@Knotemma i really want to see that comet now, thank you! I'm on furlough so up for some late night stargazing but oh not so much as his work mega stressful atm... might have to drive into a field by myself but thats a bit terrifying! Re: noisy pub we called council and they said we have to do a 2 week noise diary. I said would it not be easier to send someone to see and try and have a chat informally to resolve it, but no apparently. I did say "so to be clear I can set up my massive speakers by the window and play at full volume out the window 24/7 for 2 weeks and be confident nothing would be done in that time?" Yes apparently.
@marmitecheesetoast I had shabby vagina pains in the early weeks with both my pregnancies so have concluded it means nothing.. Definitely ask for help from your partner, you definitely qualify for asking for help! Even more so because of what happened last time xx I'm sorry you're finding it so hard, it simply is so hard.. sometimes it helped me to think that my worrying about it would make zero difference to the outcome. I was 100% committed to total mental distraction in the early days, but then I don't have any kids to look after so could kind of do what I wanted. Also some days are worse than others xxx
@Avocuddles the heartburn sounds awful I'm so sorry! Can you not ask them to turn the music off at night??? I guess you were prob not feeling great and had enough on your plate :( xx
@footprintsintheslow no one needs r n b lololol
@Hagster I think some hospitals in England are allowing partners in now? Just not all. My MIL posted something to my Facebook wall about huntingdon (i think) maternity hospital and outed me, annoyingly! Can't see my hospital being forward thinking enough to take that step tbh, it doesn't help that most of their scan rooms are ex-cupboards. When I went for an internal scan to have my fibroids investigated the room was so small, my partner came in and they were like "oh, you'll have to sit here" gesturing to a seat at the bottom of the bed i.e. he had to look directly at my vagina at the same time as being able to see the screen! Obviously he's seen it before but in this context with the scan women there he felt really embarrassed and just didn't look at the screen instead looked at the wall the whole time! My friend who's a doctor immediately asked me which hospital I was at when I told her my news, and then when I told her there was a long pause, and then "oh..." haha!
Welcome @valeriesparx - I think a lot of us here went through the early weeks feeling absolutely doomed. I was miserable. I didn't enjoy it one bit, and didn't feel any sort of attachment to the "baby" (I couldn't even think of it that way) at all. I just had to binge watch trash tv and play computer games in order to zone out every waking second I wasn't working, and try and distract my mind from the negativity. It's too hard to hope... I really hope your scan goes well and gives you some reassurance. I had stabbing pains, right in my womb, early this pregnancy. It was really painful and disturbing and I was sure it was a bad sign. But it turned out it was just stretching pains combined with bad digestive problems (thats the conclusion i came to). I also had I think 5 or 6 bleeding incidents in the first trimester, and was absolutely convinced it was over, but it wasn't. It won't help you relax (because its impossible to relax) but please try to reassure yourself over symptom spotting in the early weeks, literally anything and everything goes in pregnancy and only heavy cramping/bleeding is a bad indicator xx