Welcome @Sazzy312 and congratulations on getting further than you have before! I'll just reiterate what others said in that you don't need a certain number of "points" for your losses here, everyone is welcome. I only had one early loss, but after struggling with my fertility for 2 years it was very hard for me. Trying to conceive and failing is in itself a trauma when it takes longer than "normal". I'm well aware that there are people here who have had to endure far worse than me but we can all be kind and supportive to each other, and we all understand what loss feels like xx
@marmitecheesetoast and @hypernova welcome, and we've all been through the early stages of pregnancy and remember how painfully slowly time passes! @hypernova I tortured myself every day over symptoms, and was regularly on here worrying and stressing about it. You'll quickly realise from other peoples stories that everyone is different, every pregnancy is different, and there is no way to look at symptoms and "know" what the outcome is going to be. I had no soreness of breasts at all with this pregnancy where I had had cripplingly painful breasts with my loss, and this worried me a lot at the time. Apart from nausea I had pretty much nothing this time, and there are plenty of people who don't even get the nausea. Even though I was nauseous, every moment of every day I wondered if I was nauseous enough, and because it tended to fluctuate it meant I was either miserable because I was so nauseous or miserable because I wasn't very nauseous... its a minefield and we all know what its like to be paranoid and waiting. The best you can do in the early days is just try to zone out from it, disconnect, and give yourself permission to do anything that helps you forget. I spent hours and hours playing a computer game (FF7 remake) and found that it was really helpful in making me totally forget I was pregnant whilst I was playing. Different things might work for different people, playing piano, or just watching trash tv (I also watched a lot of Real Housewives of Beverly Hills). Its a shame not to enjoy your pregnancy but in reality I don't think I could have relaxed in those early days and so that was my coping mechanism xxx
@marmitecheesetoast I'm so sorry for your loss, that must have been so awful for you. We're all here for you if you're having a bad day. There are many here who experienced stillbirths and late losses, and we all know what its like to approach a milestone in your pregnancy where something bad happened previously xx
@Rachael321 sorry you're feeling rubbish! I had no idea that contractions etc started so early! Good to know as otherwise I might have freaked out totally when I get there. I've never been in the last stages of pregnancy but am trying to view it as natures way of making childbirth actually seem favourable to you rather than carrying on heavily pregnant. Probably not much use to you now though! Is there anything you can do to feel temporarily comfortable, like taking baths? xx
I'm having a bit of a nightmare at the moment, I'm waiting on my OH to sort out some of his crap so that I can run a load of stuff to the charity shop and start deep cleaning the house to get the photographer round for selling the house, but he's procrastinating majorly, majorly stressed at work and also trying to do job applications. Then yesterday the pub next door to us started playing incredibly loud music outside our window in the daytime. It is so loud even with the window closed that I can't read, think, or even watch tv or even listen to my own music (we have mega speakers but no matter how loud I set them it still sounds like a sound clash not to mention deafening). Its basically like having a band in my living room. They are not licensed to do this, as their license strictly says they can only do outside music on festival days, 3 times a year. On festival days it is very loud but I don't mind as its part of the local area and its nice to be in the fray of things, but I phoned them yesterday and they said they're going to do it all day every weekend day and refused to change it. This just as we're putting our house on the market, can you imagine if someone came to view??? The pub can be loud from our living room at night, but not usually until around 10pm when we're pretty much heading to bed (our bedrooms are sheltered on the other side and very quiet). The idea that I won't be able to enjoy anything in my own house all day every weekend is torturing me. Anyway we will complain to the council of course but I'm worried about how long this will take :( I've downloaded a decibel thingy today and am going to test it. It just seems to have pushed me over the edge between coping with uncertainty in my job and trying to move house, and not coping.
Updating my weeks also, as I am now halfway through!
@Bellsx 35wks (due 20/08/20)
@Rachael321 35wks (due 20/08/20) SURPRISE
@Hoping2020 31wks (due 13/09/20)
@SammiLou2312 31wks (due 17/09/20) GIRL
@Knotemma 30wks (due 23/09/20) SURPRISE
@LilMrsS 28wks (due 24/09/20)
@didslysquiddlydoo 30wks (26/09/20) GIRL
@TunnocksTcake 28wks (due 26/09/20) GIRL
@avocuddles 29wks (due 27/09/20) GIRL
@Sunflower1608 28wks with twins (due 28/09/20) GIRL & BOY
@SunStruck 27wks (due 28/09/20)
@Scout20 26wks (due 29/09/20)
@Littlegoth 29wks (due 30/09/20) BOY
@HighHopes20 25wks (due 03/10/20)
@Treaclepie19 28wks (due 07/10/20) GIRL
@tmc14 27wks (due 11/10/20) GIRL
@Hagster 26wks (due 12/10/20) SURPRISE
@DressingGown87 18wks (due 20/10/20) GIRL
@rachelrainbow 23wks (due 28/10/20)
@teaandtantrums90 13wks (due 05/11/20)
@AnxiousLady1 23wks (due 07/11/20) BOY
@Shefliesonherownwings 22wks (due 09/11/20) BOY
@MrsG3 18wks (due 16/11/20) GIRL
@MysteriousSheep 19wks (due 21/11/20)
@Whiffle77 20wks (due 02/12/20) SURPRISE
@MOGMOGMOG85 20wks (due 05/12/20)
@footprintsintheslow 14 wks (due 10/01/21)
@turquoisebaby 12 weeks (due 24/01/2021)