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Pregnant after Loss and Dreaming of Rainbows - 5

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Avocuddles · 16/07/2020 18:03

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Whiffle77 · 17/09/2020 13:12

Echo everything @tmc14 said! I completely understand why you feel disappointed but you will be home soon, and will have so many lovely newborn experiences once you are! It is unfair but try and focus in that, im sure it won't be long now. Try and get as much rest as you can whilst there. Pleased to hear he is doing a little better

Knotemma · 17/09/2020 13:27

@Anon20something glad to hear that things are progressing positively for Finn, even if he's not quite ready to be out of special care yet. I can't imagine how hard it is to have him here but not be able to take him home yet, especially with your past experience.

I'm currently in the labor ward, only 2 cm, so not being kept in, but contractions are coming think and fast and I'm almost totally effaced at least. Started at about quarter to five this morning, so probably a very long way to go, but it seems like the goblin will be here sooner rather than later. I have to admit, not having DH here has really thrown me, we were literally laughing in the car between contractions, then once I got here I had a bit of a panic. Doesn't help that I keep feeling sick and I don't have anything to throw up in 🙈. They're trying to get me in for my growth scan early, so that way I can go home and get some rest, otherwise we have to be back in 2 1/2 hours for that 🤷‍♀️

AnxiousLady1 · 17/09/2020 13:45

@Anon20something How terribly upsetting for you to still not be able to bring Finn home. Sounds like he is moving in the right direction so try to take solace from that. I echo what others have said in that you will get that newborn/new mum experience soon. I know @Littlegoth mentioned in her recent update that after spending 5 nights in hospital with baby, he was home now and it was like nothing had happened. You'll just have more of an excuse to catch up on extra cuddles. Xx

@Knotemma It's started then! Very exciting. Do keep us posted. Did you say that DH was back or was he meant to be away until Sat? I feel for you on the nausea. We'd first NCT class yesterday and when she mentioned the vomiting/diahorrea my DH looked a little horrified. I said to him, aside from the fact I was one that should be horrified (not him!) as it would be happening to me, we'd hopefully be at home during that whole period so I'd at least have comfort of own bathroom 🙈🙈🙈 That's if we end up having a spontaneous labour.

Anon20something · 17/09/2020 13:49

@tmc14 @Whiffle77 thank you ladies. You’re right, we will get there it’s just hard at the moment!

@Knotemma good luck!!

Littlegoth · 17/09/2020 16:17

@Anon20something it’s so hard when they are poorly. I’m planning on never thinking about the first few new mum days ever again as they were so full of worry. I can honestly say having baby home puts it to bed. I’m thinking of you and hope he feels better soon. Sending you such huge hugs xxx

Avocuddles · 17/09/2020 18:43

Hi ladies time for another birth announcement!

Baby India Mary was born this morning at 8.29am by c section. On Tuesday I was having more gallbladder issues but also seemed to be having fairly regular contractions, when the hospital checked me out I was 1cm dilated and they thought labour was established but after spending a night on the ward progress had stalled. Because I'd been in and out of hospital several times over the past few weeks and it looked unlikely that baby would be staying out for long the consultant suggested I have my waters broken and labour induced. Breaking the waters was very straightforward but the drip to induce me was not fun at all as for some reason my body decided to have a permanent very painful 'contraction' without any break. After a few hours the pain was so bad I was begging for an epidural which certainly helped though didn't make me feel 100% better. At this point is dishearteningly found out I was only 2cm dilated, but over the next hour we went from 2cm to 9! Unfortunately by the early hours of the morning I'd spend several hours stuck at the same stage and my cervix was getting stronger, not softer. By this stage the doctor could reach babies head and realised that she had turned back to back, they gave me a couple more hours on the drip in the hope that the cervix would ripen more and they'd be able to perform a forceps delivery but it was actually going in the opposite direction which left Caesarian as the safety option. The actual op was fine, I felt relaxed and in safe hands and am just so relieved that she's finally here. No sign of milk whatsoever so am about to have an attempt at expressing with a midwife, wish me luck!

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Whiffle77 · 17/09/2020 18:54

Ahhhh this thread is just too much at the minute, this has escalated so quickly!! Congratulations @Avocuddles I'm so happy for you! Sounds like you've had quite the journey, I hope your gallstones give you a bit of peace for awhile. Thank you for sharing your story, good luck with the expressing

And good luck @Knotemma! Hope your DH can visit soon

AnxiousLady1 · 17/09/2020 20:40

@avocuddles Oh my goodness she is gorgeous!!! She looks pleased as punch in that pic. Proper content 😂 Sounds like you had a bit of a run with the labour but main thing is she is here safely with you now. LOVE the name btw. Enjoy all the cuddles and keep us posted.

We'll have to get the post grad group set up. So many recent graduates!!!

didslysquiddlydoo · 17/09/2020 20:49

Ahhhh congratulations @Avocuddles can't believe these little miracles are coming thick and fast now!!! 🥰🥰🥰

SunStruck · 17/09/2020 21:07

Congratulations @Avocuddles and @Littlegoth !!! I can't believe how this thread has evolved quickly!!! 😅 @Avocuddles she is so beautiful! God I can't believe we were due date twins and I don't feel a thing happening yet 🤣🤣🤣 so happy for you both and that all is well with mummies and babies.

@Knotemma how exciting, good luck, keep us updated!

Yes definitely set up a graduate thread... will be amazing to join that one later 🥰

footprintsintheslow · 17/09/2020 21:38

@Avocuddles it's so wonderful to see you with your baby. Huge huge congratulations, and have faith that your milk will come and colostrum is all that's needed for days yet.
Enjoy these special times.

Knotemma · 18/09/2020 05:59

@AnxiousLady1 DH got home Wednesday afternoon luckily, after some arguing with work.

@Avocuddles congratulations on the birth of India Mary, she's beautiful!

I've got a story of my own to tell guys! I got home from the labor ward after the assessment at about half 2 and contractions had really ramped up, but I thought I was being a bit daft. I'd been given some paracetamol at half 12 which I promptly threw up, so was managing with my tens machine and hypnobirthing breathing. I tried a bath but couldn't deal with being on my back, so ended up laboring on the loo. At half 4 my waters broke explosively and contractions really changed, I was struggling and pau said to come back in to be reassessed. However I couldn't get off the bathroom floor. At this point I was laboring on my knees using the side of the bath and every time I tried to get up I was floored by another contraction. I was definitely loosing control and rang labor ward back to be told... "You'll have to get up, otherwise how are you going to get here?" All very no nonsense, which I think I needee. I was then given the alternative to call an ambulance. After another 5 minutes of struggling I told DH, who was amazing and calm considering what was going on, that he had to ring me an ambulance... At this stage our whole street must have known I was in labor!!!
Ambulance arrived and I think that they both thought I was a daft first time mum, but at this point I was feeling really pushy. It took a good bit of gas and air to get me down the stairs and into the ambulance and we were off. Ten minutes into the 20 minute journey I announced I needed to push NOW.... They pulled over and after 2 pushes Samuel Ian was born, at 17:40pm, on the roadside while daddy was following us in the car 😂🙈. Luckily we are both really good he's a bit sicky from not getting a good squeeze in the way out (he came all in one push, but of a rude entry to the world and the ambulance team only just caught him!). Amazingly we actually managed quite a lot of our birth plan, labor at home, minimal meds and intervention, skin to skin, even delayed chord clamping! I can't get over how lucky I am to have our gorgeous boy!
We'll definitely have a story to tell on his 18th birthday! Because of the time of evening we've been kept in overnight, but luckily DH was allowed into the hospital and had about 5 hours with us before he had to go home. Honestly as crazy as it was we've been amazingly lucky, as the most of the north east goes back into lockdown today and the hospital are going back to really tight restrictions.

I hope you're all doing well and got more sleep than I have, and I hope I haven't scared anyone! Other than my transition, whee I got a bit out of control it was actually a lovely labor...even the bit where he was born in a layby!... Can't quite believe we're finally here.

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MOGMOGMOG85 · 18/09/2020 06:01

@Avocuddles India Mary is beautiful!!! Congratulations!!! But omg that labour sounds traumatic! Glad it is all over for you with a happy ending xxxx

@Littlegoth congratulations too!

@Anon20something do keep us up to date, I'm hoping that Finn won't be in for too much longer xxx

@Rachael321 hope you are faring a bit better too - your situation sounds very difficult at the moment.

@Knotemma get in - you're in labour!!! Who knows what's happened by now but good luck and I can't wait to see an update from you! xxx

Wow so much going on! Who's going to be left by December!!! Also I notice that the thread is running out - does anyone know how to make a new one? Suspect Avocuddles is a bit busy now! xxx

Knotemma · 18/09/2020 06:13

@MOGMOGMOG85 it looks like we cross-posted... He's here! X

Treaclepie19 · 18/09/2020 06:14

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4026705-Pregnant-after-Loss-and-Dreaming-of-Rainbows-6?watched=1 New thread!

Congratulations @Avocuddles and @knotemma!! 😁

footprintsintheslow · 18/09/2020 06:42

@Knotemma I'm literally crying reading your story. How wonderful I am so so thrilled!!!

@Treaclepie19 thanks for the new thread.

AnxiousLady1 · 18/09/2020 07:34

@Knotemma OMG that story is amazing!! 😂😂😂 I can't believe how quick he arrived considering everyone tells you the first labour can take days! I'd a feeling you were having a boy. Don't ask me why but it's been in my head 😂 Samuel is a beautiful name. Enjoy all the cuddles and hope to join you soon on the post grad thread . Xxx

Knotemma · 18/09/2020 07:37

@AnxiousLady1 thank you so much! The midwife literally said to me... It could be a couple of days when she discharged me... I don't do things by halfs 🤷‍♀️😂

Anon20something · 18/09/2020 07:47

@Knotemma congratulations! We’re north east based too and the lockdown restrictions are getting me so anxious! Hoping I get my boy out of SCBU soon and this gets lifted so people can finally meet him!

He’s doing really well today, we’re hoping they can remove the drain and he can come back up with me or round to just a normal cot on SCBU! Fingers crossed xx

Whiffle77 · 18/09/2020 07:51

@Knotemma so many congratulations, what an epic story!! So pleased he is here safe and thank god not a a day or two earlier with your DH away! How lovely. I hope you get to go home together very soon!!

Knotemma · 18/09/2020 08:42

@Anon20something everything crossed, they've been brilliant at Durham and hopefully these new restrictions don't last too long, I've seen that they're going to review weekly?

Thanks @Whiffle77, couldn't agree more on the luck of waiting until DH was home!

MOGMOGMOG85 · 18/09/2020 17:52

Wow @Knotemma amazing! One push - you warrior! If and when you have time I'd love to know more about transition as I am sure I'm going to absolutely flip out at that time... Welcome to the world Samuel, he looks beautiful :)

Up to 972 messages now so I made a new thread - I think - I don't know what I'm doing. If this link works then this is it!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4027273-Pregnant-after-Loss-and-Dreaming-of-Rainbows-6?watched=1

@Rachael321 Baby boy has arrived
@SammiLou2312 Baby girl has arrived
@Hoping2020 Baby has arrived
@Knotemma 39wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@LilMrsS 31wks (due 24/09/20)⁣
@didslysquiddlydoo 37wks (26/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@TunnocksTcake 38 wks (due 26/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@avocuddles 37wks (due 27/09/20)⁣ GIRL
@Sunflower1608 32wks with twins (due 28/09/20)⁣ GIRL & BOY
@SunStruck 36wks (due 28/09/20)⁣⁣
@Scout20 31wks due 29/09/20)⁣
@Littlegoth (csection booked 09/09/20) BOY baby boy has arrived
@HighHopes20 25wks (due 03/10/20)⁣⁣
@Treaclepie19 37wks (due 07/10/20)⁣⁣ GIRL
@tmc14 36wks (due 11/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@Hagster 33wks (due 12/10/20)⁣⁣ SURPRISE
@DressingGown87 18wks (due 20/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@rachelrainbow 23wks (due 28/10/20)⁣
@teaandtantrums90 13wks (due 05/11/20)⁣
@AnxiousLady1 32wks (due 07/11/20)⁣ BOY
@Shefliesonherownwings 31wks (due 09/11/20)⁣ BOY
@MrsG3 28wks (due 16/11/20) GIRL
@MysteriousSheep 19wks (due 21/11/20)
@Whiffle77 29wks (due 02/12/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@MOGMOGMOG85 29wks (due 05/12/20) BOY
@footprintsintheslow 23 wks (due 10/01/21)
@turquoisebaby* 19 weeks (due 24/01/21)BOY

AnxiousLady1 · 18/09/2020 18:41

@MOGMOGMOG85 - @Treaclepie19 also made a thread 6 this morning which has had some traffic today. So we may have two now! 😂 Maybe we should rename your one and make that the official post grad thread??? As that hasn't been set up yet. That's if it can be renamed!! 😁

footprintsintheslow · 18/09/2020 18:58

I think you can request mumsnet to rename a thread.

MOGMOGMOG85 · 18/09/2020 19:57

Oh no! I 'll see what I can do about my decoy thread!!! Don't post in it or we'll lose information and cross post! Sorry! Baby brain?

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