though the odds were very reassuring last time, too. Surely I can't be against the odds again though 🙏🏼

Afternoon ladies,
Really appreciate all you support. 🥰

I'm doing ok. It's really sad, but I don't get excited when I see a positive test as just assume it will end within a couple of weeks.
Especially with all the cramping and spotting. 🙄
Just called the Dr and spoke to the receptionist to see where my referral letter is.
It was sent on 21st July... so wait to hear from them 😐 🤦🏻‍♀️

In the meantime I'm hoping af hurries up. I'm bored of waiting for the obvious and if quite like to have a drink tomorrow with my f* it attitude 🙃
Soon as that gets going and can start a fresh at least.

Booked a few swim sessions at the gym and starting my 'healthier me' journey, as I am quite chunky at the mo.

Going to keep following this post if you don't mind. Love to see how you're all getting on.
Who knows, might be back in a month 🤪

I have been feeling sick all day, it's awful. I hope this isn't going to be the same as with my son, I had HG with him, ended up on IV twice as I wasn't keeping anything down and I was on anti-sickness tablets from 8 weeks. I'm only 6.3 weeks at the moment, don't know how well I'd cope if I had it again. 😫
Taking it as a positive sign, because I didn't have any morning sickness with my MMC, and I technically lost that at 4.5 weeks, my body just didn't know. So that'd explain why I have it now and didn't then!
Thank you @DanceM1for putting my mind at ease! The little prods have completely gone now. Very strange! :)

Hi ladies and thank you for the welcome.
Let's hope we all have happy and healthy pregnancies.
I read somewhere on this thread about progesterone pessaries.... Which brand do you any of you use and has it helped anyone. My last mmc got to 10 +3 I'm wondering would I benefit from the pessaries x

Thank you all for the reassurance, I am feeling ropey again now, so hopefully that’s a good sign! Can’t handle the smell of husbands glass of wine either 🤢

@SkyBlue20 I’m sorry you’re feeling so anxious, I totally get it, also always imagining the worst case scenario. I’m trying to train my thoughts a bit by catching those negative ones and replacing with a positive mantra. It’s hard work though, they keep sneaking back in. I really hope your scan on Sunday gives you some of the reassurance you need 🙏🏻

@Furbabymum15 my GP prescribed me the pessaries they are called Cyclogest, 400mg progesterone morning and night. He didn’t seem to know much about them apart from a study by Miscarriage Association that they might help 🤷🏻‍♀️ I said as long as there’s no risk associated, I’ll give anything a try to help this one stick. I had some early bleeding with my MMC pregnancy and progesterone is thought to possibly help prevent that.

@wishfulthinking so sorry this had happened.

How's everyone doing? Any bloat I had has gone and my bellys totally flat. My hips ache though. Must be stretching. But my hips never went back after having DD they are defiantly wider.

Back to work for me tomorrow after 4 weeks off 🙈

Hello everyone. I’ve been on a ttc after mc thread but don’t want to keep discussing pregnancy anxieties on there for fear if upsetting ladies still waiting on their BFP. Can I join you please?

A bit about me-tried for 5 years, nothing, lockdown, boom pregnant, a lot of dark brown spotting, got heavy, painful and red, lost baby by 8 weeks, baby stopped by 6+4 roughly. Preg again straight away no AF between. Roughly 4+6 today (cb digital said 2-3 weeks yesterday). Had some light brown in my discharge last few days so naturally worrying. Trying to keep positive and taking things easy/resting lots. Lots of other symptoms but not sick. Want to do another cb tomorrow morning when I think I’m 5 weeks to see if I can get the 3+ weeks on it. X

Afternoon all!

@Wishful30 How’re you getting on? Thinking of you xx

@RosieJess91 hope the nausea has worn off (but not completely!)

Thank you, @Poppy10121 💕

Welcome @Pugprincess, so sorry for your loss and so pleased you can join us now.

I’m still feeling overly anxious, really struggled last night. Today I’m thinking my symptoms are just shifting as I don’t feel as nauseous and my boobs aren’t as sore but I have an exhaustion I’ve never known before (though that could be as I didn’t have a great night’s sleep) and I keep almost crying. I think the crying might be partly anxiety but I also nearly cried before because I just want the house to be clean but I don’t have the energy to do it. My husband is about to start doing it but then I feel bad if I’m just lying on the couch. I also REALLY want some supernoodles but I can’t remember the last time I even ate those so there definitely aren’t any in the cupboard! This is a rollercoaster.

@SkyBlue20 your emotions sound like a pregnancy symptom... your post has made me smile, I hope that's not harsh of me. 🙃
Put your feet up and let hubby do some housework. Bubba is sapping your energy so you need to rest more and take care of yourself.
You'll start feeling more energetic soon enough, so relax whilst your body is telling you to xxx

I'm ok thanks. Have woken up to more of a light af now. So hoping things will be back to normal soon and I'll start peeing on the old ovulation sticks again 🤪
Think I might crack open that bottle of wine tonight that I put in the fridge last weekend.
Unfortunately I'm an old hat at chemical pregnancies, so just keep smiling and carry on. Nothing I can do about it until I see a specialist 🤷🏻‍♀️ xxx

@Poppy10121 I can completely understand trying to catch yourself when the negative thoughts/anxiety creep in. I feel like I'm in a constant battle to try not to be too anxious (I know that's no good for me or baby and gives me a dodgy tummy!), catching those negative thoughts, trying to remain positive but tempering that a little as I don't want to be too positive and excited just in case it doesn't work out. I don't think I've got the balance right yet.

I said to my husband earlier I don't feel as sick and his response was good (he just doesn't want me to feel rubbish) but I was like no it's not good, I want to feel sick!

Good luck for work tomorrow @ew1990!

Welcome @Pugprincess, feel free to share your worries and anxieties here! Pregnancy after loss is a while new ball game. Hopefully the spotting is just normal discharge, but i understand it must be worrying. Also don't stress too much about the CB weeks, if you are just a few days out you might not see 3+ tomorrow.

Don't feel bad for resting if that is what your body is telling you to do @SkyBlue20, just one more day and you will hopefully be seeing your little bean dancing around on a screen!

@skyblue20 I feel you. Spend All day pinching my nipples to see if they are sore. 😂😂

Theyve not been the last couple of days but I keep telling myself all my symptoms have gone before and everything was ok at the scan. And then thay came back after a few days.

Good luck for your scan tomorrow ❤